We who desire to find a lover, a mate, a friend, or a companion either here or in any other venue of our varied lives, have certain things in common. We wish to be, for them, exemplary manifestations of what love is, how it translates practically into
daily existence and living, and how it transforms ordinary relational interactions into genuine deeply caring meaningful intercourse with another.
It is not an impossible task. We can do this in the simplest of ways, by being thoughtful, attentive and emotionally present.
To that end, we will make an effort to:
1. Recognize the importance of the relationship in our lives by speaking it to the other.
2. Share what we have, whether it be financial, physical or emotional.
3. Show our affection for the other, publicly and privately, by engaging in activities which display affection consistent with our culture--kissing, touching and listening.
4. Support the other in his/her endeavors by encouraging them, participating with them or by being a sounding board for them.
5. Maintain the relationship by engaging in it wholeheartedly and by being open for the surprises that come with discovery.
6. Extend the relationship by being one who learns, grows, is active and curious about the world and the person to whom we have made a commitment.
7. Honor the commitment we have made in every possible way, not only with the lover but with his/her friends and family.
8. Remember that we can only know ourselves and honor ourselves in the context of the relationship which we have made primary in our lives.
9. Be honest in all of our relationships with all people.
10. Connect and reconnect frequently with the one we love.
It is in these ways that we are and become mature, thoughtful lovers and friends who are ready for and can make a commitment to a lasting and loving relationship.
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kywonder
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Oct 27 @ 4:56PM
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Good Blog Orion.
Sounds a whole lot like "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." World would be a whole lot nicer place if we did.
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KnittinKitten
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Oct 27 @ 5:17PM
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Orion, you make it sound so easy....I try to practice the "do unto others part that Ky mentions, every day....but, I find it quite difficult to find it in return... 
That's a kudo post if there ever was one. Thanks
KK 
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dixiepixie
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Oct 27 @ 5:20PM
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Those are all great reminders of some very important behaviors to practice. In addition, I think recognizing when you can compromise without losing a part of yourself is also an important component in fostering a healthy, loving relationship.
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butterfly943
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Oct 27 @ 5:33PM
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3. Show our affection for the other, publicly and privately, by engaging in activities which display affection consistent with our culture--kissing, touching and listening. I like this one..I think when a person is in love it would be hard to not show public displays of affection..I would be proud if my love showed the world he loved me  ...but I'm not into the groping  and everyone knows there is a big difference  nice blog  kudo for you too
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jentoblues101
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Oct 27 @ 6:40PM
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Wouldn't it be love-a-ly...
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leprichaun_magic
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Oct 27 @ 6:42PM
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~if you nurture each other
it grows naturally :)
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malexand
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Oct 27 @ 6:53PM
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"At our age we can't change, but we can adapt."
I'm not sure who said this in a previous blog, but I believe it leads into your manifesto.
Thanks.
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summerbreeze916
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Oct 28 @ 12:45AM
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It is not an impossible task. We can do this in the simplest of ways, by being thoughtful, attentive and emotionally present.
I really like this. We just need to be more patient. Being alone is the best time to reflect on what is and what is not important when searching for that lifelong partner. If we 'settle' for anything less than what we desire for ourselves, we will never know what could have been.
It is in these ways that we are and become mature, thoughtful lovers and friends who are ready for and can make a commitment to a lasting and loving relationship.
Amen!
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invisible1
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Oct 28 @ 7:05AM
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No words . . . this blog is all-inclusive.
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equuisdancer
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Oct 30 @ 6:16PM
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