| Apr 21, 2006 @ 10:02 PM |
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goodtime1
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I get an awfully lot of e-mails from much younger women wanting a relationship. Most are in their early and late 20's. Come on now, I am not into changing diapers or being some ones daddy. I perfer someone closer to my own age. 50-65. 
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| Apr 23, 2006 @ 10:44 PM |
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AutumnSilk
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I'm 44, forgive me for sneaking into the after 50 site. My time will come soon enough. My comment is...20 somethings wanting to date 50 somethings are most likely looking for a sugar daddy.
Me, I dated a wonderful man last year who is now 57ish and we had a great relationship. Distance was a problem and I still have youngish children at home which complicated things. However, men my age don't always want women my age.......they are starting to realize that they are not 25 but want to attempt to feel 25 again.
By the same token men 20ish want to date me for what I have no clue. My point....you have more in common if you stick closer to your age....my "older" man was only 13 years older than I and it seemed commical at first but how I loved to show off in front of his high school buddies. Sort of let the boys know he still had it going on!
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| Apr 24, 2006 @ 8:27 PM |
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bevrice
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Wow, goodtime, what great wisdom you have, and such an awesome profile, just wish you lived closer to me, I would grab you up fast, lol
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| Apr 27, 2006 @ 10:45 AM |
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bevrice
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Autmn, just hang in there, there are men your age looking for women your age, don't give up. You need someone, if your kids are still youngish, who can do kid things with them, not someone my age who can't or who really is into being a grandfather and not a father, and not so able to play football with them and softball and do the things that kids need a father to do with them. I had an older step father, my sisters and I did, and we were miserable, don't do that to your kids. It had been years since he brought up his kids, expected way too much of us, he was older and set in his ways, it had been way too long since he had had kids to raise. He sure wasn't able to join in our physical activities. Don't do that to your kids, go younger, not older.
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| Apr 30, 2006 @ 8:06 PM |
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Orphes1
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Well, I can only speak for myself, but my experience is that women still are much more social than men in general, and as women age they (seem to) regard social engagements as "keeping up" with things.
Men, on the other hand, think of "keeping up" as being physically active in some way or another. The oldest woman I've ever dated was 59, and had a lot of trouble when she went on a hike with me. We had to stop often so she could rest and get her wind. She was slender, and although she was a social butterfly, she didn't seem to have any stamina. I won't do that again. Women around the age of 50 and younger seem to be in a lot better health than those 10 years older and generally seem to have more endurance..
I've had my ankle broken twice, my knee broken, hand broken, and been in 13 whiplash wrecks, but I seem to be in about the same health as most 40 year old women and healthier than most 50 year old men, and I'm still going strong. And yes, there actually are some men who are just as sexually oriented and interested as they were when they were 40, myself included. I guess it all depends on the person. There are a few men who prefer an older woman, but I don't think they are interested in them much as a sexual object, because men are designed to persue younger women, or at least untill their production of testosterone slows down. My grandfather was 90 when he finally quit his job and died at age 95, and my family usually lives 10-15 years longer than most people, so maybe it's a gene thing that separates one man (or woman) from another.
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| May 2, 2006 @ 10:29 AM |
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bevrice
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Lol, orphes, never had any trouble keeping up on any hike, and I am plump. But then I don't have any health probs either, not even high blood pressure, am on absolutely no medications.
But then, again, I don't particularly enjoy hiking, didn't enjoy that even when I was in my twenties.
If any man my age can keep up with me, honey, he will be doing very well. Now, I don't mean hiking and I don't mean socially, lol. Any man who is with me is going to be spending a lot more time doing that than he is going hiking, so maybe guys should think about endurance. I am sure I am not the only older woman in here who feels this way. This is why so many women prefer younger men and they them. You spend a lot more time in the bedroom that anywhere else. You could probably still be reasonably happy if you never hiked again, but don't think you could be very happy without sex. So maybe decide which is the greater prioritiy in your life, good sex, or athletic activities. Compatibility or hiking. You can always go hiking by yourself, but love or sex are no fun alone, for sure.
One day, you will have to cut back on your own hiking. With all those injuries, you are sure to get arthritis and it gets worse with age.
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| May 2, 2006 @ 12:25 PM |
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RogerTX
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Personally it doesn't work for me. It's my attitude. I am a teacher...I teach all day...and do not want to teach all nite and all weekend too.
Plus it's all about math....30 goes into 60 more than 60 goes into 30.
I've always heard that sex with a younger woman could be fatal. To which I reply, what the hell....if she dies she dies!
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| May 3, 2006 @ 10:18 AM |
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startswthakiss
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Stamina in hiking and in bed are two different things. I dance alot and can out do most people in dancing continuously. Hiking forget it, I won't last going up the first hill.  Sex, now that's where stamina counts. Most men over 50 don't have the stamina to keep up with an older woman. Younger men are capable to keep the stamina going but there love making skills are not to be compared to that of an older man.  I will take the older man if he has the stamina in the bedroom instead of hiking up the hills. 
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| May 3, 2006 @ 10:45 AM |
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Orphes1
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Well, at the expense of turning this into sexual debate, I would chose being sexual over being athletic for sure, but there is a lot more to consider when it comes to both scenarios. The healthiest (old) people I've ever seen are men in their 70's and 80's who have been given a "death certificate" by their doctors. They've been told to either go on a diet and get good exercise, or die real soon, like yesterday. Usually, they are still married, and their wives accompany them but aren't as keen to do the exercising as the men are. I had a (very intelligent) lady friend (very nice person too) who was a Mayor of a small town I used to visit a few years ago and she said; "Larry, men can't keep up with women". I responded by asking her what she meant. Her answer? "Well, maybe men have more physical stamina, but in everyday life they can't keep up with women". I never did ask her what she meant..
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| May 3, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
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waterfire
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Sex, now that's where stamina counts. Most men over 50 don't have the stamina to keep up with an older woman.
I hope i dont resemble that 
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| May 3, 2006 @ 8:23 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I hope i dont resemble that
I'll bet you don't, and my guess would be that your sense of humor would always help you rise to the occasion... 
My usual dance partners are extremely athletic, both former gymnasts, one's 26, the other's 36...and they don't cut me any slack at all, we dance two to three nights a week. They've stated clearly that when I hit 80, they might consider giving me a break. I lift weights, chest press 100 lbs, leg press 230. I've said it before and I'll say it again...if a relationship looks like it's going to turn into an endurance contest, no thanks. I'm not out to prove anything at this point in the game, I just want to enjoy it as thoroughly as possible, and for me that means working out. As far as ages are concerned, that's relative and it's going to depend on the man. The guy I'm currently seeing is 53 and a total couch potato, but I like him anyway.
As far as day to day is concerned, I try to be up (out of practice since I cracked a rib) at 3, walk three miles, in the office by 5 to 5:30. I'm on call 24 x 7, and I'm on the "A" team, so my calls are the ones that nobody else has been able to handle. Stress? You betcha, system outages are estimated at a cost of $40K a minute. As stated, I dance a few times a week, work out a couple and try to walk every other day. I don't think life's a numbers game, but that's just my opinion.
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| May 4, 2006 @ 8:32 AM |
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bevrice
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My grandparents both lived into their nineties and neither was athletic, lol, it is a matter for the MOST part of GENES. My brother in law who is a physicians assistant and runs everyday, works out, has had a stroke before he was fifty, and already had to have a major heart artery unclogged. He never eats fatty food, always a healthy diet. He has done all this for at least thirty years, and still has high cholestrol. He is fifty nine now.
All my family are very long lived, none are into athletic things and never were, all are moderately active, doing things like working around the house and the yard and were never much more active than that. Very healthy. I can't think of a single one who died of a heart attact. I have a five generation picture of me when I was a baby, have another with my daughter in it when she was a baby. I knew my great great grandmother, my great grandfather and grandmother. All were productive and able to get around very well until they died.
None were particularly thin, most were the opposite, or at least chunky.
You know, they were all good Christian people, very happy people, good people, giving people, sometimes I think things of the soul have more bearing on our lives and health than anything of the flesh could have.
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| May 20, 2006 @ 9:04 AM |
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goodtime1
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Well! You do know that there is such a thing as relocation and in this day and time, its much easier to travel
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| May 26, 2006 @ 11:33 AM |
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Orphes1
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Well, all I know for sure, is that women around age 40-50 turn their heads and get a second look a lot more often than do 60 year olds, or 30 year olds. Online, I suppose it's about the same with those who contact me, and then of course, there are the ones who don't even read my profile at all, they just look at my picture (you know the type), and these are usually late 20's to around late 30's. Most women who don't know my age think I'm around age 50.
I don't mind at all if a woman is considerably younger than me, but I DO mind of she looks like she could be my Mother. A wrinkled up old woman trying to hold my hand in public doesn't appeal to me at all, not if it looks like she could easily be my Mother.
Any woman 15 or more years younger than me would be a real test of adaptability, and any older than me? I wouldn't be attracted to her, and I'm sure that that's because of the sexual thing. I do know a lady who has been after me for 2 years now and she is age 43, cute as a bug, 4' 6" (very tiny) and around 80 pounds, but, a little too rough around the edges (potty mouthed) for my taste. I think I'll stick with my preference, 45-60.
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| May 26, 2006 @ 12:06 PM |
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donny3
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sent that potty mouthed gal my way
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| Jun 7, 2006 @ 12:41 PM |
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UpbeatGalinSC
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My problem is younger men/older woman. I get lots of mail/winks from guys in their 30 and 40s. Geez..my son is 46 what would I have in common with a 40ish y/o? I wouldn't be comfortable. I use to say I'd go 10 yrs. younger but now at 67 I think 57 is too young..lol! I know it depends on the individual. Some 50 y/o men look like they're in their 60s and the same with women. I don't know what the rule of thumb should be, but I know not a 30-50 y/o. At this point I've decided to narrow the list down to ol' coots that are 60 & above.
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| Jun 7, 2006 @ 1:24 PM |
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sweet5red
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well you never know what can happen look at
http://www.martystuart.com/ZArt-Misc-NashLife-6-04.htm
Spirits Of Marty Stuart And Connie Smith Finally Unite
This article appeared in Country Weekly - August 12, 1997
Twenty-six years after they met on one Indian reservation in Mississippi, country singers Marty Stuart and Connie Smith married at another in South Dakota. The two Grand Ole Opry stars wed in a quiet ceremony July 8. "She's an angel," says Marty. "She is a spiritual person who gives my heart great hope and my life guidance."
They had been friends for years--but Marty, 38, remembers clearly the day he first laid eyes on Connie, 55. He was a pre-teen mandolin player growing up in Philadelphia, Mississippi. Connie was a young star with hits such as "Once A Day," "Ain't Had No Lovin' " and "The Hurtin's All Over."
"I met Connie when I was 12 years old," he recalls. "She came to the Indian reservation in my hometown to work at a fair. She hasn't changed a bit. She looked great then and she looks great now." At first, Marty jokes about his reasons for choosing to get married on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in southwestern South Dakota. "I didn't have to do a blood test there," he says, laughing. "I pass out whenever I give blood."
marty stuart and connie smith ( country perfromers and married with lots of years between them in age difference) the first time he saw her he was 12 and he told his mom he was gona marry connie and years later at 37 he did) Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jul 1, 2006 @ 12:01 PM |
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rmdebora
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Well Goodtime1...I was asking myself the same this week, when i was seeing my email box.Lot´s of email´sfrom much older man...around 45-65.Well...i am 28 years old :-).
"I don't mind at all if a woman is considerably younger than me, but I DO mind of she looks like she could be my Mother. A wrinkled up old woman trying to hold my hand in public doesn't appeal to me at all, not if it looks like she could easily be my Mother."
Well...I DO mind if a guy looks older then me and also if he is that much older because i don´t want another father to protect me or give me money or advices...I was someone to grow together with me in all aspects of life, and later to become a family.:-).And i can´t see myself doing this with someone that when i get 50 will have 90... 
I realy think that you guys should give a chance to older women also.
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| Jul 3, 2006 @ 12:20 AM |
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whozatladi
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LOL!!! Great answer,I agree with you 1oo%....you go girl!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 7:45 PM |
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jamminjerry
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well, in my case, its simple. "i will not endure another woman who does not posess the pearl i seek". this game ain't all about sex or money. if you think it may be about something else, by all means, join me.
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