| Mar 1, 2007 @ 6:53 PM |
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Waterson
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I've always been confused about the age issue that people have. While I certainly see that anyone younger than 21 or even 18 perhaps can be an issue, why do people get so hung up on a ten or fifteen year age diffrence when you're both over 25? I prefer older women because they're comfortable with themselves and know what they want from life. I've met MANY women around my age who were the same, however it seems more common with older women. Or even the issue with weight? What's the big deal?
I think Americans (some of us) are pretty close minded. Think about all the great opproutinities to meet new people by just stepping two feet outside your comfort zone. Sure, being very overweight can be a health risk, but I personally don't make my date stand on a scale before I search for what makes her a wonderful person. I'm 155lbs and I really could care less what she weighs, as long as she's beautiful to me.
Just a few thoughts from over here in Stone Mountain...
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| Mar 1, 2007 @ 9:13 PM |
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redtigr
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Hi Stone Mountain.. (Waterson)
The age thing is like anything else... it makes a huge difference with some men/people and almost none with others. I met someone who was 10 years younger and found nothing uncomfortable that seemed relevent to age, but I've known some men who were only 4 or 5 years younger, and the differences seemed overwhelming. It all depends on the interests and depth of personality of both parties. I absolutely would not be interested in anyone young enough to be my offspring... just feels icky - that's a technical term...
As for weight, I tend to prefer stocky, well fed guys... lol - but - I struggle to keep my weight down, and I want a partner who likes himself well enough to work at it. I'm not obsessive on this issue, and I wouldn't want a mate who harped about a small gain (3 - 5 lbs. on me) - or who was just narcissistic in general.
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| Mar 1, 2007 @ 9:36 PM |
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Trossi
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Personally, I have an issue with age due to personal experiences. I'm sure there are others like me. I won't date a man more than 5 years my junior due to immaturity and not knowing what they want out of life. They just seem so wishy-washy. (Again, my personal experience talking.) The same goes for older men. I find that most guys 8 yrs or older than me are so set in their ways they have this bizarre need to be in control or are scorned by some failed marriage or relationship that we (the female) has to pay for in the long run. I guess that's why I keep myself in a small dating bracket, to help eliminate unnecessary drama.
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| Mar 1, 2007 @ 10:06 PM |
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stacy1220
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I am 27 and I have pretty much limited myself to guys that are 25-35. The older guys seem to either want arm candy or a submissive woman and the younger ones aren't ready to settle... I know there are exceptions, but I prefere that age bracket...
As far as weight goes... well, being 5'2 and 150 lbs, I know my body isn't perfect, but I am still a somewhat small woman and I don't want a larger guy because of this... I have worked hard to lose 25 lbs and I want a guy that has good eating habits and wants to be healthy... a little meat is ok though.... not above that. I know I sound shallow...
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| Mar 1, 2007 @ 10:37 PM |
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redtigr
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Funny about the age thing. I am noticing that I now relate well to men in their 40's but not well at all to men in their 60's (huge generalization here...so don't anyone pick on me).
It's true though, that men who are more than a few years older just seem to live in the past - at least the ones I've met. I'm not ready for that sort of life and probably never will be.
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| Mar 1, 2007 @ 11:45 PM |
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Waterson
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Great responses! It's nice that you all put some thought into what you wanted to share with me. Personally, I dated a woman 13 years older than myself in the past. I didn't notice anything akward about the situation. Perhaps I'm just a strange guy, but it was a nice "dating" experience. Sure, talking about what type of music you grew up listening to might seem strange, but I've found it's better to find a partner who "compliments" your personality, not mimics. If that makes any sense...
Everyone is unique, so I'll try not to step on anyone's toes...
Stacy1220,
I don't think you sound shallow. I think you sound confident in who and what you're looking for. I also don't think your body is "far from perfect." Whoever put that idea in your head should be shot. Every part of you is where it belongs and looks like how it's supposted to look. Perhaps you haven't found the right guy to appreciate those attributes? I once dated a wonderfully precious woman with bright red hair and COVERED in gorgeous little freckles. It's amazing what some people get worried about. I thought they were adorable.
Redtigr,
I agree with the generalization that most men who date younger women are attempting to "live in the past." Perhaps I'm attempting to "live in the future?" My father was a real piece of work, and I saw first hand what kind of a man goes for younger women. It's really a stomache turner for me, but all guys aren't like that, eh? You sound like a wonderful conversationalist. It's a shame I'd make you feel "icky" if we were to meet over coffee. I'd miss out on learning more about you and perhaps getting to meet a great friend.
Trossi,
You said "personally" twice in your first sentence and I giggled. Don't worry, I don't think anyone will take what you said out of context. Again, it's great that you've all shared your experiences and views with me. I appreciate it. I know what you mean about having to pay for something someone else caused. (In the long run.) I think that applies to alot of things. Abuse, lying, cheating, money issues, anger, ect. When someone has a long term relationship, they get programmed to respond a certain way. Sometimes, people carry it over into their next relationship. I think that's just the result of poor emotion management and jumping into the "next" relationship. It's a shame I barely fall out of your bracket too. You seem like a fun person to hang around.
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| Mar 3, 2007 @ 8:44 PM |
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stacy1220
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Thank You!!! I have read your response several times over the last couple days and you made me realize that I have been around negative people that had to make me feel bad to make themselves feel better. But I will never give anyone that power again... plus its me I want someone to get to know, not base everything on the external...
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| Mar 6, 2007 @ 3:27 PM |
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redtigr
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Waterson:
LOL... I guess I would only feel icky if it were a sexually charged meeting...
For good conversation and coffee... all ages apply.. and remember, it's not you (younger men) making me feel icky - it's me making me feel icky...Where friendships are concerned I draw no age lines whatsoever...
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| Mar 6, 2007 @ 3:49 PM |
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stacy1220
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redtigr... not to but into your converstion, but I agree... age should know no limits on friendships. You never know who may cross your path and make you important in that part of their life. I have known many people and have had some wonderful friends in my life that we much older and some that were younger... You gain wisdom from older friends and have tons of fun with the younger friends... plus you also get to pass your wisdom onto them:)
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| Mar 21, 2007 @ 6:34 PM |
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sassydawgfan
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Waterson....I love your post. I'm 44 and I actually prefer younger men. I get ragged by my girlfriends....I'm called a "cradle-robber, child molester etc...." But, this is MY life. I'm a very fun personality and have found that I get along much better with the younger generation.
And yes....I have dated MUCH younger.
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| Apr 24, 2007 @ 11:17 PM |
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Lanierthrill73
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There are exceptions to every rule but most people, men or women, who want to date much younger than them want to dominate their partner. No offense to anyone, just something I've observed...
[Edited on 4/24/2007 11:35 PM]
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| Apr 24, 2007 @ 11:34 PM |
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girl39
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good observation
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| Jun 22, 2007 @ 7:35 AM |
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Microchip
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just something I've observed...
I don't believe it is a good observation at all! I was married to a woman 19 years my junior. The REASON I married a woman that much younger than me is that I was tired of dating women whose only objective was to sit in Applebee's, eat fatty foods, and talk about their grandbabies.
I have had a LOT of first dates. I find that the closer the women were to my age, the more trouble they had getting out of their chairs, and the heavier they breathed when they walked. That is a huge turnoff.
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| Jun 22, 2007 @ 7:10 PM |
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HistoricallyAccurate
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And you're "trolling" the Georgia forums from Pennsylvania because........
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 7:58 AM |
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LSU79
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Are we talking about just dating or looking for a LTR? If you're talking marriage, then there's family issues. Is a 28 y/o guy ready to cope with teenage stepchildren? I know at that age I wasn't, and I was a juvenile probation officer back then. Also, the issue of having more children, chances are the younger one will want some, and the older one already had theirs and doesn't want (or can't have) any more. I'm not saying it can't work, I married a woman 11 years younger, but that had nothing to do with why we dated and the age difference was never really an issue.
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| Jul 3, 2007 @ 12:33 PM |
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redmex
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Look I have personally tried older, same age, and younger. I think younger is great because they keep you on your toes. Older is great because majority know what they are looking for in life. same age well they are confused like me. The weight issue is a different topic...because I am alone and believe me I have lost a lot of weight and i am still alone.
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