Are You, Too? posted 12/2/2008 8:18:25 PM | 4 kudos what's this?     report abuse

Injuneer

Inspiration for this topic came at 3 am this past weekend from a female friend that called because she was tired of “crying in her beer” and just couldn’t figure “it” out. The “it” of course was why she kept striking out with so many fellows that she perceived were perfect for her, but apparently she was not inspiring the same interests in them. That probably sounds very familiar for about 90% of those of that are enduring singlehood until the next opportunity comes our way.

So, we talked and talked and talked … actually I did most of the listening as she droned on and on. And then it hit me; the very answer to her question that she could not see and refused to understand, much less admit. She’s hung up on “too”.

Now, you don’t have to do much research to figure that one out, in fact you can see them on this very site as well as a lot others. And it’s not just the women; men are equally guilty if not a bit more. That search for the one, the ONLY one, the PERFECT one, that never ending quest to find someone that was just a bit better than the last at their best and nothing like them at their worst. Sort of like those ads that state “Must like” and you can fill in the rest after that.

One must wonder, where did we loose our spirit of adventure? When did we get so foolishly persuaded into thinking that the perfect mate was … perfect? Have we completely forgotten that it is those simple differences that make our significant others so … memorable?

I recall this friend once telling me she would not date a guy that was “otherwise perfect” because he smoked. When I asked how much he smoked she informed me that he loved to smoke a cigar on the golf course. I asked further, “how often does he play golf” and she shot back at least 3-4 times a year. I asked her how she knew that and she told me when they were out camping one weekend that he confessed this by a roaring fire. I asked why on earth would she want to be near burning wood if she was so concerned with smoke? She just glared at me after it dawned on her that just perhaps she might not have fully thought the situation out.

In an age where television has pre-programmed so many of us to believe in things we really don’t necessarily understand and certainly haven’t fully tested, are we doomed to become the generation that sits around and grows old, waiting for perfection to show up, only to discover we have lived a life of loneliness all because of a bit of misinformation?

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