| Oct 19, 2006 @ 1:32 AM |
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witchietoo
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I'm sorry Jack....guess you and I both need a bit of JF's good luck....at least things are getting better for her...while I know for me they seem to be going to 
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| Oct 19, 2006 @ 5:42 AM |
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jackf1950
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well, I admit, she had told me she liked some of my forum post ,that let me know she read them... and on a search I saw she had been on THIS site yesterday, so, I posted on this....
and yes, I got the blanks, less empty, if not filled in.
yep, I can be crafty..
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| Oct 19, 2006 @ 7:52 AM |
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jfreak68
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I come on every day, I read the forums everyday, I just don't post on them everyday, depends on whether or not I have something to say on them or not.... And also depends on how I am feeling at the time.... 
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| Oct 19, 2006 @ 9:43 AM |
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Brighteyes370
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I've got one to blow everyones mind. I recently ended a two and a half year relationship with someone who proposed marriage and I accepted, things got alot rough in our relationship when I confronted him about all the lies I found out he told me. Thinking this would make our relationship stronger that he could finally get everything out in the open, that he did not have to hide anymore, and that he could see that I was still willing to be just as confident, loving, and supportive in our relationship as I always have, among other things, what does he go out and do. He buys the internet for his laptop and goes into these chat rooms and finds the first vulnerable woman that will believe the same lies I believed and he cheats on me with her. Then he tries to pit the two of us against each other so he can sit back and feel wonderful about himself that women are playing tug of war for his affection. When he is with me, and she calls on the phone he would tell me, she keeps calling him that he doesn't want anything to do with her, calls her all kinds of names ect. When he is with her he is constantly ringing my phone. One time he called my cellphone 400 times, he called the house phone all day long when I was out of work. I tried to show her what he was doing by having her listen to my voice messages and the dates and times. Finally, I figured out that somewhere along the way I lost him, and I am not about to play second fiddle in no relationship, I went and had myself tested and I showed him the results and I politely initiated the process of backing out. Now he is with her, and is telling her that all that she is doing for him, I never wanted to do anything for him. The truth be told, he never had nothing, He didn't have a pot to piss in nor a window to throw it out of. I lost alot in this relationship but I also gained alot too. (wisdom) So those of us who find ourselves troubled in our spirit. Please if your gut feeling is telling you something, be wise and listen. I will not stir you wrong.
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| Oct 19, 2006 @ 7:00 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Brighteyes I am terribly sorry you had to go through something like that. Even though it hurts he did you a favor. He sure seems to need his ego fed in a very dysfuntional way. Rest assured he will do this again to her. She will now inherit your heartache. You appear to be a compassionate and forgiving person and there will be someone that will appreciate you and treat you with the respect you deserve.
Jack do you have a phone number for the lady you met? Or have you just been communicating on line? I know you can be two ships in the night passing each other on line. Though it would be nice for her to answer your messages. If you call and she ignores the call then her actions will be speaking louder then words. I truely do not understand why people can disregard others feelings so easily.
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| Oct 20, 2006 @ 2:17 PM |
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outlaw_star
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Mimosa 13, first time I saw you was on AS 2 yrs ago and I loved that one pic of you, (fiesty smile and arms on hips) if memory serves. But at the time you was looking for a Auston Kuchter type of guy. Now I see you have returned to MD under a different screen name and have changed your profile slightly. So, it makes me wonder about the games you are playing now? Still looking for a 23 yr old or someone slightly more seasoned?
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| Oct 20, 2006 @ 2:34 PM |
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MikiSunshine
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Okay, I'll agree with you all about the honesty thing and no playing games. But what is it with guys who think it's perfectly alright to start talking about previous conquests they've made through online dating when they're on the first date with you? This actually happened to me. We met online, emailed and chatted awhile, then did the phone thing for almost a month. We finally met and I always prefer my first meet to be for coffee so there's no awkward dinner or anything else to get over. If we hit it off, fine, if we don't, neither one of us wasted a lot of time. 
So this guy meets me for coffee and we hit it off well eough to go to dinner. We drive across the street to Friday's and for some odd reason, during dinner, he proceeds to tell me of how many other women he's met online and then met at that very Friday's. He even tells me of one he got busy with in the back seat of her car. Come on guys! What makes a man think it's alright to talk like this?
Talk about playing games. I couldn't even finish my dinner. When we said goodbye and he asked to see me again, I openly told him no thanks. Wish I'd stuck to coffee. 
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| Oct 21, 2006 @ 10:05 AM |
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Kenn159
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So this guy meets me for coffee and we hit it off well eough to go to dinner. We drive across the street to Friday's and for some odd reason, during dinner, he proceeds to tell me of how many other women he's met online and then met at that very Friday's. He even tells me of one he got busy with in the back seat of her car. Come on guys! What makes a man think it's alright to talk like this?
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I can only assume he was trying to impress you with his past conquest and trying to let you know he is in high demand.and popular with the ladies.
Pretty silly approach though,I dont blame you for leaving..
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| Oct 21, 2006 @ 11:30 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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I can hardly imagine this guy having many conquests with a mentality like that..... I bet he does not have a clue why he cant get a second date.
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| Nov 13, 2006 @ 9:39 PM |
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catchcatch
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Why do people play games?? 1.Because its fun. 2. because people tend to act on emotion and not reason.
NOW LISTEN IF SOMEONE DOES NOT CALL YOU BACK OR DISSAPEARS THEY ARE NOT PLAYING GAMES. THEY ARE NOT LEAVING YOU HANGING. THEY ARE NOT CONTACTING YOU BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE YOU WHY DO YOU NEED TO HEAR THE WORDS? ITS OBVIOUS DUH. STOP HAVING CLOSURE ISSUE'S! IF HE'S NOT CALLING YOU HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU.
BY THE WAY IT DOESEN'T MATTER HOW BUSY SOMEONE IS IF THEY LIKE YOU YOU WILL BE THE ONE BRIGHT SPOT IN THEIR HECTIC DAY. NOBODY IS TO BUSY FOR A 5 MINUTE PHONE CALL OR TO EMAIL OR TO TEXT OR TO MYSPACE THEY CAN PICK ONE THEY HAVE THE TIME. GET OVER ALL THE PEOPLE WHO NEVER WANT TO TALK TO YOU AGAIN.
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| Nov 13, 2006 @ 10:00 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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NOW LISTEN IF SOMEONE DOES NOT CALL YOU BACK OR DISSAPEARS THEY ARE NOT PLAYING GAMES. THEY ARE NOT LEAVING YOU HANGING.
I would have to disagree strongly.An individual who thinks its perfectly okay to exhibit such immature and childish behavior is playing games. If an individual is not into you they should have the integrity to verbally express their feelings. Anything less shows no backbone and no respect for others feelings. Children have to develop social graces, they are not born knowing how. These individuals who simply vanish without explanation are still children that have not learned their lessons well. Children play games rather well.
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| Nov 13, 2006 @ 10:23 PM |
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witchietoo
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I have to agree with you on that one Dove. Same with people you talk to for months almost daily and then out of nowhere you never hear from them again....to me that is playing games. Even if it isn't on a romantic level, to cut off all communication and not give a reason is being immature and playing games with peoples heads.
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| Nov 13, 2006 @ 10:26 PM |
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catchcatch
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IF SOMEONE IS NOT CONTACTING YOU OR CALLING YOU ITS OBVIOUS THAT THEY DONT LIKE YOU ISN'T IT SELF EVIDENT? ( THEY ARE TELLING YOU THEY DON'T LIKE YOU BY NOT CALLING YOU )!
WHY ARE PEOPLE SO SILLY THAT THEY DON'T GET THAT. IF YOU THINK IT'S CHILDISH WHY WOULD YOU EVEN CARE IF YOU HEARD FROM THEM AGAIN DOVE?
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| Nov 13, 2006 @ 10:45 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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CatchCatch I guess I will never understand people with a lack of social graces. If I meet someone and it is not working out I will simply inform them of my feelings in a kind and compassionate manner. To leave someone hanging with no explanation is simply wrong and speaks volumes about the character of that individual. I can not comprehend doing that to someone nor would I want someone to do that to me. I would want little to do with someone who is capable of that kind of behavior. However what you just said makes no sense. They would have to do the childish behavior before deeming them as childish. The Disappearing act is what makes them childlike. Once they are gone I would not reinforce their behavior by making any contact of any sort.
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| Nov 13, 2006 @ 10:58 PM |
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witchietoo
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IF YOU THINK IT'S CHILDISH WHY WOULD YOU EVEN CARE IF YOU HEARD FROM THEM AGAIN DOVE?
In this day and age, a lot of my "friends" are people online that I never met in person. I have a friend in Ireland that I have talked to almost daily for 3 years now. If all of a sudden I stopped hearing from him, I would think something happened to him. If he stopped talking because he didn't want to be "friends" that is fine, tell me....but if it was because something happened to him...sick, dead whatever.....I would never know. I would rather know the truth then worry that something terrible has happened to the person. One guy I know in WA stopped talking to me for almost three months, turned out he had no way to get a hold of me and was in the hospital and rehab due to a stroke....so it isn't always because the person doesn't like you...life isn't always that simple.
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| Nov 14, 2006 @ 2:20 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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Witche this is true when there is no explanation nor obvious reason for someone to slip off the face of the earth you do worry about them.There was a guy that lived in Miami that I chatted with every day for about six months, we talked on the phone too. Then one day out of the blue he was gone. No explantion of any sort. A few months later he reappeared and it turned out that he had been in a bad accident. I was so happy that he was alright.
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| Nov 14, 2006 @ 2:59 AM |
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catchcatch
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WELLDONT WORRY ABOUT THEM THEY ARE NOT DEAD AN THEY ARE NOT KIDDNAPPED AN THEY ARE NOT IN AN ACCIDENT THEY JUST DONT WANT TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE BECAUSE IF THEY DO TELL U HEY I DONT WANT TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE YOU WILL MAKE A BIG DEAL OF IT AN WANT TO KNOW WHY AN THEY DONT KNOW WHY THEY JUST KNOW THEY DONT LIKEU ANYMORE YOU DONT NEED TO KNOW IF THEY DONT CALL U WHY THEY DONT WANT TO TALK TO YOU AN YOU KEEP SAYING THAT IS IMATURE WELL IF IT IS IMATURE WHY DO YOU CARE?DISREGAURD THEM AS OUT OF YOUR LIFE EXCEPT IT INSTEAD OF PINEING OVER IT. THEY DO NOT LIKE YOU THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU OR WANT TO BE FRIENDS THARS WHY THEY NEVE WANTED TO BE YOUR BOYFRIEND STOP MAKING EXCUSES OR COMPLAINING ABOUT HO W THEY DID YOU WRONG THE FACT THAT THEY ARE NO LONGER CONTACTING YOU SHOWS THAT THEY DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO U ANYMORE WHO CARES Y IF U CARE U ARE A FAT LOSER END OF STORY. IF YOU WERE BUSY WITH YOUR OWN LIFE U WOULDN'T BE SUCH A PUNK ASS
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| Nov 14, 2006 @ 3:12 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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No punctuation and all Caps makes it really hard for you to get your point across. Someone sounds extremely bitter.. you remind me of someone I know.
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| Nov 14, 2006 @ 5:07 AM |
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witchietoo
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you remind me of someone I know
yes it does...considering no one was whining and lets see didn't we say people not just men and I know I even said when it wasn't on a romantic level.....hummm didn't I say it would be back
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| Nov 14, 2006 @ 6:54 AM |
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jackf1950
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I am amazed you 2 didnt get it from the first post..............
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