| May 17, 2008 @ 11:35 AM |
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MrFantastic25
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Is there possibly someone out there who is interested in just dating for now without there being a situation where you feel as if youre on an interview for being a marraige or living together forever prospect? Not that there is anything wrong with that but why does that always have to be the goal of being in a relationship. Wouldn't monogamy be enough?
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| May 17, 2008 @ 12:16 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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let me peer into my crystal ball and see if such a woman exists. We must clear our mind of negative thoughts before an image will appear to us.Yes its clear now.
If a women or man is talking marriage or living together after a date or two I would put the brakes on big time. Bells and alarms would go off in my head to run like the wind. If you go on a date with too many expectations you are bound to be disappointed. Dating is the time to get to know one another , to see if you share common interests and enjoy each others company.
I do not think there is anything wrong by asking questions , that is part of the process of getting to know one another. I think its important to find out if you are on the same page. If one party is ultimately seeking a long term relationship and the other simply wants to enjoy the company of several dates with different people, its best to make that clear from the start. We all have different goals when it comes to dating. Monogamy would be enough if marriage is not what you are seeking.
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| May 17, 2008 @ 2:09 PM |
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outlaw_star
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I have to agree with Dove here, recently had a 'date' with a potential LTR that ended it when I asked her to "slow down" when she pushed for a second date! I was all for a second date but would have like some time between dates to think about things and deal with things in my personal life as well but NOT have a second date within 3 days of the first one!
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| May 17, 2008 @ 2:32 PM |
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TechGirl277
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I think pushy people suck...and that others should respect one who says "Let me think about it and get back to you". Not everything is negative..it allows busy people time to think, breathe, and ponder situations as well. Just my two cents. Do pennies count anymore? (just kidding)
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| May 18, 2008 @ 5:02 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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pennies do count, every cent counts lately with the cost of gas.
Too many relationships fail due to over enthusiasm. It really takes a while to see if you are truely compatatible with someone. If the first date went well plan for another but it does not have to be right away. When someone apperars to needy and wants to go full throttle to fast. I know I am going to slow things down.
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| May 18, 2008 @ 1:42 PM |
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TechGirl277
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I also think that too many expectations can cause failures in relationships....especially if the one who offers the expectation keeps changing the rules on the other person.
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| May 19, 2008 @ 5:35 PM |
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straighttalker
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Live each day with passion for life love, happiness, belief and gratitude; for tomorrow you may be dead!
You feel the warmth of each kiss! The tingling in your heart when they pass bye, the comforting ness of their voice. Etc etc, things you get when there is passion in your heart?
Those who have to have time to think; are in the wrong relationship?
Those who enjoy every moment with their partner, are in the right one!
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| May 20, 2008 @ 12:34 AM |
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Dovestreasure
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Well said and inspiring straighttalker. I read your profile as well. You have my admiration and respect.
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| May 23, 2008 @ 3:54 AM |
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zazazabuza
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I have to agree with Dove here, recently had a 'date' with a potential LTR that ended it when I asked her to "slow down" when she pushed for a second date! I was all for a second date but would have like some time between dates to think about things and deal with things in my personal life as well but NOT have a second date within 3 days of the first one!
Different people have different ideas and stuff. So i guess what you might consider rushing someone else might consider it to be a snails pace. Probably a good idea of how the person works and how well they think things through in life. But thats just my opinion lol 
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| May 23, 2008 @ 12:43 PM |
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outlaw_star
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I think pushy people suck...and that others should respect one who says "Let me think about it and get back to you". Not everything is negative..it allows busy people time to think, breathe, and ponder situations as well
I have to agree with Dove here, recently had a 'date' with a potential LTR that ended it when I asked her to "slow down" when she pushed for a second date! I was all for a second date but would have like some time between dates to think about things and deal with things in my personal life as well but NOT have a second date within 3 days of the first one!
Different people have different ideas and stuff. So i guess what you might consider rushing someone else might consider it to be a snails pace. Probably a good idea of how the person works and how well they think things through in life.
Well, IF the lady wasnt exactly your type and was ready to jump into marrying a guy she knew nothing about after dating for 6 weeks (the last guy she was seeing before you) sets off alarm bells to me! Which is why I requested to "slow down"
Wasnt THAT desperate to jump into a relationship that is supported or built with or on tissue paper and bread sticks!
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