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ALONEKNIGHT
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This is a statement that is true to the core,so why do we??
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| Aug 25 @ 6:44 PM |
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SunBabe
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"down to earth nice guys"?
 I've had two of them in my lifetime. And they both considered that they'd ended up winners. One ended up too complaiscent and boring after 30 years -- he knows he refused to grow (he admits it). Luckily he changed his ways after our divorce and is with a lovely lady who keeps him on his toes so that it doesn't happen again. 
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| Aug 25 @ 7:02 PM |
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BandTMom
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That statement is not true, at least not in my book.
A nice guy is first with me. 
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| Aug 25 @ 7:16 PM |
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SunBabe
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ALONEKNIGHT, just put "nice guy" into the keyword search box and you'll see several dozen threads on this topic. Many, many have given their opinion on this subject and I think the general consensus is that most women love a "nice guy" in reality, but that doesn't mean a wuss or milquetoast. I've known some very "naughty" nice guys  and basically they were quite down to earth with a pocket full of good values. It's how they project themselves, inside and out, that makes them interesting, not like wet washcloths that soon dry out.
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| Aug 25 @ 7:54 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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"My" guy is an absolutely down to earth nice guy, and he's first with me for sure!
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| Aug 25 @ 7:56 PM |
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happygrlok
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 very well stated Sunbabe.......
I have female friends that feel they end up last also....so it is a two way street. The thing, is none of us are willing to become bad girls just to have someone in our life....We do want a "nice guy"..... 
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| Aug 25 @ 7:58 PM |
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robodad
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Down to earth? Get out of the ground, guy
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| Aug 29 @ 3:21 PM |
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painter007
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I found a very nice guy..........................  Not one bit of bad boy in him.....
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| Aug 29 @ 4:53 PM |
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happygrlok
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I am very happy for you painter.... 
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| Sep 1 @ 2:27 PM |
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marylou
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Oh....I dont know........a little bad can be fun........... 
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| Sep 1 @ 3:12 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Yep, as long as he's only mischievous with me...
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| Sep 2 @ 8:28 AM |
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catman602
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I am nice guy . one does as the woman tells him . and still I get zip . I am thinging "nice guys are ok . but , will end up alone . "
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| Sep 2 @ 10:36 AM |
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mailorderannie
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one does as the woman tells him
Most women don't want a guy they can boss around...and the woman that do, usually take advantage of them.
Nope, a good guy in MY eyes, isn't a puppet. He has a backbone, has opinions, treats a woman like a lady, and doesn't wait around for a woman to tell him what to do.
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| Sep 2 @ 2:46 PM |
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SpyderLady
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I have dated a few nice guys.
I have tried to date a couple different "too nice" of a guy. You know, the ones that get on your last nerve. Hard to describe them but you know when you meet them.
Sunny explained it very well.
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| Sep 3 @ 1:30 PM |
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painter007
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MaryLou.pssssssssstttttttt he's bad when he needs to be
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| Sep 3 @ 8:31 PM |
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SunBabe
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MaryLou.pssssssssstttttttt he's bad when he needs to be
That's the right kind of "nice guy".
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| Sep 3 @ 11:43 PM |
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Say_Yes
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This is a statement that is true to the core,so why do we??
Bullsh!t. I know a lot of nice guys who have done very well in life. My younger sister has been married to a great guy for the last 25 years. My best friend, is happily married to the same woman for more than 20 years. Both have great jobs, are great fathers and each has a wonderful family life.
Do some nice guys "finish last"? Sure they do, just as do some jerks. The same holds true for women too by the way. Being a nice guy (or gal) does not entitle you to success, love or happiness. It is just a part of who you are. The rest comes from work, talent and a little luck too.
I will say this though, having a poor me attitude is one of the worst traits you can have in life. Having the attitude of "I'm a nice guy, so why am I alone, poor, unsuccessful"..... is almost a guarantee of failure. Women like confidence (not to be confused with cockiness) and the poor me, I'm a nice guy attiitude almost ensures failure. Then again, don't take my word. Ask the women on this forum. I think that you will find me to be correct.
BTW, just how many nice women do you know, who happen to be alone? How many of them have you expressed interest in, or have you often excluded them from consideration due to other factors. What is good for the goose, is good for the gander you know & vice versa.
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| Sep 4 @ 2:49 AM |
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mailorderannie
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Very good SayYes!
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| Sep 4 @ 9:32 AM |
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youbetcha
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The thing is, I think at least, most people know HOW to be nice and if you treat them well they will be nice most of the time, so that makes the competition pretty widespread 
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| Sep 30 @ 11:12 PM |
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vsackvillewest
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I see that question a lot. I'd love to know how anyone knows if they really are a nice guy (or girl).
I think everyone thinks they are... but are we r-e-a-l-l-y? I find the question distoibing.
If I say I'm a nice female who "ends up last" I'm judging a whole bunch of guys as not good almost defacto (present company excluded, my friends!)
Anyway -- The reason it does happen is often hooked into how we grew up (not always). Took me years to understand that I was trying to "get it right" so I'd be loved -- no matter the treatment I not only received, but apparently sought (because it was all I knew.)
Just not goin' there no more!
LOVE people generally, love guys, love the world (and find it a little scary at the same time). If I were Princess of the Universe for the Day, I'd order me up a sweet guy who has a passion for something (family, friends, hobbies, work) and loves to share it and be part of his community, who loves to share time with me and is patient and tolerant and kind and gives gifts (mostly the guys I found didn't) and who wants to be appreciated for who he IS. (That's what I'd find "a nice guy".) But... I don't expect perfection and perhaps I oughta.
Your thoughts, friends? K
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