| Apr 9, 2007 @ 9:35 PM |
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Sunbabie
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I just want to get everyone's opinion on putting photos on a dating site. My opinion, if you are seriously looking for someone, you need a photo! I for one don't talk to guys without a photo. I'm not looking for a motorcycle or boat so don't post a far off pic of you on one of these  You need an up close and personal photo. I am new to this site and I ran a search ... on the average there were 4-5 photos on a page of 24 profiles .... what's up with that  I can't wait to see "HackHack's" response to this  
Have a great day and happy dating ... 
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| Apr 9, 2007 @ 10:45 PM |
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Justmeandnooneelse
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Not to sound superficial but yeah i think that someone should have at least one photo on their profile. I mean just so at least if you decide to meet up you have an idea of what they look like before hand...at least then you cant say you look like a model when they dont.
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| Apr 10, 2007 @ 1:42 AM |
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Sunbabie
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Sooooo Nick ...... do you look at profiles that do not have photos, in general?? The only profiles I look at without photos are ones that are VERY close to me (like 20 miles away or less). Do you agree that physical attraction is what makes you go up and talk to a girl?? 
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| Apr 10, 2007 @ 3:12 AM |
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Justmeandnooneelse
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I agree...most the time it is...that's how it usually starts right? I dont think there are many people who went up to someone they didn't know without liking some physical feature first. I really cant think of another reason someone would. Its not like you have anything else to go by. I honestly havnt' tried to talk to many girls on here either without having a pic on their profile. I am not saying i havn't done it...just 99% of the time i wont without a pic being there. I hope this makes sense...i just woke up and need to be asleep stil...i have to get up for work in four hours.
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| Apr 10, 2007 @ 7:51 PM |
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hackhack
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Now why'd you have to go and call me out?!? 
Well, here's from a guy whose has had his profiles on dating sites for way too long. At first (those first lonely desperate days) I might have considered looking at a profile without a photo if they contacted me first, but I have never looked at one while searching. And I can tell you that back when I was dating (about 4 years ago now? Something like that  ) that I got burned by one of those "no photo" profiles and also by one that used Glamour Shots type photos.
The "no photo" profile never turned into an actual meeting but it did give me a glimpse into why most people don't post photos! That is, the woman who contacted me went out of her way to tell me how other men complimented her, said she was beautiful, blah blah. So I asked for a picture. She said I was shallow. When I finally got her to send me one, she followed up with "sorry, that is an old picture, before I changed my hair and lost weight". Uh huh. If she made these great changes, why not document them?!? I would think she would be proud...
Anyway, I didn't really respond so she barraged me with emails, calling me hypocritical, shallow, self-centered, etc. and that I should see her not for her external beauty (or lack thereof) but for her inner qualities. She was faithful in church, worked in the medical field, etc. But her attitude told me all I wanted to know (in addition to the picture of some blob with a crewcut).
So no photos, no interest. Sorry.
Am I shallow? Maybe. But I want to be able to stand looking at my date from across the dinner table.
Besides, I have no definition of beauty. That old saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" certainly fits for me. I just know what I like.
I dated a gal who had a sister that everyone thought was the hottest thing around. To me, she looked fake, overdone, and gave me the impression of high maintenance. So I found the girl I was dating to be 300% more attractive because she was just herself.
Oh, and by posting a photo of a boat or motorcycle, maybe they want you to see they have money (or debt) and that they are not some lonely nerd who can only afford an eMachines computer to use for Internet surfing. Man, I need a boat...
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| Apr 10, 2007 @ 11:03 PM |
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Sunbabie
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I don't know your name so I'll just call you Hack .... sry bout calling you out, but of all the forums I've read, you have commented on most of them ... and very nicely I might add  !! I agree with everything you have said. Don't forget the horor story of someone with one pic and it turns out the pic is not even the person lmao!!! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ..... and ..... I firmly believe for two people to have a relationship, be it marriage or just dating, there has to be that PHYSICAL attraction!!! Sooooo ... come on PEOPLE .... post some pics of yourself and let others be the judge If you are shallow Hack ..... then 95% of the people on here are, if they will own up to it, even those with no pics at all.  Thanks for your comments Hack!
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| Apr 13, 2007 @ 12:37 AM |
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hackhack
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No biggie, it was sarcasm. I don't care that you mentioned my handle (an old one too, man I have been on this site a long time).
Hehe, I wonder how often that happens? That is, posting someone else's pic. I remember this gal telling me how she went out with a guy because his profile was exactly what she was looking for. Turned out 2 guys collaborated on it and it was one of them that had the pic on the profile. But while she was on the date, the other guy was scoping her out from another table at the restaurant. Now that's creepy!
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| Apr 17, 2007 @ 8:18 PM |
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username57
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I have had more response with a picture, here and on another site, but that only makes sense. I have made initial contact with a gal on another site without her pic being up and we dated for several months. Like you said Sun, she was local, otherwise I probably wouldn't have looked. And hack, I absolutely agree with you. NO MORE GLAMOUR SHOTS!!! As soon as I see one, especially if it is the main pic...instant turn off.
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| Apr 18, 2007 @ 9:57 AM |
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emilynanett
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posting pictures would be nice ...........but i have had date where i could hardly recongnize this man because he had posted a picture that was 10 years old or older and that was a shocker . then on i always ask is that a recent picture.
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| Jun 19, 2007 @ 5:30 AM |
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sleeplessinelkmont
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From a couple experiences a few years ago I found out the hard way it's better to know what a lady looks like before getting to know and possibly meet her. 
If the only one is a glamor shot  or if the age listed in the ad is noticeably older then the lady appears in her picture(s)  I will ask to see a recent photo.
While personality, attitudes, and general compatibility are more important then looks in a relationship  , two people do have to be comfortable with what each other looks like.
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