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| Jul 16, 2006 @ 7:46 PM |
"50-something , but look 10 years younger"
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madamegeek
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I see this SO often in profiles and it raises my blood pressure upon occasion. What is the motivation for such self-delusion? Most people do NOT look 10 years younger - and if you do, is that inducement enough for a 30 or 40 something stud or dolly to really find you more appealing? As my years accumulate, I hope to move forward with grace and appreciation for the unique joys of being my age without yearnings for the years past. Call me Agnes Angst.:(
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| Jul 17, 2006 @ 4:05 PM |
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SunBabe
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 I always get a chuckle out of that one. My first reaction is usually "You DO?" Personally, I'd rather find out for myself...sometimes it's a nice surprise (like an unexpected "bonus" -- shallow as that might sound  )
Hey, I use the reverse psychology...tell 'em I'm really 72  After they digest that, I figure I can't lose 
PS I'm not aging gracefully...I'm going at it kicking and screaming, but there still ain't a thing I can do about it, so the kicking and screaming simply relieves true angst 
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| Jul 18, 2006 @ 7:27 AM |
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DoorWatcher
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I knew one guy who reduced his age by 10 years because he said he didn't look or act or feel his age. So he lied! The joke was on him....he looked 10 years OLDER than his age!  What the heck was he seeing in that mirror???
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| Jul 18, 2006 @ 7:36 AM |
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nightrider3281
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i have had some people tell me i look younger than 50 and some said i look 50, but look 10 years younger , I WISH
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| Jul 18, 2006 @ 9:13 AM |
"50-something , but look 10 years younger"
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NeverB4Alone
Posts: 9,014
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Mirror, Mirror on the wall, if you stay fogged up, I can lie to them all.
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| Jul 18, 2006 @ 2:24 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Even though I have been told I look younger then 51... I really do not have a problem with my age ... I love that I have lived this long and enjoyed so much from life. 
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| Jul 18, 2006 @ 2:52 PM |
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wiccked
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well, in my opinion- what you see is what you get- i have been told MANY times, by men and WOMEN both that i dont look 60- and a lot of these people are much younger than me- and i do appreciate their compliments- but the best one i ever got was from a 22 year old that said she hoped she aged as well as i have- basically i think the only thing that will really age you is the SUN!!- i never get in it as far as sunbathing, etc-
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| Jul 18, 2006 @ 3:18 PM |
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madamegeek
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I guess this is a losing argument; I realize that many of us DO look better-preserved than others. MY initial comment was an invitation to explore WHY some people market themselves as younger looking. It surely is not to attract a mate of the same age and experience, but to gratify the ego-appeasement of being desired by younger subjects. I will content myself in the search for a generously-myopic mate.
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 12:04 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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MY initial comment was an invitation to explore WHY some people market themselves as younger looking.
Some don't market themselves... they just take good care of themselves and it shows..... plus good genes helps
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 2:40 AM |
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LatinButterfly
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Why perceive that so negatively? If you've read some threads here about "fake" pics, some may use that explanation so that when others see pictures who to them seem of someone younger they won't think they are fake.
And by the way I was just told (again) yesterday that I look 38 or 39. I never take it too seriously because I think men in general are not very good at guessing women's ages and I have better days than others (some days when I first wake up I probably look 10 years older, lol!).
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 8:24 AM |
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ynot77
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wiccked
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well, in my opinion- what you see is what you get- i have been told MANY times, by men and WOMEN both that i dont look 60- and a lot of these people are much younger than me- and i do appreciate their compliments- but the best one i ever got was from a 22 year old that said she hoped she aged as well as i have- basically i think the only thing that will really age you is the SUN!!- i never get in it as far as sunbathing, etc-
mmmm....well...also lots of lotion to keep the skin soft n supple..sp?
and IF you must know ..my hands are just right for the task of applying such lotion  
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 5:27 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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It surely is not to attract a mate of the same age and experience, but to gratify the ego-appeasement of being desired by younger subjects.
MadameGeek, I think you answered your own question right there.
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 5:55 PM |
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mailorderannie
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When people have a pic on their profile and use a phrase like this or even describe themselves as being beautiful or handsome, it bothers me because it is THEIR opinion. If they have a pic, let me draw my own opinion. Its like telling me how to think, lol.
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 6:17 PM |
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SunBabe
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Actually, that's more or less what I was trying to say.
I have to laugh, because since this post, I ran across a profile of a guy who's listed at age 29...then his explaination of why, because he's actually in his late 50's, is that he's only interested in young women..because he's so "young" himself.
Gimme a break... (dang, I wish I'd save that profile) I can't recall whether he used the phrase "look 10-20-30 years younger", but he was sure marketing himself that way...literally.
(Actually, I don't have a problem with anyone whose preferences are 'younger', but to have to tell everyone they look less than their age is kinda silly. Doesn't the viewer have eyes? )
btw, I've been told that I look "younger than" -- oh, geez...what am I? 57, 58? I swear, I can never remember?!  -- and I'm not sure what "age" I act in other people's eyes (I've always been 'just me'  ) -- but I can tell you I FEEL 99 most days  ...which kinda shows that one, also, shouldn't judge a book by its cover, for sure.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:26 PM |
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LatinButterfly
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SunBabe:
That one's pretty ridiculous, people like that are pretty delusional.
mailorderannie:
You're right about everyone making up their own opinion. A similar thing happens with physical appearance, what to some is beautiful to others is not. I've received mail from men without pics telling me "you won't be disappointed" or "I'm handsome", ha! How the heck can you say that when you don't know MY taste??? Invariably I always have been disappointed! The ones I've truly found goodlooking are the more modest ones who just hint it in a message or off-handedly mention what others have said about them.
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| Jul 23, 2006 @ 6:38 AM |
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Orphes1
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So far, exactly zero women I've dated when meeting them online have appeared "younger than" their photo.
To this date, I have not yet found a photo of any women to be less than 2 years old. A few have had photos of themselves taken 20 years ago, and some with ten year old photos claim that they "look just the same" as they did years ago. Of course this isn't true, but perhaps they view themselves differenty than they really are...
I try to take all this into consideration if I decide to date someone I've met on the net. We men read women's faces a lot differently than is often believed. We (subconsciously) look more for warmth and caring and fear and desire, rather than beauty and sex appeal. For this reason a more common-looking woman can be much more appealing than one who has a "pretty face", especially if she is interested in us and exudes a certain personna when she smiles or stares at us.
*Men are innately better disposed and equiped to read emotions on people's faces than women are, so as not to ever get caught off guard in case we need to go into survival or protective mode someday. This is all done instinctively and subliminally, but we do it just the same.. It's all very primal to us. In case any here are interested, these are the words (almost verbatim) of a professional psychologist I spoke with at the Department of Veterans Affairs about 4 years ago.
The truth is, that personally, I've never met anyone who "looks younger than their age" anywhere, to include myself. It otherwise seems to be all a matter of perception, rather than of actuality or reality.
[Edited on 7/23/2006 6:44 AM]
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| Jul 23, 2006 @ 11:25 AM |
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madamegeek
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You present a couple of quite interesting and hitherto unobserved (or merely unconsidered) impressions on my part, Orpheus.
In regard to men looking "(subconsciously) more for warmth and caring and fear ans desire, rather than beauty and sex appeal", I contend that this occurs occasionally when some men eventually work their way up the skeleton to the face IF every checkpoint on the trip has passed muster. While I like the timbre of what you are saying, I am hard-pressed to believe it...except in rare cases. (I am still seeking that rare exhibit.)
And regarding your "almost verbatim" quote of a VA psychologist about male superiority in intuitive assessments, I would consider the source.
(Hmmm...I noticed that the conversation took place over two years ago too; I wonder if he might have changed in that time?)
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| Jul 23, 2006 @ 1:08 PM |
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Orphes1
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My statement regarding the pre-emptive and inborn abilities of men regarding the "reading of faces" is known in the vernacular of psychoanalysts, cultural anthropologists, psychologists and psychiatrists, as protocol and pervasive, and not incidental. I have had similar conversations with psychiatrists (both men and women) who say the same thing, and one as recently as 6 months ago, however, the one I mentioned specifically is the best of the best in the world of psychology, he being the representative of the entire operatives of psychology for the VA in the State of Oregon, and he went into greater detail than the rest, so that is why I "near-quoted" him, and not another.. I trust his word to the utmost, but he is not alone in his theorems, Darwin agrees with him and so do many other well-noted behavioral scientists. To do so otherwise, would be a denial of well-known biological facts.
This is related to and came about as regard to my own particularily keen ability to read faces much better than even most other men because of my own particular experiences in a war, and yes, it does also pertain to my own particular heightened IQ, yet, it is still daily fare for men and general, and even more so in times or areas of such things as massive violence and/or war. There are many tests devised to check this, and I took several of them so the discussion therefore is not even moot. It is a well-known fact that men who have been in a war in combat (without fail) have a heightened ability to be (re) designed this way. It is no secret. That having been set aside, all scientists now know that men are designed this preemptive and pre-disposed way, not for any purpose other than to "protect and defend" and it has little or nothing to do with their being men or males, or not being women. It is rather, the ability therefore devised by their brains reacting to the excessive amounts of testosterone stimulation, and therefore over thousands of years, they evolved and developed thus so.
And I was speaking of men about their preferences regarding their subconscious self, not their conscious one.
I hope this helps to clear up the question.
BTW, why do you write in Elizabethan English? I'm just curious... 
[Edited on 7/23/2006 1:37 PM]
[Edited on 7/23/2006 2:11 PM]
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| Jul 23, 2006 @ 1:33 PM |
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madamegeek
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I will consider your subjective explanations further.
Elizabethan English..hmmm....have you considered the possibility that the universe extends beyond Oregon?
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| Jul 23, 2006 @ 1:39 PM |
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Orphes1
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But you are not English, and this is not the year 1533, so why the Elizabethan?
I noticed it immediately, even to the point of syntax.
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