I had an e mail the other day, from a male friend who wanted my opinion on why he didn't get many replies from his mails he had been sending.
So, I asked him to send me a typical e mail and I'd look at it for him,
At first I couldn't see why he didn't get many responces from it, as it was very well put together, good spelling, polite and very respectful. So I asked him, "Are all the mails similar to this one?"
His answer explained everything.
"That IS the mail I send, I wrote it in word, and I paste it to my mails I send."
So I explained to him that cut and paste e mails are not a good idea, mainly for the following reasons,
A Lady can see immediately that it is what it is, cut and paste, why?.. because it does not have her name on it, it starts with HI. He says in his mail that he likes her profile, but saying he likes it isn't enough, WHAT about her profile would have attracted her attention far more, and proves that he has read it.
I told him to remember that a lot of ladies have taken time and care to compile their profile, to make sure that she meets someone compatible with her likes and dislikes and lifestyle, so not mentioning anything about her profile, means that you have not taken the time to read it so she is just another face you have just sent a cut and paste mail to, and she will see straight through that and will most likely not reply.
He agreed, but said he doesn't always have time, so my answer to that was, if you are serious in meeting someone that is compatible to you, then you must make time. The search engine is there to find the ladies in the area youd like them to be from, as well as a detailed search of profession, lifestyle etc.
Cut and paste e mails are impersonal, they do not show that you are interested in them as an individual.
I had many cut and paste e mails myself when I was looking, and I didn't reply to any of them because of the above reasons.
Whether my freind will take my advice or not is up to him and of course that's his choice, because he asked my opinion and I gave it as just that, an opinion, not an instruction, some ladies may have a different opinion to mine, and thats fine too, we are all entitled to them no matter how different they may be.
I wish my friend good luck in his new way of e mailing, if indeed he does heed to my opinion. 
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kywonder
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Oct 21 @ 2:26PM
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Or when you get the same email word for word, but different faces and names behind the email. Smells to high heaven and back of a scammer for sure. I hate those kinds of email.
I usually don't answer those that demand my private email address or yahoo IM be given to them. Like, wake up and smell the coffee! You ain't getting anything from me.
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imlost2
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Oct 21 @ 3:55PM
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I delete emails automatically if they look like they are from a scammer or if they start out, I loved your profile and your pictures etc. and then when I go to look at their profile there is nothing there. At least have the decency to fill out a profile telling things about yourself, interests, hobbies, etc. so I know even if you are the person I'd like to answer. I understand why many don't like pictures, but, if you expect them of me, you'd better have several, not just one, to prove who you are too, because there are so many scammers. If you can put one picture on here, you can put a few. We know all the tricks guys of the fakes and how to use the ignore or block button. tc Lost
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LilMissGiggles
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Oct 21 @ 4:26PM
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Yeah I really agree with you Charli....cut and paste for one is just so impersonnal and secondly it rings alarm bells because of the scammers  ....I tend to check the profile before I even open my mail now and if that and the mails screams scammer I report and delete and if I am not sure I try to wait a few days to see if the profile gets cancelled  .....I have replied to some and explain that I wont be handing out my contact details but if they wish to keep in contact here that is good for me but they dont usually reply so thats when I realise they were not really interested in me to begin with so its no loss for me  ....its seems such a shame sometimes though because many times I have thought I could be missing out on someone really special but you ust get fed up with the same ole same ole that you just dont have the heart to keep responding 
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IB4U
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Oct 21 @ 4:57PM
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Charli
To try to meet someone special is one thing but to just randomly copy and paste to many is a down right sin...I see many of these female scam artists try to do this also.
I can also see writing one letter in "Word" and copying it to the M/D e-mail but that would be to one individual that you are interested in....(I like spell check)LOL 
JMO
IB4U
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Kentuck
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Oct 21 @ 6:27PM
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Cut and Past is ok if you are describing your self. Such as the type of work you do, your education, and even your hobbies. However, each person has a different charactericts and interest. Just put it like this, the things about do not change very much but they are different for every person you meet.
Also remember, that sending letters to women is like sending resume to companies when looking for a job. You will be lucky to get a reply from 5% or less.
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ragtopcookie
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Oct 21 @ 6:44PM
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Ive been on this site a long time......met a few........still single.......but i really didnt join this site to find somebody.......i figured if i did...that would be a bonus.....what im here for is to blog......read blogs......and make comments where they need to be made......as far as this being a singles site......it might have been long ago....but since ive been here......ive only seen a few hook up.....and even a few of them didnt make it......but im ok with it......being single is not so bad......cookie
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KnittinKitten
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Oct 22 @ 2:46PM
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CHARLI:
It's always possible to cut and paste , being sure to add the necessary points that have been discussed. THEY ARE SOOOO IMPORTANT!
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Here is a copy of a reply message I received today....telling him politely that I did not see any compatibility and was, therefore not interested in corresponding.
(He, of course, had a personal email address which I, also, consider a no no.)
I was not exactly my nicest, but, first read his reply to me below....and then my answer. He ASKED for an honest woman...I'm an honest woman...
I don't have to "talk" to you to know that I am not interested because of what I READ!.
You are 22 years younger than I am...YOU may not care, but I DO>
You live in California....I live in Florida. You are not retired. You state that you are looking for someone much younger than I am. What am I...an afterthought in a Red Hat? The purpose of a profile is to say what you mean. Sorry.
Your profile is EXTREMELY incomplete....and for someone who claims to speak English and have a Graduate Degree, your spelling and sentence structure leaves much to be desired....for me. I am an Editor and it is extremely obvious to me. These are neither the profile nor message of a truly educated man.
Obviously you did not feel it necessary to describe yourself in as much detail as I would prefer, prior to making a decision to "talk" with you. You have only one opportunity to make a first impression on a lady...It's your choice how you wish to do it."
I was content to leave it be a polite "Thanks but no thanks", but since you felt you wanted to know more...I have now told you. There is no need to reply to this. My decision will not change. I am not interested. Please look elsewhere....perhaps after upgrading your profile, unless you want more of the same. You wanted honesty...I'm being honest!.
Sincerely,
Knittin kitten
Hey, sometimes the  makes me do things????
****** ORIGINAL MESSAGE ******
Hey
how are you doing today,am so glad to hear from you though your respond was not pleasing but i will take that as a way of life...but you really`vnt talked to me so you can judge me like that,i really want to know more about you even if it once Ok
hope to hear from you soon
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