| Apr 16, 2006 @ 10:56 AM |
Finding a Mate after 60
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goodtime1
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How hard is it to find a mate after 60. I am finding it very hard. I don't know about all of you, but it seems as though many women are just looking for friends. I think I have a lot to offer the right woman. Maybe I will find her one day.
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| Apr 16, 2006 @ 11:34 AM |
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mailorderannie
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Well, I'm not over 60, but wanted to address your question. I think a lot of women are looking for friends FIRST, but there are a lot of us that want long term relationships first. Don't give up...you'll find your lady someday!
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| Apr 16, 2006 @ 5:39 PM |
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Edelweiss
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... I believe you should be friends first, before anything else.
... I come from the old school, and dont believe in jumping in bed to soon.
... I looked at your other post's.
... I do wish you good luck, and a Happy Easter.
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| Apr 16, 2006 @ 6:34 PM |
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goodtime1
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I also believe in friends first, maybe dayting 6 mobths to a year first.
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| Apr 24, 2006 @ 5:47 PM |
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Phyllis
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I don't think it's hard to find a mate after 60 (from hearing, not yet experiencing, though it's coming up soon-but figure at 59 if one has chances they won't just stop at 60) but at our age we have so much to consider-some are war weary from bad marriages, some don't want to compromise on relocation since by this age most of us have family, friends, maybe a job. Too, instead of less choosy, we get more choosy-after all, someone has to be very special to make a person willing to give up the remote, cook for someone else, etc. when one is used to living alone.
I think we get set in our ways as we grow older and have been alone a long time.
A lot of people seem to be just lonely and wasting time on here and aren't really that ready for committment.
I hope you find the one who is meant for you!
Phyllis
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| May 16, 2006 @ 6:12 PM |
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stevie56
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Question, first, why you want a mate after the age when you could (excluding test tubes) start a family with anyone even close to your age.
My limited experience (of 1) tells me I need to offer my mate the very least environment to which she (and her ready-made family) are already accustomed.
Having been unceremoniously dumped by a lady who had recently divorced a Colonel in the Red Army, with 2 children just successfully completing University (and me on a UK State pension who failed my 11 plus at the age of 13…..) well, need I elaborate?
The fact is, You (and I) are at least trying. If you don’t try, you cannot possibly succeed.
Right?
(God! I, too, sometimes desperately need the encouragement to just keep hoping, trying!)
Good luck.
Stevie.
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| May 21, 2006 @ 5:00 AM |
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Orphes1
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It's easy to find someone after age 60, but so very often, women want a man younger than themselves, and men want a woman younger than themselves. It's a real quandry. A challenge for sure.
I tried dating a woman near my age just once, and that was a real disaster, wrinkled upper lip from smoking, hoarse voice, hard of hearing, and real cranky with her 94 year old mother and complained a lot about the men she had dated. Other than that, she and I are still very good friends. She had a nice body at 5'8" and 130 pounds, and was sort of cute too. We call each other now and then, and do get along very well because when we see each other, it's for a very short while.
She is a nice person, but a bit too worn out and angry to be a good mate for someone. She is unhappy, lives a fairly wealthy lifestyle, and that seems to be her problem, maybe a little disenchanted with how the world had treated her in her past, and wants to be materialistically "pampered again" (her words).... I feel sorry for her. Incidentally, in America, 83% of divorces are instigated by women, not by men.
There are more 44-48 year old single women in America than any other age bracket, with 46 being the magic number. I'm not sure exactly why this is the case, but there is a big dropoff for women around age 42. It seems that there is some real reason why so many of them divorce at around age 42. Could it be that the kids are grown up, and it's time to play, or maybe that the old man isn't interested in them enough any more? I don't know the answer. A lady friend told me what she thought and knew, but I can't and won't repeat what she said on here. 
It's easy to find a mate after age 60, but it will likely not be what we really want. At this age we have to compromise. I see women who want a man to have a 6 figure income, and at age 60, it ain't gonna hoppen Baby, especially when there are 30-50 year olds who want the same 6 figure guy. Men want someone svelte and looking like a 20 year old, and that's not in the cards either.
If we compromise, we can find a mate, and very easily, especially if we men will accept a 65 year old, and women will accept a 65 year old too.
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| May 21, 2006 @ 10:18 AM |
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Greystone1
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I'm beginning to think that looking for a mate is a mistake. We don't look for a "best" friend. We look for friends, and along the way one of them turns out to be our best friend.
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| May 21, 2006 @ 4:05 PM |
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Orphes1
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Dude, the best way to find someone is to not try.
I get mail from many different types of women, and if I like them, I give 'em a shot, but if I don't, I treat them just as if they are just like everybody else. Sometimes that backfires too, sometimes it makes them want me even if I don't want them.
Older women mostly hate beards, sloppy clothes, bad breath, and bad hygiene, or that's what they tell me. They also like us to have all our teeth, even if they don't. They like confident, dignified-looking men, men who present an air of aristocracy when they walk into a room. I'm not an expert, but I do know what women tell me, and I have many lady friends who confide in me.
Not my opinion, but just a few things I'm told, is all.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 11:03 PM |
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Greystone1
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Oddly enough, the women I talk to like beards. We must be talking to different women.
And if they don't, too bad. I'm keeping the beard.
In any case, I don't much care what the average woman wants, because I'm not looking for average women. If she doesn't like the way I am, long hair, beard, motorcyle and all, then she is not for me.
dignified-looking men, men who present an air of aristocracy when they walk into a room
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| May 22, 2006 @ 11:53 PM |
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Orphes1
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Yeah, I'm with you on that one. I had a beard for about 30 years and decided to shave it off when I started going silver. Women really like the beards when they are young, but I hear a lot of b------g from women who seem to like a bare face. I won't cut off my mustache for any woman. It's my trademark, and if they don't like it, tough.
You're right. If they don't like something, then the road is in front of them
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| May 23, 2006 @ 3:08 AM |
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SunBabe
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[Reposted because the site server 'timed out' (or some such deal)...so I had to copy/save/paste this back in]
I don't much care what the average woman wants, because I'm not looking for average women
Dang, I think I could lov...uh, I mean hope to be 'friends', MrG-Stone 
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| May 23, 2006 @ 3:24 AM |
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Orphes1
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| May 23, 2006 @ 8:36 AM |
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Greystone1
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Dang, I think I could lov...uh, I mean hope to be 'friends', MrG-Stone
If you weren't so far away, I would have been knocking on your door a long time ago.
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| May 23, 2006 @ 8:53 PM |
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Jankia
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We don't look for a "best" friend. We look for friends, and along the way one of them turns out to be our best friend.
I like the way you put that Greystone
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| May 26, 2006 @ 11:09 AM |
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Orphes1
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My ex-wife was my best friend.
I think it's normal that one's mate is his (or her) best friend.
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| Jul 7, 2006 @ 7:00 AM |
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KittyKat2006
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Who says women don't like a man with a beard and/or mustache!!! Ohhhh, I love both! Just as long as you keep it trimmed so it looks nice.  WhooHoooo! Kat
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| Jul 8, 2006 @ 5:25 PM |
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wiccked
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i love beards, goatees, mustaches- i even like long hair- just so its not longer than mine -i grew up in the era of no facial hair and flat tops- who knows? maybe i went to school with a good lookin' man- just couldnt tell with that military do!!!
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| Jul 10, 2006 @ 9:32 AM |
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ynot77
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tell ya what wicked....you can come trim my beard/stach anytime...just make sure its all even when your done umm hair longer then yours?? not since 79' lol 
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| Jul 10, 2006 @ 12:31 PM |
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sweet5red
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well im not 60 im 50 but yes it is hard to find someone.. and i hope im not still single at 60.. it does get disheartening at times.. shoot im not even dating anyone at the time.. just kinda backed up and regrouped.. *** sigh but im not one to give up yall know that.. Sweet N Louisiana 
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