Internet dating is fraught with problems from fakes & scammers to long distance dilemmas. Here's something I've experienced on more than one occasion and am wondering if it's at all common.
Throughout my life I have attracted so-called friends who were after my man all along. How did that happen?
My first serious boyfriend disappeared into the nether regions of one of my friends after we squeezed into a taxi cab together. She blatantly flirted with him and told me later how lucky I was to have him. I found out weeks later he was actually having her!
A few years later there was this cousin of a friend of who threw me dirty looks every time she saw me with a guy, then befriended me at a party. Before too long she'd dated every one of my exes, married another friend's long time ex and, years later, took up with my ex-husband.
I'm still thinking... How did that happen? I guess I had terrible taste in friends as well as men.
To get to the point, it happened to me again on Matchdoctor. This girl got herself involved with someone she knew I had been really interested in. I'd made no pretence of this interest, I'd blogged about it enough. She was in touch with me on and off, but when she became really interested in him she got in touch with me more often. When things went wrong between them she wrote to me for advice. I can't honestly say I was very helpful or sympathetic. After all, he was my friend and she wasn't. I'd ignored her emails and comments so many times I'm surprised she bothered to write to me at all. She didn't have a picture at the time and I was convinced she was probably a bloke.
To cut a long story short I got myself caught up in a Matchdoctor love triangle. It seemed this girl had not only contacted me, she'd written to another girl on his friends list, asking her what was going on between them and acting jealous. A spat broke out between the two women over my friend and the second girl also wrote to me. He deleted both of them from his friends list and cut off all communication with them, but still corresponds with me, which proves there can sometimes be friendship after romance. So she didn't get very far with him.
I'm thinking it's all water under the bridge and along comes Stephendedalus. He's not like any other man I've ever met on line or off. He captivated me in so many ways, I was smitten within weeks, and he felt the same about me. We express this in blogland and THAT GIRL gets in touch with him and declares her love for him. It seems they'd talked about little else other than cats and what she ate for dinner that day, but for some reason she's suddenly falling in love with him telling him how women like me scare her. She writes to me later congratulating me on my taste in men. I ignored her, after all, what am I supposed to say? "Thanks, I'm sorry you can't have him", especially when I'm not. He'd considered her another on line friend, nothing more. The idea of buying a ticket to visit her had never crossed his mind, yet he spent his last penny coming to England to be with me. So he let the girl down gently but she still persisted and became such a nuisance he had to ignore her most of the time. Then something happened between the three of us and we no longer have anything to do with the girl...
Or at least I thought so, until tonight.
I'm chatting on line with a friend from this site and it turns out THAT GIRL is doing the same thing with her. This time though, she's accusing her of muscling in on her man. To top it all, she's saying I did the same thing to her too. Fortunately, my friend had been forewarned so she knows the score. It still upset though and the guy's pretty furious too.
THAT GIRL is a complete fantacist, living life vicariously in the wake of women she must believe are more interesting than her. I don't know how she selects the men she targets, I suspect she looks at the women's friends lists and takes it from there. She writes short and sweet emails and isn't afraid to ask personal questions. I used to think she was harmless, in fact a bit thick really. I wrote a pretty cutting blog about the love triangle situation and she didn't seem to bat an eyelid. It was a piece of creative writing, but she'd have to be an idiot not to realise it was about her. Perhaps that's what she wanted me to think. 
So, beware the sweet, innocent ones, it could be just a smoke screen for the bitch underneath. But just in case she IS just thick as two short planks ....
"Listen dear, he was never interested in you, so I didn't steal him from you. Same goes for the other woman you're harassing right now. Suddenly becoming interested in a guy you know is interested in someone else is a very bad habit to get into. You need to learn to trust your own judgement.
Or maybe, you are just a bitch, in which case you're still on the losing side."
Angel has spoken.......  if this makes no sense, I'm sorry, I expect it will to the people who are involved.
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Jacksonboy
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Oct 29 @ 8:34PM
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I wish I could get involved in a love triangle. Meaning two Ladies and myself of course. Everybody else has all the fun. 
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jelltex
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Oct 30 @ 12:50AM
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I have no idea who you're talkin g about; but it sounds freaky. There are some whackos out there for sure.
You need someone to watch your back, Angel??? 
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Cruisenite
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Nov 14 @ 9:06PM
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Sounds like someone I know Angel. Simply amazing this sicko continues to run rampant on this site and wreak havoc in peoples lives. Glad you showed this freak who the winner is 
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dallas1995
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Nov 18 @ 7:56PM
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I am so tired of this person and I wrote about her/IT and received a lot of mockery and abuse by certain queens(male and female) of the Forums...you may see most of them and read their true selves in the thread on General Talk under Stalkers...if it is still up...
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Blondino
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Nov 19 @ 10:58AM
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Angel .......dont hold back now there 
tell it like it is girl 
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tentfire
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Nov 19 @ 1:33PM
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Will this woman NEVER give up! It didn't take a bolt of lightening for me to figure out who it is. I have had the same problem with her. Any time I try to talk to a man on here for more than 3 or 4 e-mails she has to jump in with her bs. I start talking to a guy for a little while, then nest thing I know she is on his friends list. I, too, have written blogs and forum posts about her but she/he/it is never phased by them, laughs them off, then continues on full steam ahead.
Here is how I have her/it pegged. She/it has a HUGE control problem and an EXTREMELY LOW self-esteem. She/it also has no confidence in "it's" choice of men. So "it" targets women that "it" considers to be an exceptionally good person... a top-of-the-line woman......the kind of woman she/it can only dream of being but knows that she/it will never be. "It" figures that this terrific "target woman" will make the best of choices in men. So "it" follows "it's" target around waiting for the target to choose the best one, then goes to work to try to steal the catch. Now, I figure, if you are this "things" target, that should be taken as a wonderful compliment. But it is all just too darned frustrating, annoying and stressful to see it that way. 
This "thing", in my opinion, is a classic example of a narcissist (probably with some other disorders mixed in), one very sick puppy for certain. "It" draws "its" self-worth by the company "it" keeps. "It feels like "it" is a somebody by hanging out with those "it" considers to be a somebody. [Narcissists cling to people society deem as important, then flaunt that they are important because the important person talks to them.] "It" appears to feel entitled to anything/anyone that "it" wants. And the hardest one, for "its" victims, is, as with all narcissists, this person who is the topic of discussion here pours on the charm in the 'public eye' but is the 'itch from 'ell in the way they talk/treat their victims. Then when you try to tell everyone else what is going on, you appear to be the bad guy because "this sweet, wonderful angel would never do something like that." It is absolutely sickening!!! Bionic, your title to this blog alone is the definition of a narcissist (NPD). They are some of the most dangerous people a person can encounter.
The best of luck to all in their efforts to rid this site of the 'thing."
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EternalFlame
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Nov 20 @ 8:30AM
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Wow.
I guess that's one of the good things about being in an off-site relationship...I have no idea who this blog is about. 
I've heard of these women, tho.
That's why I feel that relationships on this site should be kept private. Once they are public, they're open for attack...if that makes any sense at all.
JMO
Good blog, Angel
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