| May 18, 2006 @ 2:14 PM |
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comindone
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I moved to Cali over 2 years ago, from Ind. my 7 year breakup helped me here. I am aware that the relationship scared me when it ended. But I still haven't even gone on a date yet! Is there a time frame for this or what? I still miss here. The crazy thing is that I live in the most beautiful, romantic place in the country. Am I crazy or is this something of the norm?
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| May 21, 2006 @ 12:48 PM |
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BrwnBoticelliLady
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Funny, but I'm considering a move from So Cal for the very same reason. My three year relationship ended over a year ago, and I am still in shock. I've tried dating a few times, but people are not serious about what they want. I wish you peace and good luck.
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 4:14 PM |
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masaca
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I Never will get over it. It may dissipate a bit, but the relationship I had with her will always linger. 
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 5:23 PM |
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YellowRoseBaby
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Yes, you do get over it....I divorced after a 20 year marriage the only thing that was hard for me to get over was losing 20 years of my Life....No regrets getting rid of my ex.....But, I am still Living in the same area. There are Lot of us good People left, Its Just hard finding the same ones with the same Interest, We have to Take chance, and Unforunately I do Take chances...Just Very Scary. Keep your Chin Up and Keep good Faith the Right one is out there somewhere, and will Find you sooner or Later
Good Luck... Jan 
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| Aug 16, 2006 @ 10:34 PM |
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southernheat
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i believe if you really loved someone ,you never get over it,life does go on and that person is a part of who you are so embrase it. remember fondfully 
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| Aug 23, 2006 @ 6:54 AM |
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californiatrucker
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I agree southernheat.  I just lost a year and a half relationship with a lady I thought I was going to grow old with. I will remember the good times, and the loss will fade with time, but she will always have a special place in my heart. But, as you said, life goes on. Either pine for what was lost  , or get back on the horse and start riding again  . Life is too short to dwell on things (or people) that you can't have.
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| Aug 23, 2006 @ 11:46 AM |
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lunartemptation
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I agree with S.Heat as well.
It's been over 3 years for me and I am just now ready to meet people (hence why I came here....) and am slowly starting to remember things with ...still a sad heart but can now smile when I think of certain things.
I had to rid myself of many items, repaint my place, all sorts of things. I did save a few pics for later years as he was part of my life and a major reason for some huge personal growth. He will always be in my heart just because of that.
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| Jun 15, 2007 @ 8:48 PM |
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WyldNcrazySkeir
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Hey, I understand where you are coming from and for some of us, it just takes a while. For me it was a 20 year marriage which ended a little over a year ago. I didn't realize I was still carrying a torch and hoping to get back together until my ex found a lover. I franticly pulled out all stops to try a last ditch effort (too late) at reconciliation. Totally frustrated, but also realizing I'd done everything I could do to reconcile, I came up with a solution as to how I could move on....I mentally killed my marriage and then gave it a 'Wake'.
Basically went to the bar connected to a bowling alley I have league at, told the staff there (that I knew from bowling) what I was up to and asked that when (not if) I got too sloshed to please call a taxi and send me to the nearest hotel, then I proceeded to have a great time making a fool of myself! Buying the bouncers, barmaids multiple shots and the whole bar at least one round, whooping (and getting whooped) at pool. The last thing I remember was getting into a chugging contest with a couple guys half my age, spilling 1/2 of a 32 ounce mug of beer down my shirt, and spinning the huge mug in the air and seeing it crash to a zillion pieces on the bar floor.
When I woke up, I was in the car of a good Samaritan bouncer who was driving me around to find a room. Suffice to say, it worked and I've begun dating. I think sometimes you need to draw a mental line in the sand, jump over it and then move on. I don't recommend doing what I did, but after a reasonable amount of time, you need to find what works for you so you too can move on. Once you allow yourself to do so, life gets gradually, but infinitely better.
Good luck to all those who are new to the date scene!
BTW - I never did find a room. It was weird that on a Tuesday night, there wasn't a single room available. Could it have been because everytime we walked up to the hotel counter I yelled at the top of my lungs COCKTAILS!!!!!!!!
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