Sorry...but due to unfortunate past circumstances I'm required to put a disclaimer on my blogs: Please this has nothing to do with any relationship I've been in....thank you!
Anyone notice lately how hard it is to find that special someone never mind keep the relationship going? I sure have.
I don’t have any deep awe inspiring answers as to why..just a few thoughts that filtered through my mindlessness right now.
Get ready for my opinions, they’re not engraved in stone and certainly don’t apply to all relationships.
It seems to me that relationships go through a metamorphosis that can be broken down in months.
The first 1-2, can be rough but still have the hot excitement of new love…the probing questions, the trust issues, finding out if your compatible or just lusting after one another….you know the stuff.
Then comes the 3-4 month…everyone’s letting their hair down, The partner that said they rarely smoke is a two pack a day person. The occasional drink borders if not alcoholism close to it. They’re not only paying child support but alimony which leaves them with not much more than cigarette and drink money and their sleeping on their friends couch…is that what they mean by a social household ? Hmmm…must look more into that.
5-6 months is the tie breaker..maybe with the wind blowing in the right direction it could last 7 months…it’s a stretch to see 8. Not that some relationships don’t past these marks, but the majority falter along this time line.
Now the question is why…I don’t have any real answers but figure it’s much like buying a new car, after awhile the shine isn’t as bright, the fresh smell of the interior now smells differently, the neighbors are no longer envious, the engine is broken in and the promised 27 miles per gallon now becomes 23 if your lucky. It gets old fast…the minute you drive it off the lot it automatically depreciates…much like relationships…they depreciate over time until someone steps up and says we need to move on…this isn’t working.
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summerbreeze916
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Oct 22 @ 6:13PM
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I like the comparison.......LOL. I wish a few of my relationships had ended in just eight months or so........... 
The time I have wasted! 
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butterfly943
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Oct 22 @ 6:14PM
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Hopefully we can learn that no matter how pretty or how much it cost..nothing stays new forever..and maybe it shouldn't...then you gotta really see it for what it is..not just the beauty.. 
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misschief
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Oct 22 @ 6:27PM
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The partner that said they rarely smoke is a two pack a day person. 
I've met one of those, but he classed himself as a non smoker. 
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lefthandedluckie
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Oct 22 @ 6:29PM
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Ahhhh, and then comes the other question...what else is not true?
Skepticism or.......the beginning of the end!
What things we will weave when we first try to deceive! I know I did not get that phrase right but, the gist is there!
I wish you well, scorpiogirl! 
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IB4U
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Oct 22 @ 6:33PM
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Scorpiogirl
Seems like you put a lot of insite into this blog.....Give and take is part of life untruthfulness is also part of that same life.....What about the part when you know in your heart that it's not going to work and you make yourself continue until it all really falls apart...
Hopefully we can learn that no matter how pretty or how much it cost..nothing stays new forever..and maybe it shouldn't...then you gotta really see it for what it is..not just the beauty..
Good stuff
Thank You
IB4U
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TroutFishing
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Oct 22 @ 6:46PM
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A relationship is a choice. And it lasts as long as we
allow that person to be as wonderful as the day we met them -
in spite of the fact that they are human and not some fake character
out of a movie.
If it is real - love takes time to build - it gets stroner not weaker
- at first it is only attraction.
If it is not real - it dies.
Love is a choice as well.
Do we love them, or only what they do for US?
 
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suthrn_belle
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Oct 22 @ 7:00PM
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If it is real - love takes time to build - it gets stroner not weaker
- at first it is only attraction.
If it is not real - it dies...{Quote}
The love I found online remains strong, is it infatuation? I don't think so, even tho we don't communicate, I still love him and always will.
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leprichaun_magic
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Oct 22 @ 7:06PM
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They do go thru a Metamorphosis , thats normal and natural ,, but it takes two to , make it grow..and stabilise ..:) 
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dallas1995
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Oct 22 @ 7:56PM
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love the disclaimer
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scorpiogirl36
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Oct 22 @ 8:00PM
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The disclaimer is to preserve my own sanity 
I write to write not necessarily about a specific someone or any one from my past. 
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sloriver
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Oct 22 @ 8:13PM
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You make it sound so hopeless. It really isn't. If you enter into a relationship without knowing enough about the person you will have it fail. People confuse infatuation with feelings more permanent. Infatuation is fleeting. If you can't tell the difference, take more time on the front end. Maybe think of any new person as being on trial for those eight months and then call it a relationship. If you find him dishonest in that first six weeks, RUN.
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scorpiogirl36
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Oct 22 @ 8:17PM
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If you find him dishonest in that first six weeks, RUN. I truly hope everyone reads this statement because it's 100% accurate!
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katydid438
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Oct 22 @ 8:32PM
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If you find him dishonest in that first six weeks, RUN. I truly hope everyone reads this statement because it's 100% accurate!
Absolutely....painful or not 
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Jacksonboy
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Oct 22 @ 8:43PM
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kywonder
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Oct 22 @ 9:16PM
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But relationships are something that can grow in value IF and only IF you are able to build on them. They become more valuable as time goes on. Cars on the other hand, are meant to be traded in for new ones.
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scorpiogirl36
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Oct 22 @ 9:26PM
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Cars on the other hand, are meant to be traded in for new ones. Unfortunately, we're living in an era where spouse's and significant others are now being traded on a regalur basis. I've been traded a couple of times.
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sweetxy
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Oct 22 @ 9:49PM
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I rather have a can that makes me feel safe and comfortable not pretty one is fine
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TallBlonde1
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Oct 22 @ 9:50PM
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Omg that's so funny. For a long time now when people ask me why I'm not married I've been saying "I don't like to buy them, only take 'em on test drives for a few years." I would like to find a keeper someday though, trading them in gets rough.
Good blog
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WouldntItBeGr8To
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Oct 22 @ 9:52PM
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It is all about what is on the inside...the inside never gets tarnished, never ever gets old.......it grows with love. If there is no seed planted, if there is no love growing, 6 weeks is too long 
Move on......love must be reciprocated, if not...search out where it will be otherwise we are destined for failure.
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scorpiogirl36
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Oct 22 @ 10:09PM
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Move on......love must be reciprocated, if not...search out where it will be otherwise we are destined for failure. How true.
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