| Sep 7, 2006 @ 5:52 PM |
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hot_blonde
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I would like to hear from the guys who are attracted to Mature women and not women of there own age.... and the reason im asking is because i got so slammed on another forum that i curious to hear from others on this sight. Also if you are not attracted feel free to post as well...I love open minded people.....(of all ages)
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| Sep 8, 2006 @ 2:13 PM |
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outlaw_star
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Actually Hot Blonde, I think its the old childhood myth, rumor, urban legend that starts in 6th or 7th grade and goes on thru high school about how mature ladies are extremely 'hot to trot" and are willing to cheat on their husbands because he isnt performing in bed or the other one concerning divorced women who are 'hot to trot' now they are single again and not 'getting it' on a regular basis.
Or the college rumor about how a older women will 'take care' of you financially and with 'other things'.
I myself think you was not 'slammed' on the other forum post but was asking a honest question. the people who responded on the other hand....
I myself prefer a mature woman (within the 7 yr age difference) due to the fact they arent as immature or jealous as a 18 or 25 yr old are. They are easy to talk to and dont get quickly offended if you tease or joke around with them. There is some things you can talk about and some hobbies you may be able to share with them or you can teach each other about. But thats just me Hot Blonde.
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| Sep 8, 2006 @ 4:26 PM |
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hot_blonde
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Thank you outlaw for your view. I get alot of answers from younger men that i meet or chat with and alot of them say some of the same things.
I have alot of gal friends that are close to my age and they say "I wish i could do that" i ask what and they say "go out with younger men". It is sad that some women still let the old ways people think or should i say the way some people think stop them from doing things or at least try different things. Well, not me... i guess i have always been a bit of a rebel...Mom would say "you can't do that" and thats what i WOULD do...lol
Don't get me wrong, i respect everyones view but i will still do what i feel is good for me.
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| Sep 13, 2006 @ 9:21 PM |
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Kenn159
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I think outlaw is correct,its a bit of the Mrs Robenson syndrum.
I also think some of these guys are not successful with women there own age and know that some older women will date them just for the novelty of knowing they are younger,some women see this as a big ego boost and turn on to be desired by a man in the prime of his life..
They probably also have heard the statistics that state a single divorced 40 year old women has a better chance on getting struck by lightning than finding a man,so they feel they have a better odds from a numbers stand point..
I dont know were they comeup with those kind of statistics as seen on shows like oprah and many womens magazines ,but I personally dont think it is anywhere close to accurate ,but i guess what is the point and what is fairly acurate ,is the male to female ratio changes as we age ,the older we get, the fewer available single men because of alot of factors like war,men jobs tend to be more dangerous and a higher mortality and the shorter life spand of males.
These are probably a few reasons
P.S.
Given are examples of guys that specifically seeks out older women ,although some guys may just make a connection with a women and the connection is real enough that age is not a factor,this is a different motivation ,in this situation age is not even a consideration.
[Edited on 9/13/2006 9:35 PM]
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| Sep 13, 2006 @ 10:50 PM |
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eyesonyou
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who in there right mind would not be attrative to hot_blone now i tell you shes hot and she has it going on....
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 1:21 AM |
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misteriosa
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That is a good question! I think both Kenn and outlaw have it packed down. I have a sister that is 42 and her boyfriend is 30. They were living together and have been dating for about 10 years now. He moved out, but they still date. The situation is very different when you are on the inside looking out from when you are on the outside looking in. I say this because from what I saw he is a very good looking man but was only interested in what she gave him and what she could do for him. Once he got everything he wanted from her nice brand name clothes, a car, jewelry among other material things he moved out. This gives him the freedom to date other women but still has her to go to in case he can't get what he is looking for...(sex)..But no matter how you stress this out to her she is still on the inside. I am not saying all men are like this. And if you prefer younger men then that is your choice. And situations differ. Who knows!!! I don't..I am not a man but I have seen many situations like this. Maybe one day we will find out 
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 4:15 PM |
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gerry1225
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I think its a fantasy. Everybody has their own fantasy and i admit i was and think still am attracted to older women who takes good care of themselves. Women are more experience in life and are more independent which is a turn on for me. A big plus if she is open minded and outgoing. I consider myself average looking,and after my ex broke up with me 3 yrs ago i dated women from 18 to 46 and really enjoyed the 40s crowd. !8 yrs old is too much drama and drama decreases in age in the majority of the women and of course the sex is unbelievable.
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 5:04 PM |
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PaganWench
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Being an older woman who has younger lovers (my last boyfriend was 15 years my junior [32] and the relationship lasted 6 years and I'm the one that wanted out, not him, he's still begging me to come back even though he has moved out of state, I am currently dating a 30yr old and a 37yr old)
a friend sent this to me:
"How older women snag younger guys"
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By Phillip Thompson
RedEye
February 23, 2006, 9:44 AM EST
CHICAGO -- Tracy Tedesco is smart -- she spent 20 years as a corporate
recruiter.
She's funny -- most professional comedians are, or at least should be.
She's hot -- and she knows it. At 41, Chicago comedian Tracy Tedesco is beating back guys in their 20s like she was giving away Xboxes.
Tedesco is the definition of an "urban cougar."
The label used to be an unflattering characterization of middle-aged,
boy-hungry single women. But as more women shed the traditional taboos
about age and dating, the name has been taken on as a badge of
empowerment by sexy, older professional women who prefer the physical
and spiritual qualities of younger men.
Look no further than the celebrity world for proof that the movement is
growing. Some of Hollywood's hottest actresses have taken on younger
mates, and a number of male celebrities in TV and music have chosen
girlfriends who are several years their senior.
Also called "vets" in some circles, these women are the subject of a
book by Valerie Gibson called "Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating
Younger Men," and a movie in development called "Cougars," about a
divorced executive in her 40s who pursues a young stud and falls in
love. WGCI (107.5-FM) DJ Howard McGee tackled the topic of older women
dating younger men during his radio show this week.
In a Yahoo! Personals survey released in September, 56 percent of women
and 51 percent of men said they would date someone 10 years younger
than them. (To be a true cougar couple, there has to be an age difference of
at least seven years, Gibson told RedEye.) The survey found that
slightly more men -- 52 percent -- were willing to date a woman up to
10 years older than them. Several online dating services have sprouted up
to capitalize on the trend. One such site, urbancougar.com, touts
itself as the definitive source of cougar culture.
Co-founder and President Cash Money acknowledges that some people think
of "cougar" as a derogatory stereotype--a woman who's "old, wrinkly,
desperate, hooking up with younger dudes because she wasn't able to
find a man her age." But that's not the case, he said: "It should be a word
of empowerment."
Cougars can be long-term lovers or one-and-dones, flashy or
sophisticated, but each is "an independent woman who enjoys the
pleasure of younger men because they are no longer interested in men their own
age," said Money, 29, who uses that name for business reasons.
The company president once was "prey"--young catch for cougars--and
co-founded the site three years ago with a friend as a tongue-in-cheek
homage to the women they dated. The site, which is based in San
Francisco but has users from across the country, evolved into an online
matchmaking service in 2004, he said.
"If you read the site, we're not making fun of cougars by any means,"
Money said in a phone interview. "Women love it, it brings attention
and reinforces this behavior." Now the company is developing a half-hour
dark TV comedy about cougars and prey through Warner Bros. Money hopes
a pilot will be completed by fall. The surge in cougar couples isn't just
a passing fad, Money said.
Barbie Adler of Chicago-based matchmaking company Selective Search
agrees. Although most of her clients are men, she said "there is a
swing in older women seeking younger counterparts."
"I think older women like that younger men treat them well, are
sweeter," Adler said. "Men are definitely captivated by their life
experience as well." Conversely, many of Adler's older male
clients--"grey panthers" as some call themselves--opt for younger women
because they are looking for child-bearers, want trophies or "find it
refreshing that younger women have a sunnier outlook on life," she
said.
Once the attraction wears off, however, a lot of men find they have
little in common with their young wives, she said.
Among cougars, Adler also cautions the marriage-minded and the
biological tick-tockers to think carefully about the lifestyle. "Is
this really going to last long-term?" she asked.
"There can definitely be a spark in the bedroom between younger guys
and older women," she said. "But if an older woman is really looking to
settle down, they have to make sure they're not wasting time just for
fun."
That is a concern for Tedesco.
She did not expect to be in the position she's in--she wanted to be
married and have kids by now. But after dating only older men much of
her dating life, something changed when she hit 35.
People began complimenting how young and in shape she looked for her
age, including young men who were starting to hit on her more often,
she said. "I remember the first guy was 28 years old, walked up to me in a
crowd, and I'm looking, I'm like 'Dude, I'm 36.' And then he looked at
me like, 'Like I care.'"
Tedesco went on a few dates with him--her first dip into
cougardom--"then I realized, why do I care?"
She has dated several younger guys in the past five or six years,
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 5:10 PM |
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PaganWench
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the message cut off for length I guess, here is the rest of it
People began complimenting how young and in shape she looked for her
age, including young men who were starting to hit on her more often,
she said. "I remember the first guy was 28 years old, walked up to me in a
crowd, and I'm looking, I'm like 'Dude, I'm 36.' And then he looked at
me like, 'Like I care.'"
Tedesco went on a few dates with him--her first dip into
cougardom--"then I realized, why do I care?"
She has dated several younger guys in the past five or six years,
including one 24-year-old, when she was 37.
"On my 40th birthday, I hooked up with a 21-year-old. And my friends
were like, 'What have you done to this youngster?' "
Tedesco said she didn't set out to target younger men, but reasoned
that older men and women share similar traits--busy schedules, personal
baggage, changing attitudes--that act as barriers to dating each other.
And the well-traveled comedian said there aren't a lot of available
older men in the Midwest who are heterosexual and in shape.
"I don't care how hot you are as a chick, by the time you're 40, you
realize that a chunk of the guys are gay ... and a chunk are losers
living in the basement with big huge guts. Sixty percent are married,
and you've got a really limited group that you have to play with,"
Tedesco said. "And that group has figured it out, because the
accountant with the comb-over wearing the leisure suit now has an attitude."
Copyright (c) 2006, South Florida Sun-Sentinel
Visit Sun-Sentinel.com
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 6:32 PM |
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hot_blonde
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I LOVE IT>>>>LOL that was a grea post......
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 6:44 PM |
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hot_blonde
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Quots: I think its a fantasy. Everybody has their own fantasy and i admit i was and think still am attracted to older women who takes good care of themselves. Women are more experience in life and are more independent which is a turn on for me. A big plus if she is open minded and outgoing. I consider myself average looking,and after my ex broke up with me 3 yrs ago i dated women from 18 to 46 and really enjoyed the 40s crowd. !8 yrs old is too much drama and drama decreases in age in the majority of the women and of course the sex is unbelievable.
Alot of the younger men i chat with say pretty much what your saying...thanks for the honesty 
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| Sep 15, 2006 @ 2:56 PM |
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Kenn159
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Quote
Cougars can be long-term lovers or one-and-dones, flashy or
sophisticated, but each is "an independent woman who enjoys the
pleasure of younger men because they are no longer interested in men their own
age," said Money, 29, who uses that name for business reasons.
Reply
What a bunch of Fluff,did you pull this from the Star?
I feel If you are no longer attracted to a person of the opposite sex your own age, then you need to rexamine youself and what is it in a person that attracts you.
This definately sounds very superficial to me,you can cloke this in a bunch of "this is the modern women speech ",but this is a classic example of being obsest over the outer package with no real consideration over who they really are as people .
Thoughts,dreams aspections and what we believe are part of make us who we are and are not exclusive to people of a certain age,and these are the real qualities of a person that makes them desirable ,not the number of years on the planet.
If I went by your philosophy,you would be very undesirable because you are [gasp], 40 something !
Dont expect to be valued as you get older if you cant value others of your own age as they get older.
And saying that younger men are better and more date worthy is doing that .
I have no problem with the philosophy that age is just a number,and for people that date younger [within reason] or older ,its more about the person.
But I still think,whether its a man or a women ,If you ONLY date and are attracted to people your kids age ,then there is a problem and you are in denile about you own age and were you are in life.
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| Sep 15, 2006 @ 9:20 PM |
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hot_blonde
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LOL...Hey now i like reading the Star....LOL..figures  right...
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| Sep 15, 2006 @ 10:24 PM |
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m0002
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that is what i have been saying all along ken!!
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 8:41 AM |
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hot_blonde
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Well, i guess in you guys eyes im "in denile" than....i mean i don't really date men my sons age but some of them aren't much older...i have to tell you that when you read my book someday you might understand. LOL- maybe
I am very happy with my age and i see some ladys that are my age and look like they have just given in to the "iam getting older so i don't care what i look like "stage and i am glad that i am 49 and have made it through every crazy things life has thrown at me.
I hold my head high and am happy with me. It took me a long time to be happy with my own company but im just that, at this point.
To tell you the truth i haven't dated in a while and thats fine with me.
I AM HAPPY in my own skin and i do not feel like iam in deniel by any means.
Im a proud mother of a 33year old and a 30 years old and 3 grandchildren and i let anyone i date regardless of age they are, so i have to say Ken, i don't put myself in your last quote at all sweety......
I think everyone should be happy and let everyone else be happy...it is all our right...No matter if they are dateing people older, younger, are in an unhappy relationship, unhappy marriage...it is all our own chooice and thats why we live in America..Freedom of chooice...Right?
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 11:05 AM |
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juanjoseso
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because they are more mature and and better then younger. younger girls are just too immatureand dumb
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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outlaw_star
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ok, new subject: why are younger women attracted to men older then themselves?
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 1:58 PM |
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youngatheart504
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YOU HAVE IT GOING FOR YOURSELF. YOU GO GIRL!! WISH I COULD BE THAT OPEN ABOUT DATING YOUNGER MEN. I AM 64 DO NOT LOOK IT AND FOR SURE DONOT ACT IT. THE MEN AROUND MY AGE GROUP WANT TO GO TO BED B4 SUN GOES DOWN AND GET UP TO WAKE UP THE ROOSTERS AS FOR THE BEDROOM PART LOL LOL HOPE I GET GET PAST THIS WITH YOUNGER MEN BUT TILL THEM U GO GIRL
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 2:34 PM |
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m0002
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well younger at heart... that is all younger men, want but is that ok because they are younger??
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 4:02 PM |
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hot_blonde
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Sure it is...why not?
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