So, I live in this apartment with three other girls. They are all lovely people, and I mostly enjoy having them around...but this one girl...she is driving me up a wall.
So she's got this boyfriend...or she had a boyfriend...they were dating for a few years or something, but it's been a pretty serious thing between them. Well he smokes weed, and apparently this is a big f***ing deal to her, despite the fact that this is not a new development...in fact, he went to rehab for alcohol or harder drugs of some kind, so this has been an issue since they've known each other. So for the entire time we've been living in the same apartment, she cries on the phone with him at least once a week, and sometimes it's more like 3 times a week. She cries, she screams, she generally freaks out on him.
Here's what I don't get...if your relationship is that f***ed up, what in the world are you doing even being in it? You're 21. Break up with him, get over it, and find someone new. Christ...the way she's hanging on to a relationship that clearly isn't working is just unbelievable. It's frustrating to see her put herself through this nonsense...it seems like she's always sick, she's super insecure about her weight (she's taking diet pills when she is clearly not even close to being overweight, and she exercises a lot), and she's constantly miserable. It's like...ugh...will you please just cut all this negative shit from your life and move on like you're young, pretty, and smart? Because you are...and you don't deserve this crap.
But is it just me, or is it also annoying that she's making such a huge deal over her boyfriend smoking pot? She seriously broke up with him because he smokes weed with his friends. What the hell? You won't break up with him over the constant arguing and the fact that he apparently inspires you to scream and bang your fists, but heaven forbid he cut loose with his friends and smoke a little weed. I just don't get it. I guess I'm just too big a fan of the sentiment:
"Sometimes it seems like love is just a fancy word for compromise,
You've gotta read between the years, you've gotta write between the lines
You've gotta try and understand the grandness of the man behind the petty crimes
And let him off easy sometimes."
I suppose though that emotions simply get in the way of logic. It's just really annoying when you look at someone hurting themselves over and over and over again when it's entirely unnecessary. And I'm not gonna lie...I really just don't like the sound of a person crying.
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jayej
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Oct 29 @ 9:30PM
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I am going to say the diet pills have something to do with the behavior.
To say nothing of her drug of choice being an exciter and his a relaxor.
Why are they together?
J
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fromscratch
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Oct 29 @ 9:40PM
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Why don't yall just take a vote like they do on the REALITY TV SHOWS, and send her to exile island  
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luneib
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Oct 29 @ 10:16PM
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It just sounds to me like your roommate is insecure, has low self esteem, why she is hanging onto a relationship which is not good for her, she feels she can't find anyone else to be with her. From what you said she feels she needs to take diet pills, feels she is overweight when she is not. Just buy a book on self esteem, leave it around for her, perhaps she will get the hint. Yes, she is too young to be in a relationship that does not work, she has so many more years ahead of her. Can you imagine if she ever married this guy? Oh my gosh, I doubt that marriage would last a week.
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gunn12fan
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Oct 29 @ 10:22PM
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sorry I'm really very sorry
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Gary51hwd
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Oct 29 @ 10:31PM
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Sounds like she's the one who needs the weed.... 
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Peabianjay
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Oct 29 @ 11:12PM
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Getting "stuck" in a relationship isn't a laughing matter. It's easy to be objective about other people's relationships, but very hard to be objective about your own. Sure, it seems crazy. It iscrazy. When you have feelings for someone, it's easy to be blind to the obvious. Many people have been in, and I'm sure most of you know someone that has been in an abusive relationship. The break up and get back together again....
In this case, it's not physically abusive, but is emotionally abusive....which is far worse. Bruises heal faster.
Is there anything a friend (aquaintance, roommate, etc) can do? I'm not sure.
Is there anything the victim can do? Yes! Listen to your friends! They have your best interests at heart!
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