| Nov 19, 2005 @ 12:19 AM |
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sunchaser59
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Is anyone on here, sincerely looking for that special someone for a lifetime?
I find the nonsense that one encounters from my generation, extremely disappointing. Nooo, I don't have a profile on here to find a "friend". It's a dating site not a looking for friends site, right?
Inquiring minds, or this one anyway, is,very, interested in hearing your opinion(s) on this....
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 12:23 AM |
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Angel54214
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Hi Sun! I real serious to find some one. I live in Southern Californina and so far I been on this site almost 2 years. The men in my age group are so far away, (CA a big state) The ones close in dating mileage, are looking for a harley babe! or looking for younger women. I think I doomed! Sometimes I can sit on this site for 2-3 hours, and no one even looks at my profile. Hummm, its quite weird I think. Maybe I too boring... 
Angel
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 12:34 AM |
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sunchaser59
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Hi Angel, 
Looked at your profile and I don't think it's you, at all!
Hence, the reason for my asking the question. 
Hang in there, we all are. lol I know it gets frustrating, at times, but hey it's a great big world out there and it will happen....just a matter of when. 
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 4:37 AM |
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misskitty56
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Hi Angel...youre cute,so thats not it...I havent met anyone from here..yet...but i remain hopful!! HAng in there,girl!!
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 9:46 AM |
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Angel54214
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Thanks kitty and sunchaser..your awsume  Just gets lonely especially at holidays. I mean I totally alone! Not even any family and my close real world friends do their family holiday thing together. (sniff, sniff). I thankful for so many things in my life and that keeps me going and smile each day... 
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| Nov 20, 2005 @ 10:21 AM |
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TAINQ
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I'm going to keep trying til I get it right. I just hope the next person I meet is the one.
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| Nov 20, 2005 @ 7:24 PM |
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lecriveuse
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its matchdoctor; free community for singles and friends.
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 12:51 AM |
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ClassyandEnglish
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Well now ecriveuse, I think we all pretty much think it's a dating site, matchdoctor....right, indicating a place to make matches, I do not see many people of the masculine gender that are really seriously looking for a relationship. And that's nothing to do with age either. I did not read your profile, as this is a different format here, but I am looking for a partner, a soulmate, a mate...someone real that cares and you care back for, but up to this point in time I have found married men, separated men, just plain old lying, cheating men....please don't misunderstand, but when you invest hours of getting to know someone by this method only to find that they are pretty much like the last one you wasted months on, believing in etc., I can see it gets a little frustrating. But, in the end, dating sites are generally a playground for those that choose to forget about reality, and I am talking about men!...women?, I don't know. How many times have you recieved a letter from a man that says his wife doesn't understand him?, or words to that effect. I get plenty of those, and from all ages, I don't understand it either. But is a fact of life. I don't think we would be on this site if we were not expecting to find a mate, as there are plenty of other areas just to make friends. That said, I think the possibility of making a "match" on line is slim. Yes, I have the time to type to friends, but I think most of us who put an ad in here are looking for a possible mate. But I am happy that there are these forums now, they are a way to find interesting things in life to do. Hope I don't sound like a crabby old bird...but I was reading the word serious, and I really felt a clap of reality and had to add my 10 cents worth.
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 9:20 AM |
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gumdrops2
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I think you look and sound great. A lot of men on here are looking for little girls to play with. You hang on in there. Real men want real women. . .DON'T THEY??
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 10:06 AM |
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sunchaser59
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Great post, Classy
Very well said. I don't think you sound like a crabby old bird, at all. But, you do sound sincere.  Must be a female thing...the sincerity and good for us!
To the rest of you that are, sincerely, looking for "the one".....Keep on...Hangin on. 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 3:33 PM |
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lecriveuse
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for singles n friends doesn't mean the men have 2 jump n to make it so. not everyone on here is looking for a mate, and that's a fact whether its acceptable to all, some or none.
[Edited on 11/21/2005 3:33 PM]
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 5:30 PM |
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sunchaser59
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for singles n friends doesn't mean the men have 2 jump n to make it so. not everyone on here is looking for a mate, and that's a fact whether its acceptable to all, some or none.
lecriveuse, as long as they say they're just looking for a "friend" from the beginning....I totally agree with what you say.
If, however, they state that they are looking for something more than that in their profile(s) then one would assume they're sincere in finding that. Just doesn't always seem to be the case, that's all.
Keep on....Hangin on.
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 5:34 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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lecriveuse, as long as they say they're just looking for a "friend" from the beginning....I totally agree with what you say.
How about sincerely open to the possibility of either? What's wrong with making friends, and if something else develops, great. Matter of fact, very great. But just because he/she/we are not the loves of each others' lives doesn't mean we can't enjoy conversations, posts, emails, etc. I'm going to be too old/fat/far for most of the men on here, and equally inappropriate for the women, but I know I've enjoyed 'talking' with everyone I've 'met'. I don't announce that I'm looking for a 'friend', but the odds are always much higher that people I meet will become friends rather than lovers...and I don't see any problem with that.
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 6:43 PM |
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lecriveuse
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definitely, sunchaser. anyone should b above board about their intentions; misleading is uncouth and unnecessary.
agreed, heaven. n sunchaser, i hope the love of ur life is the sugar n ur coffee, jam on ur bread n the bestest friend u have ever had. anything else falls short. to me, friendship is the foundation of great relationships.
good luck 2 u
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 9:17 PM |
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freebird71
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I agree, this is a dating site. I have my friends, not that I don't welcome more from other areas of our wonderful country, but I, like many others, are seriously seeking a meaningful long term relationship...duh...what is a dating site for?
The problems I see are many...lies, deceit, not being sincere about what people want. Hey if you weigh 420# and are 4'5" say so...when you meet someone you have been talking to they are bound to notice that you are not 5'6" and 110# as you put in your profile. Unless they are blind and dumb.
I guess honesty, sincerity, committment, etc don't exist anymore, and here I thought I was not asking for much.
When I was young looks were more important or at least the first thing I checked out, then getting to know the person. As I have aged and learned...looks is somewhat important, nice, but you can be beautiful or handsome outside and ugly inside, so I have chosen to look at the inner person first, if I like what I see then I want to get to know the person...physical appearance is at the bottom of my wants.
Also, as we age, we become more set in our ways, making it harder to get along with a partner, but there is such a thing as compromise, each giving and/or giving up things or ideas, I don't mean compromising our morals or beliefs, just being more tolerant of others.
Wow, think I am going off course and doing the soapbox thing, sorry...but I do get tired of so many guys wanting to change us when they see a profile that has many specifics yet they think we will change. That goes for women and men, both. If you don't smoke, can't be around a smoker...why would you want to contact someone that smokes? That goes for many things, that is just one example.
My advice: unwarranted probably, READ profiles and reread them, if there are things in them that go against what you believe or want...move to other profiles, don't begin to think YOU will be the one to change the other person. People sometimes change their habits because they sincerely care about the other person and want to make the change.
Enuf, off soapbox now, thank y'all for listening.
I do know there are some good men and women out there. Since I don't do the bar scene anymore I hoped this would be the way to meet someone, that special someone. Maybe one day.
Have a great day y'all.
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 12:50 PM |
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sunchaser59
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How about sincerely open to the possibility of either? What's wrong with making friends, and if something else develops, great.
Hi Heaven,
I had to reread my posts, on here, because I didn't remember saying there was anything "wrong with making friends" on this site or anywhere else. That, of course, is a decision of each individual. I was and am referring to the people that portray themseves as wanting one thing and actually want something entirely different, once a person starts communicating with them.
As long as you're happy with what and who you encounter then I'm happy for you. Each individuals wants are different, thank goodness.
Keep on.....Hangin on
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 12:54 PM |
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sunchaser59
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You have a great day, also, freebird.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and all the rest of the great people on here! 
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 4:48 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Hi Sun,
I find the nonsense that one encounters from my generation, extremely disappointing. Nooo, I don't have a profile on here to find a "friend". It's a dating site not a looking for friends site, right?
Sorry, I guess I didn't make my point too well. Even if most of us are here looking for a one and only, we may not be the one and only that someone else is looking for, just as they might not be the one we're looking for. Which doesn't preclude the possibility of becoming friends...even though that's not what was in either of our profiles. But honest, I hope you find the one you're looking for!
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 10:38 PM |
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sunchaser59
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Heaven,
If you think I said there is something wrong with anyone making friends on here, so be it. I post my feelings.... and my feelings regarding the reason for this thread have not changed. It is simply my observations and feelings on the matter.
Thanks and I, honestly, hope you find what or whoever it is you're looking for.
Keep on.......Hangin on
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:45 PM |
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freebird71
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Thank you for the holiday wishes.
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