| Dec 30, 2007 @ 12:10 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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I've only lived with two men and it wasn't bad if I say so myself! Was that two men at the same time, or one man on two different occasions?  
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| Dec 30, 2007 @ 9:51 AM |
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lisa46
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OMG Jester  NO they were different times!! I adapt pretty easily to having someone around but I am very picky on who I allow  go figure?
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| Jan 2 @ 12:34 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I love being alone. I even now have a smaller bed. Sort of like I am not even open to having someone in my life. FWB is most likely the best option for me. I used to give up my entire self for my man. I always adapted to him. I no longer wish to do that. It is never done for me. Why should I do all the giving up and adapting?
Until I find a man that will 'be me' like I can 'be him' then I am going to be alone. Choice. Not being forced into it. I just want someone that is as giving and adaptable and as caring and tender as I can be yet as strong or stronger than me.
I have found that I am intelligent enough to figure out ways to do things alone that need doing. I have done that most of my adult life. Don't NEED a partner but would not mind partnering.
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| Jan 3 @ 12:24 AM |
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signme
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I understand what you mean Spirit about always being the one to compromise. I don't like that either. I want to find someone who would be an equal partner and let me be the same. I am an idividual and have my own needs and wants. They should be recognized as well as his are. So until I find someone who will compromise for me, I guess I'll be alone also. But it's okay, I can handle that.
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| Jan 5 @ 11:42 AM |
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JUSTLOOKIN_F
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I THOUGHT I hated it but as the years go by, I'm finding it's a life I like. My kids are close, one across the street, no yard work.....I have a good life. Sometimes, I miss having a partner but like a few of you have said, I let the man/men (2 ex husbands lol) in my life take control of everything.
I actually like me, finally, and I know I'm fun, funny, and I have a wealth of good friends. At this point in my life, it couldn't be any better.
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| Jan 5 @ 12:59 PM |
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travelnfrog
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I think this is a tough one....I love my life, I love traveling, I love setting my own schedule, I love doing or not doing whatever. That said, there are many times I would like to share things with someone else...and I know that in doing so I would do things I probably wouldn't do alone.
I'd love to think there is another "match" out there for me...but if not, I'm still enjoying life to its fullest! My Blog
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| Jan 5 @ 4:49 PM |
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daisy315
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I live alone. And I do get lonely. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have a roommate to share responsibilities and bills.. But I love the peace and quiet that comes from living alone.. if I am itching for conversation, I have plenty of friends and family t visit. I do miss having someone around to take care of , cook for.. 
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| Jan 6 @ 12:50 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I want you to know, if you enjoy your alone times and the freedom, then you will definitely stick to it til you find a REAL good deal. One you just can't turn down. One that you WOULD feel it was worth giving up your alone time to.
Because then it would be a fair trade. That partner. That one that will be the other part of you. NOT one that takes all your energy to deal with. One that will energizer you. You know what I am saying. I haven't found that yet but there are possibilities.
The funny thing is, I think I could have a part time significant other. Seriously. One that has as full a life as me and just wants to have someone that will be able to share part of their lives together. I could do that.
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| Jan 6 @ 5:29 PM |
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SallyF
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My ideal relationship situation would be to share a duplex with a compatible man :-)
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| Jan 6 @ 5:34 PM |
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lisa46
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wish i was cuddlin up now instead of playing on the computer does that answer that question?? 
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| Jan 6 @ 5:36 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Next best thing...separate residences, 6 miles apart with a freeway in between. Just got back, watched the Giant game over there, he cooked and the Giants won...life is good. 
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| Jan 6 @ 8:10 PM |
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Nightowl001
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That sounds like a good deal, Heaven! (Well, except for the Giants. Would rather have watched a movie.)
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| Jan 6 @ 9:22 PM |
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starchild888
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well, I'm learning to like it....I share my house with my 3 big dogs and 2 parrots...and I totally agree with "sign me" and Toucher about not compromising what I like...yeah, and THAT was recently tested....the guy didn't like my dogs, bought ear plugs for the parrots, complained about my bed....blah blah blah....I felt so GUILTY because he wasn't comfortable....was I ecstatic when he left? YES!!!!!! 
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| Jan 7 @ 2:49 AM |
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Solitaire
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I was just walking from the kitchen with a mug of hot tea in my hands when it hit me again, for no apparent reason, I love being in my house by myself.
No impetus for the thought. Just recognition that I've got a pretty good life here.
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| Jan 7 @ 2:56 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Yeah, Soli, I can walk around anywhere with no weird comments, don't have to fend anyone off when I am really into doing what I want to do.
I like Heaven's deal. Close enough but far enough.
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| Jan 8 @ 10:38 PM |
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redtigr
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I've lived alone for eight years - and it's a love/hate relationship.
I have to admit I enjoyed being able to put a house together in my own way. I like not having to adhere to another's schedule, too, as I had two husbands who worked third shift back then and I was on days at various jobs.
The bad part is having no partner, no intimacy of mind and body, no one with whom to share life's journey.
Like heaven - I've often thought the ideal marriage included separate but joined or adjacent living quarters...
...but on that issue, I'm willing to compromise.
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| Jan 8 @ 10:46 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I knew a lady who was married to a man that lived in a different state. They both had careers in their places. She had her house and he had his house and they met up occassionally and cohabitated when the mood struck them and their schedules worked. I could do that! 
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| Jan 8 @ 10:48 PM |
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katydid438
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I've lived alone for 14 years. Only the dog to argue with A realationship with someone with their own place has worked for me in the past. I just have to be jumping around and waiting on anyone who comes to visit...love it, but can be tiring
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| Jan 8 @ 11:54 PM |
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signme
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I agree that 2 separate residences about 1-5 miles away would be a good idea. If we had to share a house, there better be multiple bathrooms and areas to get a way to when you need it.
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| Jan 9 @ 12:35 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Oh, boy. Really! Like when he takes a dump. Argh... 
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