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As some of you know I post things on here..Things that touch me, teach me, personal things about what makes me who I am..and in doing this I learn by comments made I always accept them for one reason..to learn..also I enjoy reading about other peoples lives and in some ways feel very connected to them. I read allot because I want to know answers to questions I have everyday. Last night I wrote something that was TAGGED quotes..yet was told Your alone because you spend more time writing silly poems then realizing your not perfect. ..why  I don't know.. not for one second do I think I am perfect..no one is..I tried to just let it pass without bothering me yet this morning it still does. Its like hearing the doorbell ring and answering it only to have a hand reach out and slap you across the face..saying this is for you being you..it hurts  ..I write from my heart, I feel from my soul and to some this might bother you for this I am sorry. What hurt the deepest was Well sweety your cute hence, play more time playing that role then the victim. ..That really hurts..I am not a victim, to be called one by someone that doesn't know anything about me is just very upsetting. No one really knows what goes on behind closed doors..But to take the word Victim and use it as a game someone plays is so very wrong. Not once did this person ask..why..well let me answer this for him..the reason I will NOT be call a victim but choose to be a survivor..is because I AM A SURVIVOR!!!! as many are. These are my reasons I can say this
1.Being molested by my own Father =Victim
2.Forgiving him to take care of him until he died =Survivor
3.Being pulled out of school by the police because your 17 year old sister is missing =Victim
4.Picking out clothes to bury her in after she was found naked and drowned =Survivor
5.Watching my baby sister die at the age of 27 because she didn't have insurance therefor was not given the right treatment =Victim
6.Being the best Aunt I can be to her only child, now with a child of his own =Survivor
7.Seeing my brother Frank beaten by 9 thugs brain damaged and hanging on to life
=Victim
8.Standing beside him in court facing the people that did this to him, one by one =Survivor
9.Watching as my Brother Joe age 46 left this earth unable to stop it =Victim
10.Holding his hand. kissing his sweet face, letting him know how very much I love him and how it will take forever and then some to stop missing him =Survivor
I am a SURVIVOR!!! and I am not alone
Take the time to learn, understand and feel before posting anything.If it doesn't help them it might hurt them
And please don't make light of someone that has been victimized by something they had no control over. In this life you never know when it may reach you and you will need to ask if your a VICTIM or a SURVIVOR
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Jacksonboy
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Nov 22 @ 11:30AM
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I admire survivors. Never give up, Never give up.  
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fromscratch
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Nov 22 @ 11:34AM
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How phukin sad is that, some on here all they know how to do is try and hurt others. By chipping away at others it makes them feel somewhat important . You are loved by me and many many others. You have strength to let us share in some of aspects of your life and i for one appreciate all you have written, so do not stop now because of some mean spirits.
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 11:38AM
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I never will Jacksonboy
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 11:40AM
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And I love you Scratch..for you
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gunn12fan
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Nov 22 @ 11:45AM
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You are a survivor and you have my admoration (spelling) 
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sybnann
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Nov 22 @ 11:46AM
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I too am a Survivor dear, although I have also been a Victim. Not in the same ways exactly, but that, I realize is not the point.
I can tell in every word you type that you are a wonderful lady and that, like me, you have chosen the high road, and allowed the misfortunes in your life not only to make you stronger, but to reach out and help OTHERS make the same transition when they are going through similar things.
I applaud you, us, and everyone that has lived through pain and came out better!!!!!
We all DO really love you my friend. Have a wonderful day!!!!!
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 11:46AM
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Thank you Jason..you are a wonderful friend
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PrettyGreenEyes578
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Nov 22 @ 11:46AM
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I am in the group of Survivors.
Folks like this add fuel to the fire that drives us to end up at the victory line
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 11:47AM
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Thank you Sybnann..your amazing
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 11:49AM
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Thank you Prettygreeneyes..truly wonderful words
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kywonder
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Nov 22 @ 11:57AM
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Oh Butterfly943, our past history looks alike in many ways. But like you said we are survivors What you and I have been through would have caused a lot of women to completely lose their minds or kill themselves with drugs and alcohol just to get through the day. But like one counselor told me. "You are a lot stronger that what you realize. Not too many people come out of what you have went through and remain sane and sensible You are a picture of a survivor."
Don't let jerks ruin your day. Just look up to the sky and spread your wings and fly.
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misschief
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Nov 22 @ 12:01PM
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 12:01PM
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And kywonder..thats the connection im talking about..we as humans need each other in so many ways..thank you for always being here for me
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 12:02PM
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Thank you Misschief..you truly know
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fenderchick
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Nov 22 @ 12:20PM
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Whoever wrote that to you doesn't even deserve to be let inside you and read something like this...
You have alway's been a sweet and beautiful lady. Inside and out to me. I am learning every day that there are more miserable people in this world than their are happy...
I for one am now refusing to let myself get upset anymore over anything bitter, miserable people want to write me one here...I know it's hard and I sound hypocritical(As I complain often and loudly) but I would trash the mail, block the person and then delete it all...As sort of a cleansing. I've done that very thing this morning.
...I know what it's like to be a victim. I also know what it's like to be a survivor...You are a survivor and wonderful in my book...
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MrPaul
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Nov 22 @ 12:20PM
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Butterfly Gardens Survivors Healing
You Can't Give In 
I've got so much to say but no-one's listening
at least the ones who listen aren't those that need to hear
The lessons I have learned aren't there just for the taking
not through all the stony walls that we have built of pride and fear
You've got to try to keep your head above the water
though sometimes it would be easier to let it go, to drown
You've got to find a way to stop the inner slaughter
when it seems there isn't anywhere a safe way to be found
For tomorrow will come
And your life won't come undone
There is more to life than this
Love can show you all there is
If you just let truth in
Then the healing can begin!
The voices deep inside you tell your stories
until you want to run away and find a quiet place to hide
We all wish that we could sing honest songs of glory
but the truth is small and sad, and the song becomes a cry
There is hope to be had but it takes courage
To see yourself in honesty and learn from your mistakes
If you want to bring your soul into a new age
Look at your shattered heart and find the pattern in the breaks
And then tomorrow will come
and your life won't come undone
THERE IS MORE TO LIFE THAN THIS
love can show you all there is
if you'll just let truth come in
then the healing can begin......
Written by: Warrior_Redbird
Dear Lynn, You are a beautiful lady so full of life and strength  Stand tall, hold your head high, be proud of who you are  , a shining example of a real lady who makes a wonderful difference in others life's . Thank you for being you. Love Paul
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imlost2
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Nov 22 @ 12:26PM
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Oh how I see this often in blogs and get emails too by those who think they know everything about your life and try to tell you how to live it. I am a firm believer in life is what you make it, however things do happen that are out of your control, it's what you do afterwards and the choices you make, is what matters. God doesn't give you anything you can't handle, it's just you wish he'd even it out a bit more and give some of this to some others ya know? Seems you've had more than your fair share to me, I don't know how you've gotten through, you must be a very strong woman, Bless you. tc Lost
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 12:28PM
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Thank you so much fender I know you know what it mean to become a survivor..and btw he no longer has a profile here maybe he was just a hit and miss..and I will use the advice I have given to you and just let it roll off my back and go down the drain..thank you for your words and kindness
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 12:31PM
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Paul what can I say except thank you..you are a truly good man that has taught me many lessons for this im blessed
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 12:34PM
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it's what you do afterwards and the choices you make, is what matters. ..truth..in every word..thank you imlost..I like so many get through one day one more step..
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 12:58PM
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Rascal Flatts — Stand lyrics
You feel like a candle in a hurricane
Just like a picture with a broken frame
Alone and helpless
Like you've lost your fight
But you’ll be alright
You’ll be alright
Chorus:
Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend, till you break
Cause it's all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you’ve had enough
You get mad you get strong
Wipe your hands shake it off
Then you Stand,
Then you stand
2.
Life's like a novel
With the end ripped out
The edge of a canyon
With only one way down
Take what you're given before it's gone
Start holding on, keep holding on
Chorus:
Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend, till you break
Cause it's all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you’ve had enough
You get mad you get strong
Wipe your hands shake it off
Then you Stand,
Yeah then you stand.
Bridge:
Everytime you get up
And get back in the race
One more small piece of you
Starts to fall into place
Ooohhh
Chorus:
Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend, till you break
Cause it's all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you’ve had enough
You get mad you get strong
Wipe your hands shake it off
Then you Stand,
Then you stand
Yeah then you stand.
Yeah then you stand.
Yeah baby
Ohhhhhhhhh
Ohhhhhhhhh
Ohhhhhhhhh
Ooohhhhhhh
Then you stand
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leprichaun_magic
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Nov 22 @ 1:11PM
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Keep smiling  .I,m sorry some people were unkind to you, you make a good contribution here ,we appreciate you ..
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 1:12PM
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Thank you lep it means so much to me
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QtrAcreGalSeeking
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Nov 22 @ 1:32PM
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I've recieved LOTS of criticism, here AND elsewhere, from those who told me I NEEDED TO GO THROUGH WHAT I SURVIVED, alone! 
Molested by both my mom and my dad, date raped (and having had a child from a child from such), beaten and cheated on by partners?
SURVIVOR, babe. 
I suppose, if I HADN'T gotten sober, and lived most of my adult years, fighting the imbecilic notion that I SOMEHOW DESERVED IT ALL, I might consider myself a VICTIM....
but a Victim OF MYSELF. 
A SELF-IMPOSED victimization, in that case. 
I've taken folks off my Friends list, who's comments I didn't trust, to post automatically. Deliberate injury shouldn't see the light of day, EVEN if it's "meant for your own good". 
I choose to be here.
I choose to stand.
I am courageous.
I AM A SURVIVOR.
And SiteSis?
I'm glad you're near enough, to help me light the path of healing
for other women in the Neanderthal South. 
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ghost42950
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Nov 22 @ 1:37PM
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My first rule - Keep Smiling & Enjoy Life & Living
Not original, but it keeps me sane and looking forward.
And Keep Writing and let the detractors stew in their own pots.
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 1:39PM
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Thank you Gwennie..for standing beside me and for knowing what im talking about
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 1:41PM
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Thank you ghost..whats that saying ya cant keep a good woman down..im standing proud and tall..well maybe not tall im only 5 foot
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IB4U
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Nov 22 @ 1:48PM
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I found this and others......
I am a Surivior
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 1:51PM
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Thank you IB..
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Cruisenite
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Nov 22 @ 2:44PM
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Ignore the idjits out there. You're a wonderful person. Keep focused and definitely keep writing :)
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chevymn
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Nov 22 @ 3:04PM
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For once I gonna disagree with you. Survivior? No. Victim? arent we all at some point? I think of you more as a conquering goddess who enhances the lives of many everyday. You and many others here have helped me thru some really hard times here. I will accept you however you come. I would change nothing about you. You wouldnt be the same if someone did. Much love to ya.
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 4:16PM
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Cruisenite.. Thank you my friend..
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 4:18PM
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Chevy..Victimized..sure...Survivor..Yes I am and will be forever.. I would change nothing about you. ..your words touch my heart
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WouldntItBeGr8To
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Nov 22 @ 7:43PM
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Survivor...that is you.
Victim?
You survive, you are a survivor in every way. It is a strength that makes a 'victim' a survivor. Be who you are, the survivor, the victim is what was. The survivor can never be taken away nor victimized...Be Lynn! No one can touch that.
The one that wrote that in your blog is someone so cruel that he has kept me and plenty others out of the blogs...I regret that evil people can affect me in that way, I so respect your strength in being strong enough to put up with his unkind words. I do so hope he doesn't return.
Thank you for sharing yourself, I find I learn so much from your writing and am so happy to hear you recieve something from those that post in your blogs...so much can be learned by sharing, nothing can be learned by attacking.
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summerbreeze916
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Nov 22 @ 10:01PM
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Wow, Lynn! I go away for the day and........and...........and............ Get that beautiful smile back on that beautiful face of yours! That man's (if you can call him one of those) comments have hurt many good people on here. Remember? He does it simply because he can? Don't let him win. Oh, I know you won't.......because you are so very, very strong.
Here's to that guy!  
Now, Lynn......I know this song is mainly about some guy who done a woman wrong, but...........it actually fits for just about any person who has been hurt by anyone and by any means! Whenever I feel down.......I start singing this song. It gives me strength.....and a lot of it! It's one of my all time favorites. Click link.......Song by Gloria Gaynor....
I Will Survive
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 10:32PM
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Thank you WouldntItBeGr8To..I try to be me..and learn as I can..I know we don't make everyone happy all the time..and thats ok..we are all different..beautiful in our own ways...thank you again
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 10:35PM
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 summerbreeze916..see I told you not to leave me Im teasing you..thank you for the song and most of all for you friendship
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butterfly943
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Nov 22 @ 11:28PM
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First let me say thank you..each of you touch my heart deeply..I need to say that I except comments be they good or bad..but this person crossed the line..but saying stop playing a victim..he knows nothing about me nor did he want to..he just struck out at me...I wasn't upset by what he posted..but when he said stop playing a victim that was wrong...and when I told him that I wasn't a victim I was a survivor..he lol and said yes ok and on a dating site...each of us have our battles and for someone to make light of it is just dead wrong....thank you for your respect and trust in me 
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Blondino
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Nov 23 @ 3:21PM
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Those nasty words say more about the person who sent them that about you
heed not and just keep right on doing what you do
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WSOR
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Nov 23 @ 7:12PM
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You are one of the strongest & most inspirational people I've ever known. Yes, indeed you ARE a survivor!
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mystery2u888
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Dec 6 @ 1:59AM
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