| Jul 14, 2007 @ 12:14 AM |
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witchietoo
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Major venting
What is with some of the people on this site? I don't understand what jollys someone gets by putting down other people, more so when they act like they are friends with the person. Does it make people feel better about themselves or do they have some magic mirror and they see themselves as perfect?
I basically love this site, really enjoy talking with my friends and met someone that I hope will turn out to be the most wonderful person in my life. What I am sick of is the petty backstabbing. What difference does it make to anyone whom talks to whom or who wants to pursue a relationship with whom? Who are you to judge anyone you don't really know? Have you lived their life or gone though some of the hardships they have?
What do they get out of it, by talking about people, putting them down then acting like they are friends with them? What really gets me about all of this, it isn't so much the women that are doing the backstabbing, but the men. Yes, women do their share, but lately it is men that are doing it and being down right rude, nasty and hurtful. Does it make them feel good to try and hurt someone that has been nothing but nice to them? Is it that some of the women on here aren't afraid to stand by what they believe in and that scares some of the men? I honestly do not understand the way some people think. Yes, with some of them it is an age thing and just prove daily how immature they really are.
I really think a few people on here need to grow up and get their heads out of their butts.
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| Jul 14, 2007 @ 1:15 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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Witchie without knowing the whole story its hard to comment but it seems that whomever is being so critical of you is somehow upset about you meeting someone . They are either being protective for some reason , or perhaps their is some jealousy involved . what ever the reason he or they have obviously made you very upset. One thing I do know for sure is that when someone somehow gets satisfaction in trying to make someone else unhappy by being mean spirited, that are usually very unhappy them selves. They somehow feel better about themselves by dragging others down as well.
I for one know you are an awesome person.. and awesome people deserve all the happiness in the world.
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| Jul 14, 2007 @ 1:19 AM |
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NatGoat
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With the men . . It's a 'Macho-thing' . .
1-Upsmanship and competition for a Lady can bring out the Worst in Men . . and turn them into egotistical, sexist Slobs . . !!!
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| Jul 14, 2007 @ 12:56 PM |
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witchietoo
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1-Upsmanship and competition for a Lady can bring out the Worst in Men
I wish it was that, it would make things easier to deal with. This is about more then just me. That is what really ticked me off the most.
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| Jul 14, 2007 @ 3:12 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Witchie their are unfortunately different kinds of friends. Some are true blue and others hide behind a mask and may not be at all as they seem. You may be familiar with what I am posting below.
Are Your Friends Here for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?
Many of us are fortunate enough to have friends who are a consistent part of our lives throughout all our ups and downs. However, sometimes others we consider friends appear to enter, then depart from our lives for reasons we try to, but don't always, understand. This piece nicely explains the flow of people in and out of our lives.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
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| Jul 14, 2007 @ 5:06 PM |
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jackf1950
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now perhaps you can see why I just ignore a few folks...
my time, and peace of mind is worth more than bothering with what some folks think, or say...
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 1:23 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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 Yes Jack I would have to agree for the most part.. how ever when you feel vested in a friendship and that person turns out to not be the friend you think they are its very disappointing. I along with Witchie now know there are wolves hiding in sheeps clothing.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 8:17 AM |
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witchietoo
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how ever when you feel vested in a friendship and that person turns out to not be the friend
It is very hurtful, especially since I know the ones they are attacking including me have never been anything but nice to them. We have been a shoulder for them and when needed a source of advice.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 4:40 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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You know the saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer? I will be keeping a close eye on others I have trusted before.
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| Jul 20, 2007 @ 12:23 PM |
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Kenn159
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It's funny,I just responded to a blog on the same topic,so I'll give the same response.
"Those of them only have power if you give it to them .
When you spend time and energy and become upset, you are giving them what they seek.
Don't give them the power that they don't deserve."
I understand this situation maybe a bit different because you knew this person well.
This was a good way of determining who your real friends are from your fairweather friends.
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| Jul 20, 2007 @ 1:30 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Well said Ken,, but this is a complicated situation right now and hopefully in time it will all get sorted out and the truth will be known. The behavior that is being demonstrated is rather childlike and I am hoping it has a happy resolution.
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| Jul 21, 2007 @ 7:51 AM |
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exoticspanishgirl
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 Could we stamp (  MEAN!) all over their profile. haha! I'm new to all of this and it really does shock me how people behave. They are safe behind the PC.
But there are also lots of sweet people out there  !
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| Jul 21, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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Welcome to the site and the florida forums exoticspanishgirl  The stamp could work.. one thing about mean people that can only keep up the facade for so long , their true colors tend to show in time.
Yes there are lots of genuine good people in this world and on this site.
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 12:36 PM |
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fuchia04
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Witchie, it is shame that people can be so mean. I understand your frustration at the cruelness of people at times. Don't be discourage by that, I think what everyone is trying to say is what counts is your true friends. I believe they are like a shelter you can sometimes go to to escape the coldness that the world sometimes dishes out. Find strength in your friends and your enemies become insignificant, just my humble opinion.
Was this person someone you thought was a true friend of yours? ...or is it some stranger you encountered? ...or some people in general?
There are a few people who just say things to get a reaction out of others. Although I admit I am sometimes tempted to respond to these individuals, I do agree with Jack that it is best just to ignore them. I should start learning to do that more.
[Edited on 7/22/2007 12:43 PM]
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 3:42 PM |
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darthaggie
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What I am sick of is the petty backstabbing. What difference does it make to anyone whom talks to whom or who wants to pursue a relationship with whom?
And this is different than real life...how?
What you're describing is the evil contained in gossip and jealousy. Very human traits.
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 10:08 PM |
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fuchia04
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Quote:
What you're describing is the evil contained in gossip and jealousy. Very human traits.
me:
Maybe so... But that doesn't make the behavior any more acceptable.
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 10:26 PM |
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honeybear285
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That is so true Fuchia...some people can be so mean and petty...so much wasted energy when that same energy could be put towards something positive. There is no much negativity as it is in this world, why drag it here.
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| Jul 23, 2007 @ 7:30 AM |
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itsreallyme
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witchietoo sometimes things aren't said to be hurtful, but helpful and just taken the wrong way sorry
[Edited on 7/23/2007 7:36 AM]
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| Jul 23, 2007 @ 9:57 AM |
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witchietoo
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You know what its I don't care anymore. I'm done....I am going to take a break from the forums for a bit. I've had enough of the petty bs.
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