| Feb 13, 2007 @ 12:36 AM |
I'm so confused!!
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witchietoo
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Ok, this one is for the men, seeing I clearly don't understand men at all.
There was this guy I went out with a few times and use to talk to all the time online and on the phone. He lives about 2 hours away, so we didn't see each other that often. The first time we met, he brought me a dozen roses (I have one of them on my dresser) was very sweet and romantic. I was falling for him big time to say the least. Due to NO fault of his own, I messed everything up. My mom was very ill, had to have emergency surgery for the third time, they didn't know if she was going to make it through this one, I was taking care of my aunt and my dad was up in NJ. I was totally alone, scared and a moron. Stupid me being very stressed, went off on him over something dumb and took all my stress out on him big time. That was almost a year and a half ago. I tried to apologize and explain everything, but for months I didn't hear from him until that Thanksgiving. Every holiday he sends me ecards and once in awhile I'll get an email from him. They are all very nice and sweet, saying he is thinking about me and misses chatting with me. Awhile ago I sent him an email asking if we could meet sometime just to talk over coffee, he replied saying that would be nice, yet whenever I try to set it up with him, he is never available. I know he is very busy, as he is a high school teacher and involved with a lot of the programs going on in the school. I know for a fact he goes to all the games be it football, basketball, volleyball or whatever....that I know from when we would try to set up dates...lol Oh and hurricanes messed up our timing and dates a lot too. Yet part of me feels like he is just putting me off. I have invited him to both the parties up in Orlando, but the timing has been bad both times. Plus, I don't know if he would feel comfortable in that situation, seeing it has been so long and there wouldn't be anyone else he knew there.
Anyway, I just got a Valentines Day card from him, that reduced me to tears.  There was nothing wrong with the card at all, it was just very sweet and loving. I really would like to see him again and talk. I miss him and his friendship a lot. Every time I pass the sign on 75 for the town he lives in I think of him and then he is on my mind for days.
What I don't understand is if he really doesn't want to see me or chat with me online, then why would he make a point of sending me cards on every holiday? He has not missed one holiday since everything happened. His cards are always very nice and sweet. Am I wrong for just wanting to chat with him and at least get back the friend that I had?
I hope he isn't on this site, but oh well if he is that will just give him one more reason to stay away from me.  I honestly felt I needed a man's opinion on this, as like I said, I don't understand men at all and they totally confuse me!!
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 6:23 AM |
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jackf1950
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Witch,
as I don't know the guy, don't have a clue on his "why" or "wants"
he might be stringing you cause he is still pissed off, and knows he can manipulate you..
BUT
as it dont look like it is gonna go anyplace, and the cards bring you pain and confusion, perhaps email him one more time, asking what/when... and if nothing happens, ask him to just stop all communications.. and if he wont, block him..YOU need to worry about YOU...
only my thoughts..
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 12:13 PM |
I'm so confused!!
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Kenn159
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Hi Witchiedee
Im not really sure.
How bad was the blow up towards him,if it really shock his world, then
maybe he still cares for the person he got to know in you during your time together ,but may not be as strong ofter the incident .
Im not really sure,it does seem that after all the offers to meet ,if he really missed you ,then he would have found a way.
Im guessing maybe his feelings have wained but still cares about you enough to give you cards,just guessing .
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 12:44 PM |
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jfreak68
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Can't help you there girlfriend, I am just as clueless as you are when it comes to men...  This is why I have male friends to help and TRY and figure them out..... 
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 2:36 PM |
I'm so confused!!
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fuchia04
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I don't know Witchee. Maybe he got the wrong message when you and he had the blow up. No matter what you say or do, the altercation you had with him, probably left him with a negative impression of you, that he just can't seem to shake. In that case, I'm not sure why he continues to send you e-cards and stuff. Maybe he just wants attention? Maybe he thinks you were trying to tell him you needed your space....and now he's giving it to you! Maybe he's just afraid of having another altercation with you.  You may have scared him off a little. Who knows?
We men may be alike in alot of ways, but we're different in a lot of ways too. We can sit here all day and speculate what his intentions are (or were), but what good would that do?  That could be just what he wants!  Or maybe he really has no idea anything's wrong (you know how we men are..  ). There I go... Speculating again.  I guess the only advice I can give is to lay your cards on the table with him.
- the Fuchian 
[Edited on 2/13/2007 2:48 PM]
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 2:45 PM |
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Blondiblue
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Hon...you aren't the only one who doesn't understand men and their reasoning...I have been trying for over 40 years and haven't found one I could understand yet, but if I do, I am gonna snatch him up!!!! Maybe...lol
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 5:12 PM |
I'm so confused!!
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outlaw_star
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I'm going to have to side with Jack on this one Witchie,
but next time you want to vent, give me a call. I'm use to being used as a sounding board! (ask Velectra she'll tell you, IF she isnt still mad at me and isnt stressing out over upcoming plans)
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 5:12 PM |
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outlaw_star
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stupid internet server!
[Edited on 2/13/2007 5:25 PM]
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 5:13 PM |
I'm so confused!!
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outlaw_star
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stupid computer!
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 5:26 PM |
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witchietoo
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Thanks everyone for your input....well I sent him an email, so we will see what happens. He hasn't read it yet.
I swear I should just forget I am pagan, turn Catholic and become a nun....would be so much easier!!!
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 8:18 PM |
I'm so confused!!
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jfreak68
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Yeah you need to be a nun like I need to be a nun, uh hey maybe that is a thought!!!!
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 9:43 PM |
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Kenn159
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Mother Witchie huh,i guess you would have to drop Witchie too ,I dont think the nuns would like that ,witchcraft is the workshop of the devil they would say.
I wouldn't bum over this thing, I know you think you where wrong ,you apologized and thats all you can do.
Sometimes we just have to except the fact that we all make mistakes,to error is human and be at peace with it,just learn from it and try not to repeat yourself.
For all the positive time you spent with him ,you had one negative ,if he can't see that the one over comes the other ,then it sounds like his loss.
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 10:26 PM |
I'm so confused!!
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jfreak68
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Well Ken that is easier said then done... She is very much like me, and you saw how I was about month ago, not to well, and hell not to sure I am to much better.... Geez men!!!!
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 11:54 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Witchie if you are going to be a nun at least be a flying Nun or a singing nun..
For You Witchie from me on Valentines eve!
Men are quite confusing but they say the same of us
Men are rather loving while some can cause disgust
Men can be protectors or throw us so quickly to the curb
Men can be sweet and charming or unsettled or disturbed
Men can make out hearts soar , then play with our emotions
Men can be the calm after the storm or cause a commotion
Men can make us laugh with great wit and clever conversation
Men can be loyal and honest or cheat and warrant investigation
Men can be sensual and light our passions and ignite our fires
Men can fall fast asleep without satisfying our deep desires
Men can rock our world and make our lives full and complete
Men can leave us empty and yearning as we fall hard in defeat
Inspite of the rollar coaster , the pitfalls and constant confusion
We do really love our men and will not fall victim to our delusion !
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 11:57 PM |
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jfreak68
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Very well said Dove, and so very true!!!!
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 12:00 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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I am in a odd mood tonight.. I felt the need to express myself. I had to write or injure someone, lol
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 8:04 AM |
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wolfskil
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I swear I should just forget I am pagan, turn Catholic and become a nun....would be so much easier!!!
LOl you good do that but we have better candy on our side, LMAO!!!! Hope you figure this one out kiddo, I don't know what to say. I wish each of you a happy valentines day, So go have fun and As always I will wish you Blue skies forever my friends!!! Have a wonderful day!!!! ~Wolf 
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 8:15 AM |
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wolfskil
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Witchie, I was just sitting here thinking about your 'problem' the one 2 hours away. I have a feeling he could just be stringing you along, I am not sure, because although I am a man, I don't always get what motivates my brothers. I hope things get better for you Hon, and you get all you want from life you deserve happiness and a wonderful life. Have a great valentines day, K? And cheer up, we're young, we're pagans, and you are such an awesome person (me not so much there) we should be out painting the whole world red my friend,. ~Wolf
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 10:15 AM |
I'm so confused!!
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witchietoo
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You all are so sweet! Dove I loved the poem...it is so true. As for the nun thing, don't think that would work...the being poor part I am use to, but no sex?!? That isn't going to happen in this lifetime! I happen to like sex way to much to give it up!!
Shane you are such a sweetie, you have a good Valentines Day too. I know things will get better for all of us. We (my MD family & I) are good people and deserve happiness! 
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 10:29 AM |
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magicgizmo
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you scared him and he is not sure if he wants to play... he is half in.. sounds like he has mixed emotins and is not to sure what to expect from you next... soooo confront him share your feelings and see where that goes.. if you get much of the same let him go...just my opinion...
giz
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