Reach Out In The Darkness posted 10/26/2008 10:12:01 PM | 5 kudos what's this?     report abuse tagged: dates, people, self

Gary51hwd

There are some really nice people on here. I can't for the life of me figure out why some of you girls are single. I can see you have great minds, winning personalities, a cool sense of humor, etc....So why haven't you been snatched up by an equally deserving guy?
Maybe it's just the world that gets in the way. Work. Kids. Bills.
Maybe you get caught up in people's appearances. I know I do. The person for you may not be the real hottie you see and swoon for. It might be someone with more of an inner beauty.
Sometimes we hold others to a higher standard than we hold ourselves. I liken the search for a mate to groping around in a dark room. Anyone can manuever about in a well lit area, but total darkness is tough. You can't trust your eyes. Something that looks solid may be balsa wood or glass. Something that looks like it's valuable may be trash. You have to use "other" senses to tell what's really going on.
The bread looked and smelled good. I took a much closer look. It was moldy and rotten on the bottom. I almost ate it.
People are the same way. I'm not saying find an ugly person and they'll be ok. I'm saying you just don't know who it might be that compliments you. It really is something you have to work at. Not fate. Fate is for lazy people, resigned to letting chance or the powers that be do your homework. You may have to actually get out there and sweat and go out on a limb, even compete, to get the mate you want.
Sometimes anyone who pays attention to us is wrongly interpreted as a sign that they are a candidate. We get obsessed with the idea of being with this person because they look nice and act nice to us. Grasping at straws, making a mountain out of a molehill.
Someone probably likes you and you ignore them every day. Ever think about that? They may be too shy or inable to properly communicate their feelings about you. They might not be the attractive person you desire. They might be overweight, too skinny, a little goofy or nerdy, or just dumb.
Look around....without your usual rose colored glasses. Your knight in shining armor may be a knave with a bucket on his head. Your hard bodied hottie may be a chubby girl with glasses.
The opposite is also true. If you see yourself as imperfect, you tend to look for other imperfect souls. You might be a little shrimp who could land a a big ole beautiful blonde model, or a squeeky librarian type who ends up with a real power broker.
We limit ourselves.
Stop it!
Ever see a dweeb with a stunning babe?
A real hunky guy with a bridge troll wife?
You think "How the heck did that happen"?
Love. It's blind. You should be too. Grope around in the darkened room of your mind and see if you stumble across someone who feels for you. Someone who cares.
They might be right in front of you.
Reach out in the darkness and you may find a friend.

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