| Sep 11, 2006 @ 4:12 PM |
Whats up with all the rude people today?
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kps46635
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I am over 40 and it seems that there are so many more rude people today than there were in the past.
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 5:06 PM |
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hot_blonde
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I being rude trying to get a point across?
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 5:06 PM |
Whats up with all the rude people today?
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hot_blonde
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IS (sorry)
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 7:02 PM |
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suzieq0808
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HB, You can edit your post for at least a couple of hours after it's posted. Seems I almost always catch a type AFTER posting. ;-)
Yes, I had an interesting experience recently. I was at a meeting, waiting for it to begin. It was mostly young people. The facilitator brought 3 bottles of water. He offered his two extra to whomever. Someone took one. The others were arguing about NOT taking the last one. I said, "Well, if ya'll are going to argue, I'll take it. I'm thirsty." One of the kids said, "No, I'll take it," took the water and started drinking it. I thought, "Oh my god! Give the old lady the water ya little brat!!" He was about 20; I'm 50. I was looking forward to the respect I was always taught to give my elders. It appears that I ain't gettin' none of THAT!!. Sheesh!! My kids are way better than that.
[Edited on 9/11/2006 8:41 PM]
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 7:10 PM |
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kps46635
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Know what you mean. I was the youngest of 10 kids and they way I have seen kidding talking to parent today. My parents or grandparents would never have put up with it. Growing up in the 60's I am beginning to wonder where all the values went.
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 8:08 PM |
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jfreak68
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You know where they went, they went out when the government decided that we as parents are no longer able to punish our kids, for fear of losing them to the state for child abuse!!!! How sad is that!!! PRETTY SAD!!!!! 
[Edited on 9/11/2006 9:20 PM]
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 9:17 PM |
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jackf1950
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OK, and I ain't gonna comment to JF about spankin, and stuff 
but, when I was growing up, even in school, I could bring home a "D" and be told, you can work on stupid, but if I ever(and I did not) brought home an unsatisfactory in conduct... I would have gottn beat so hard.....
still not smokin, 28 whole days!!!!! 
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 9:22 PM |
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jfreak68
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Woo Hoo Jack almost a month!!! Way to go!!! Gee when I was grwoing up I didn't do to much wrong my dad had a big thick belt he called the pepsi belt, all he had to do is mention that belt and we knew we better shape up....
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 9:24 PM |
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Kenn159
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I believe there is one reason for this ..and its because everyone sucks except me  ,JUST KIDDING.
OK seriously,I think there are actually many reasons ,starting with the media focus on negative examples of the worst of what humanity has to offer.
How many times has dateline or inside edition or whatever else show, run storys on a wife murdered by husband ,husband murdered by wife ,young women killed by boy friend etc in a long drawn out titillating story ,all this obsesive focus on the worst traits of humanity makes us paranoid and distrustful.
Yes the media has the obligation to inform us about the relevant issues whether good or bad ,but the over whelming majority unlike reality ,dwell into the depths of dispair over issues we cannot change ,and this inturn breeds distrust and paranoia,an example would be how much time did the media devote to ending or reducing poverty [something we can all actually play a part in changing ],compared to the Jon Benet murder ,in which the child was already dead ,and the rerunning of the clips of her dancing and playing in the junior pagent does nothing more that just make the viewer feel distrusting ,because what kind of monster would do this ,along with sadness and dispair because this young life was ended to soon .
The media has this incredable power to influence feeling and emotion ,the media should be a mirror of our societies beliefs aspirations and goals ,not a warped prizm created to mold the human mind to maximize profits for the media and big business.
A government that controls media, controls human will,their asperations and their beliefs..
We need to be more distrusting ,not of each other ,but from the unrealistic distorted reality that media creates that is effecting how we interact with one another.
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 8:16 PM |
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eyesonyou
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i would say that there many reasons why kids or rude these days ..when i was growing up..we sat down at the table to have lunch or dinner .. back then both parents did not have to work and now days both parents have to work and that leaves the children alone so they can hang out with the wrong crowd and get in trouble. and back when i was growing up my parents could give me a spanking and you would remember these spankings.... today kids know they can go to school and tell the teachers..etc... and then we know children and family come out ,and the case workers dont have children but they tell you how to raise your children
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 8:42 PM |
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witchietoo
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Both my parents worked, I picked up my much younger brother and sister from the sitters on the way home from school. My father a lot of times worked two jobs so we could have things and take vacations. There are 4 of us kids and not one of us would ever have thought to talk back to our parents or show any disrespect to any adult. The worst thing I said to my dad when I was about 16 was excuse me for living I didn't ask to be born. To this day, my mother picks on me about that, she thought I was going to get killed. My dad was a cop, so a lot of times he wasn't home when we had dinner, but if we messed up and were in trouble, he made time to stop by the house while on patrol. Of course I was the problem child and spent a lot of time grounded, with a sore butt and in my room. Like Jack, grades didn't get you a good kick in the butt, but attitude did. Even now at 45, I don't curse or smoke in front of my parents...to me it is just a respect thing.
I look at my friends kids and listen to how they talk to their parents in total disbelief. I have asked my girlfriend what her parents would have done if she talked to them like that and her reply was that she wouldn't be able to sit for a week. Everytime she has gone to give her now 15 year old a smack in the ass, the kid threatens to call HRS so she backs off. So, I put some of the blame on HRS and what they put people through that don't deserve it. I have seen what kind of hell they can cause with a family when a child is crying wolf. It's not fun for anyone. The one good thing the state has done is change that law so you can spank your child as long as you don't leave a mark.
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| Sep 13, 2006 @ 9:48 AM |
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kps46635
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If one of my siblings ever said that to my mother she would have told them to call and that they would then get it twice as bad. Perhaps if the parents stood up and did there job with kids there would not be a problem. It sound like the inmates are running the show. Besides the parent should toss the butts out. Reality Check!
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 2:42 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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I do not believe there is a correlation about the use of corporal punishment and a young persons ability to NOT be rude. Discipline is about learning self control and being taught appropriate behavior. The use of physical punishment teaches children to comply by fear and gives a message that violence is okay method to resolve conflict. I agree that television can influence children's behavior to a degree just about every sitcom on television shows kids mouthing off to their parents. I think the very best way to influence childrens behavior is by demonstrating respect toward others yourself and serve as a positive role model. I think we are living in a very ego-centric world these days everyone is looking out for themselves before they do others. I am the motorist on the road that will let cars merge when others will not. I will still let people go ahead of me in the grocery line. I will always hold the door for the next person coming. I still use my manners. My parents taught me well and I was rarely ever spanked as a child.
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| Sep 22, 2006 @ 9:15 PM |
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Kenn159
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Amen Dove ,you are always very insightful.
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| Sep 22, 2006 @ 10:35 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Thank you Ken.. I try my best 
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 10:59 AM |
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eAngel6969
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OK...I cannot resist stepping in here. First, let me start by saying I'm not a "kid type person" and any of my friends can tell you that. However, I'd never wish any harm on a child and so help me to witness it started...
That said, I believe that just like diet...not everything is going to work across the board for everyone. In some instances, teaching a child manners and appropriate behavior will be taken to heart and that will be that. In some instances, spanking is a necessity. But it shouldn't turn in to a public whooping.
I remember once that I got a spanking when I was younger. I never got a spanking again. If I was acting innappropriately I'd get "the look"...and I'm sure many of you on here can relate to "the look." The look meant if I didn't stop immediately (my innappropriate behavior), there would be punishment waiting at home.
You can't always reason with a child and they spend enough time away from home that it is not the parent who exercises the most influence over them growing up. Parents both working, etc...people don't put the time into "family" that they once did. So any good re-enforcement of appropriate behavior at home often flies out the window - being undone by other children at school, the teacher who chose the wrong profession and gets walked all over and doesn't exhibit commanding respect as an elder, T.V shows that glorify violence and make IT seems the norm(without there being any discussion about the fact that it's just TV)...
As an example, anyone on here with kids who are still living at home, be it single or in a 2 parent household, when was the last time the family sat down together for a meal that was at home? Everyone ate together without a TV on and actually had a conversation about their day?
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 3:32 PM |
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outlaw_star
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ok, Going to go off the topic slightly, but the main reason is why a lot of people are rude today is no one is enforcing the rules in business and other places.
At the public library I go to, you have little kids running around like wild animals while their parents are looking at books elsewhere and people talking on cell phones. The Library has a rule about taking any and all cell phone calls into the lobby but its never enforced, same with the little kids running around like wild animals. Makes me wonder if the parents are teaching their kids that a public place is suppose to be considered a playground.
Retailers are scared to lose customers and the customers know it. All they have to say is the magic words: "I'm not going to come here anymore" or if its a airline "I'm not going to fly this airline anymore".
I bet IF we banned these same people from shopping and/or flying anymore and start enforcing the rules then people might get it into their thick heads that their attitude is annoying to other people and they MIGHT change. But thats VERY doubtful since society is too scared to change and retailers are too afraid to lose money from these rude people.
[Edited on 9/23/2006 4:24 PM]
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 3:54 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Excellent point Outlaw. I get frustrated at movie theatres when certain individuals of all ages chat through the film , or fail to turn their cell phone off. I think cell phones users need a course in etiquette. I do not want to hear your private conversation in a restaurant or while you grocery shop . However I do not think this will ever change unfortunately.
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 4:14 PM |
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eAngel6969
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i had a "friend" once who basically took the attitude that she was a mother 1005 of the time with her child at home...so when she was out at friends' houses or other places...it was ok to be less strict with the child because if it bothered someone...then they'd discipline her child for her...so she kind of looked at the public outing like free babysitting while she was in close proximity...
she is not a friend any longer...especially after her child found a permanent black marker in her purse and started trying to mark up my furniture with it - when i asked her to take the marker away or stop her monster(i didn't call the little hitler a monster, i did say son)...she just laughed and said kids will be kids...grrr. that was her last visit to my home.
i just think the rudenss of today is taught and re-enforced everywhere and whatever limited time the family has to mold behvaior gets undone - if there is any at all
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| Sep 23, 2006 @ 4:55 PM |
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outlaw_star
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eAngel, IF someone's kid did that to my furniture, I would give the mother 1 and only 1 warning to handle it before I took matters into my own hands and snatched that marker from the kid's hand and take him over my knee and give him a good spanking. IF the mother didnt like it just say "you had your chance and blew it! Now leave!"
Hope she offered to pay for the damages eAngel but I seriously doubt it.
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