I will no longer be swayed to feel sadness for you and your made up imagined slights whether they be in the online world or real world...For I imagine the 2 are inseparable for you.
...I will no longer waste my precious time reading fiction when all I have is good intentions...I will keep my good intentions for those who merit them.
I am not naive...Well I am, but I am going to have trust less and look for what is really there more. I don't need a slap in the face to wake up.
...I will not allow this to make me just care about myself...However...I will not care or have any concern for you or your's. I am not an idiot and refuse to be played like some cheap Dollar Store harmonica.(Yes, I know that makes no sense to anyone but me.)
Those of you with made up illnesses, family intrigues, botched boob jobs that you later claim are cancer so you don't have to admit to everyone that your a 60 year old lady trying to be 20 again...Well...Don't tell me any of this.
...If something that horrible has happened to you. Tell it to someone else or blog it. I do not wish to feel sympathy anymore for people who don't deserve it...
You may not know I cried for you when you said you were raped. You may not know I cried for you when you said you had cancer and they didn't know if you were going to make it. You may not know I've felt your pain everytime you've suffered an injustice...What you will know now is that I will no longer believe this b.s....
...When I was sick and being operated on because the thought I might of had cancer in my woman parts...I was worried. I shared it on MD. I appreciated all of the support I received and was so happy to tell you all that the lump was benign. It was not cancer...
I would never lie about that. Even if I don't know many of you personally I still have respect and consideration for your feeling's. I am not one to play with other's. Unless they want me to.
...Uno anyone?
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ColdinWisconsin
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Nov 23 @ 9:56AM
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Wow. Just wow.
THAT is a huge betrayal. I'm sorry for you hun. Don't become too jaded, there are many real women out here.  
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katydid438
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Nov 23 @ 10:03AM
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As my Mother used to say "Some people ENJOY poor health" and all the accompanying drama and pity it can illicit.
You listen, offer whatever support you can and even make suggestions that may be helpful. There comes a time though, when you realize that you are just banging your head against their ego.
ah, it feels so good when the head banging stops! 
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PsychoMagnet
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Nov 23 @ 10:07AM
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I still have respect and consideration for your feeling's. I am not one to play with other's. Unless they want me to.
I want you to . . . . .
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Blondino
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Nov 23 @ 10:09AM
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Some people ENJOY poor health" and all the accompanying drama and pity it can illicit.
yes I agree ....
Being ill is a peculiarly private experience & most of the people I know who have gone through something serious tend to be reserved about it , changing the subject when it comes up. .. almost being apologetic about it as if they have in some way failed.
You may not know I cried for you when you said you were raped. You may not know I cried for you when you said you had cancer and they didn't know if you were going to make it. You may not know I've felt your pain everytime you've suffered an injustice...What you will know now is that I will no longer believe this b.s....
no you just go on being you Girl ... dont go changing cos of what others do
So to those of sound body and good health who are out and about every day ......
Treasure your luck ... "Carpe Diem" , Grab the Day.. Live each moment
.. Live each day as if it was your last ...in glorious technicolour .
 ya hear me there and Kudos for a great blog
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DaisyMae420
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Nov 23 @ 10:13AM
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Fender, you are a good person to care in the first place. As KD said...there are some folks who don't know how to get attention without faking some sort of illness. I knew a lady who smiled from ear to ear when she actually got cancer...now the attention would be on her.....that's sad, very sad.
Chin up girl! You're pretty cool! 
(and FYI, had a dream about my sagging mammary glands last night....they may be crying out for a lift or tuck or something...oh to be 20 forever, wait I'd kill myself...Ah to have the body of a 20 year old forever...there...that's better....
Have a good one! 
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kywonder
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Nov 23 @ 10:27AM
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Gee, that is a really sick person who would make up a fake illness. I would be afraid to do that for fear it might come back to haunt me.
Fender you just stay as you are. We all love you.
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imlost2
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Nov 23 @ 10:31AM
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Sadly I don't think there is anyway to get rid of the people you speak of, they find their way into people's lives on a daily basis. However, you are right, pick and choose like another blog on here wrote, there is a reason those in your past don't make it into your future, I just love that line, I think I might steal it if she doesn't mind too much, it's a great thought. I'm sorry you had to give some of yourself to those types, it's such a waste, hopefully they realize what they've done and might learn from it. Take care Lost
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EmmeS61
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Nov 23 @ 10:49AM
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These type of people are so needy that they don't even realize what they are taking from others with their lies. It's sad, really.
In life I take things with a grain of salt... when I am on the internet, I keep the whole shaker nearby 
Don't let yourself get too jaded, it hardens your heart
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summerbreeze916
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Nov 23 @ 10:51AM
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I am not naive...Well I am, but I am going to have trust less and look for what is really there more. I don't need a slap in the face to wake up.
Fender.......when you figure out how to do this, will you clue the rest of us in?
Great blog.................you get a kudo from me!
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IamTrinity
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Nov 23 @ 11:05AM
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Well Gee Fender, this one deserves a Kudo. It kind of expresses my opinion of this site.
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butterfly943
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Nov 23 @ 11:10AM
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The real person is so much more interesting then the fake...awesome words fender...once you lie then you need other lies to cover up the first one.. kudo for you to
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madamegeek
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Nov 23 @ 11:30AM
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You may not know I cried for you when you said you were raped.
You may not know I cried for you when you said you had cancer and they didn't know if you were going to make it.
You may not know I've felt your pain everytime you've suffered an injustice...
This is a tribute to YOU, my girl. The injustice becomes a burden for the offender to carry about until it is resolved by the life's inevitable balancing. No one escapes.
I still contend that people do not become liars on sites such as these simply because it is easy to do here; they ARE liars in their personal lives and would find deception an acceptable way to live their entire lives.
You stay the sweetly "odd duck" you are - I insist upon it!! 
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UnicornLover1962
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Nov 23 @ 12:09PM
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some people feel the need even in real life to be a "victim" no matter how they can achieve it. it is a disease and sad to say one that isn't diagnosed enough. and no, i don't know the name...lol
be real, that's all i can say.
be real
huggles
mel
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VaPeppermintPatti
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Nov 23 @ 1:11PM
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And the saddest part is that they keep reinventing themselves under different nick names on here and elsewhere to sucker in a new group of people to their controlling ways. Very sick individual, in my humblest opinion, and needs a LONG stay in a psychiatric treatment facility being kept away from the rest of the "normal" human population.
I know you feel betrayed and hurt, but look at the eye-opening journey and lessons from this. Don't be paranoid or the like. Just understand that a person of that nature is just VERY good at the game playing and should be nominated for the Academy Award for Best Actress in the Nut Case category.
You're good and kind, Fender, and never forget that there are us in the normal population that adore ya and your wit, humor, and genuine feelings for people.
So, take a deep breath, m'dear friend, and know it is not you, but the guilty party that has the mental problems and is so out of control in her own life.
Patti
PS: Check out this website. A friend of mine in the psych business calls people like this "Emotional and Psychological Vampires." In fact, everyone should read this site and learn a great deal.
http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/stop_energy_vampires
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Borty
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Nov 23 @ 1:35PM
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ok ok ...it was just a pimple on my bum..  ...on a more serious note ...sorry someone lied to you Fender 
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Tiramisu4u
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Nov 23 @ 3:11PM
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I soooo agree, fendergal.....but knows it will continue on...and on...and on...
On a more positive note...it makes me appreciate my more REAL friends...
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missliss78
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Nov 23 @ 5:36PM
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LipGlossQueen9
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Nov 23 @ 5:47PM
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Damn...why do I miss all this stuff????
On another note...what a horrible thing to do to someone just to get attention. There's just certain lines that should just not be crossed....
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suthrn_belle
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Nov 23 @ 6:30PM
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poeticcougar
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Nov 23 @ 7:12PM
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I'm sorry you thought I was telling the truth when I said I was Goldie Hawn  I take it back, I'm not Goldie, although she is a very beautiful older lady.
I am not an idiot and refuse to be played like some cheap Dollar Store harmonica.(Yes, I know that makes no sense to anyone but me.)
I understood this one, and sooooo much more on your blog, afterall I think I filled you in on some of it.
Sorry you're hurt, lil sis, I can tell ya this, "I" will NEVER lie to you. Love ya
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Loinlee_Sole
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Nov 23 @ 7:19PM
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have you ever tried to play a dollar store harmonica??? its not a easy thing  spit comin out the back side like a golf course water sprinkler.........sounding like a cat in heat getting its tail stepped on by the worlds fattest man  would I lie to you ??? 
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Bionic_Angel
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Nov 24 @ 2:56AM
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have you ever tried to play a dollar store harmonica??? its not a easy thing
Funny, but actually true. Think about all the effort these people put into fooling everyone. You're not as easy to play as you imagine. It's possible for even the most astute to be misled, especially if we have kind and trusting hearts.
just go on being you Girl ... dont go changing cos of what others do
 here, here! Don't change the essence of who you are, just try to separate yourself from what goes on here.
I would never lie about that. When someone is as open about their feelings as you are, it's obvious they're sincere. I'm still wondering though how JT's getting along.... did you let him out of his cage yet? 
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mystery2u888
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Nov 24 @ 3:27AM
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Good for you..............I can only think of ...........well......... great blog sweetie.......
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SpiritEnergy
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Nov 25 @ 10:09AM
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Oh boy, yeah...and the lady with a big grin on her face when she told me all about her cracked ribs. I swear, one more story to 'entertain' people with and 'hold victim court' with. Sad, real sad...that all you have to get attention is pain or illness.
I used to dread her phone calls til I set boundaries. I told her she needed to call me when GOOD happened because I could not deal with all my problems and all hers as well. Give me some of the good, dammit! Don't be calling me all the time just to dump, call me when good stuff happens sometimes or stop calling me. I can't handle it.
Three weeks later I hear back from her. I asked her why it took so long to hear from her...was she mad because of what I said? She told me, it took that long for something good to happen that she could share.  Yeah, right. Some people have no gratitude about so many things. She HAS changed a lot tho. She calls more to tell me funny and happy stuff now than the low energy victim stuff.
Hang in there, Fender. Ask the Universe for the bright lighted people to come to you. They will! Use the Quantum Fields to create differently.
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funisnumber1
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Nov 25 @ 3:30PM
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Seriously. Truth. WORD!!!!!!
My profile used to say "don't expect me to trust you because you're probably my parole officer f'n with me". Its not easy bein' cheesy with one's antennae up all the time, like frickin SETI on the prowl for UFI's (unidentifiable fraudulent imposters).
Making friends through the ether can be likened to last call when you've drunk someone reeeeaaallll purty and you're wearing Vodka goggles. Only in the light of day, face to face do you finally see Quasimoto. Who told you last night he was Hugh Jackman and you gave it some faith cause what the heck, you're just trying to be a believer and you couldn't really see them.
Taking off the "internet goggles" is better than being jaded.  HUGZZ
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TroutFishing
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Nov 25 @ 6:21PM
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Can I play you like my Fender Strat?
I DO have a case of terminal hangnail, ya know.
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kjac
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Nov 25 @ 7:22PM
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I prefer the peace and quiet of being ignored to the noise involved in getting the attention of others. I never could understand why some work so hard to get someone to pay attention to them. Personally, I'd rather be left alone.
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EternalFlame
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Nov 25 @ 7:51PM
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I missed this one till just now...
~*~
Fake people SUCK.
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skeptic
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Nov 26 @ 10:37AM
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karma. they will get thiers.
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Coven4nt
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Nov 27 @ 7:57AM
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trust and friendship is a two way street
you got a kudo for this
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