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Feb 25, 2013 @ 6:23 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
Heaveninawildflower


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Hey Minky! You have every right to decide for yourself, with no criticism from me, I'm speaking for myself alone - not anyone else! I spent some of the best years of my workaholic life with a man I knew from day one had some major health risks and given the choice again, I'd do the same thing. I'm only saying it was my choice and for me, the right one. I spent my years as a caregiver to my mom, but I was only in my 30's then....your path's a very different one. I hope she does well, and you too!
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Feb 26, 2013 @ 8:12 AM general question to middle aged people in general.    
Gallows_Humor


Posts: 16,897
Thanks for the opinions, but I think I said I would rather be alone, not lonely, than be a caregiver from day one. I still work full time as a nurse, don't care to enter a relationship in that position. What's in it for me? Judge me as selfish if you like, I could work 24-7 if I wanted, I don't need that in a realtionship. I have needs too.

just an observation...

as you are working full time...in a people profession.. your relationship needs are being met except for those that deal with ..only you...to where you can afford to be highly selective... and rule out anyone who is not perfect in your eyes for the times that you want a mate.. time that you have available, when you are not working

and as that works for you...

but you are leaving quite a few good people in your discard bin in the process...

my question is..are you trying to tell other people what they should be doing? or trying to justify your actions to you??

I have baggage.. health issues... and old man itis... but I still feel as though I am worthy of consideration...by women who are in my peer group..:)

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Feb 27, 2013 @ 2:58 AM general question to middle aged people in general.    
minky


Posts: 329
Don't misunderstand, I don't question if anyone is a good person. Just that health issues are important at this time in life. Bottom line our partners did not stick in for the long hall, why would a new romantic interest find serious health problems sexy? Unless they are in the same position. Reality sucks
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Feb 27, 2013 @ 5:05 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
lacyvsq


Posts: 13,320
I massage a 99.9 yr-old man 2-3 times a week. I'd love to find a single version of him! He gives good conversation, (tho our political views do not much align) and his feet and legs are improving in looks with every visit from me, since I decided at the beginning of the year that he cannot go to the undertaker or donate his body to science until we are certain that whoever tags his toes is going to comment on what great-looking feet this man has for someone of 108....

I find encouraging him when he feels down is a boost for my own spirit. I wish I had the freedom to actually do more for him.

Pension and SS benefits for a husband of his calibre would be a good trade-off for caring.... ....but that is just my thoughts... My parents both died well -- no long-term health problems.
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Feb 27, 2013 @ 8:28 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
Tiramisu4u


Posts: 13,122
why would a new romantic interest find serious health problems sexy?

That is why I am not looking...wouldn't be fair to them.


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Feb 27, 2013 @ 8:30 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
olpup


Posts: 156
I look only at her heart. The rest is just a shell that we all have.
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Mar 7, 2013 @ 10:54 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
kakes


Posts: 3
[B]I hope Im not to old to find love.. Im going to continue to try. I would love to find THE one before I die.[/B]
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Mar 8, 2013 @ 11:28 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
signme


Posts: 16,665
If 40-60 is now middle-aged, I just hit old age!
I think at my age, finding someone with no baggage is pretty much impossible.But I agree with those who said it's how you handle your baggage that is important. I have health issues also--some days I do a ton of stuff and some days it's hard to get out of bed. Who would want to be saddled with that? I have found my own contentment with volunteer work, giving when able, doing my pet portraits for a bit of extra $$ now and then and trying to eat and exercise myself into better health. I guess it's all in your perspective!
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May 23, 2013 @ 9:56 AM general question to middle aged people in general.    
SheilaSweet


Posts: 13
Some of us in our mid 50s do not have medical problems, do not have any more baggage than an adult child, who lives independently, and he is not baggage. Everyone has extended family, and as soon as you are an adult you have responsibilities. On the plus side, I am financially stable and independent. So yeah, I would be a great catch if I would not be caught already.
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Jun 7, 2013 @ 6:42 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
BrownBear


Posts: 259
I don't know why people today view 40-60 as 'middle-aged'. The human life-form has a life expectancy of well over 200 years if shielded from toxins and stress (true), so really the age of 100 is middle-aged. But as we create/manifest what we think about and focus on, if we think we will be haggard and weeing in a plastic bag by 80 then so we shall. The mind is a very powerful tool. If just one person made it their life's work to visualize being young and believing it and actually arrested ageing by doing so, the rest of humanity would follow... just like we did in breaking the running of the 4-minute-mile record (deemed impossible) and growing an extra 4+ inches in height in adulthood (via stretching exercises) - again previously deemed impossible.
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Mar 8 @ 5:31 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
sexyeyes755


Posts: 40
Ol Pup you sweetie!
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Mar 8 @ 10:00 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
Tiramisu4u


Posts: 13,122
I have health issues, PLUS am a caregiver to a stroke victim in my house when I get home from work, plus work full time. Who would want to deal with that?

From what I have found...no one. So I don't bother.
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Apr 20 @ 4:21 PM general question to middle aged people in general.    
suds59


Posts: 10
does one have a choice about growing up?
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