| May 12, 2008 @ 9:02 PM |
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bodyman1
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Do women not want real gentlemen anymore ? are we a dying breed? did the women give up on us? let me know
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| May 12, 2008 @ 10:29 PM |
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sealacamp
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Overall I would say yes. However there are still a few ladies left that are looking for gentleman.
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| May 13, 2008 @ 5:44 AM |
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gadixie
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I see this question posted alot. Most all men put it on their profile. So weeding thru and finding that real gentleman is the problem. All say it, some show it for awhile but more often than not, After awhile, when the gentleman gets comfortable in the relationship, well all the gentleman ways go out the door. So it is not that a woman wants the gentleman, it is reading all the profiles that say it and finding the one who really is long term that is the problem.
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| May 13, 2008 @ 2:17 PM |
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matchmeup1023
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Amen gadixie
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| May 14, 2008 @ 7:47 PM |
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diverdown512
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I'm a pretty good guy most of the time, but I personally never used the word "gentleman" in my profile. I know how symbolic it is to y'all the first time we forget to open the door for you. Luckily, I prefer the self sufficient type.
[Edited on 5/14/2008 7:55 PM]
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| May 15, 2008 @ 9:23 AM |
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Southern_Comfort88
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naw man,...i think the "bad-boy syndrome" is what their attracted to. I can't judge but it just seems that way. Women fall for the sorry ass piece of craps that treat them like freakin dirt. How can you call that love,..I mean even remotely call it that?? It's like the Bible teaches these simple words
"Love is patient, Love is Kind,
It does not envy,
it does not boast,
it is not proud,
It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs,
Love does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the Truth,
It always protects,
always trusts,
Always Hopes,
Always Perseveres,
LOVE NEVER FAILS!!"
So to me if a relationship is built on negativity,...that's all it will produce is negative feelings and actions and will eventually fail.
On the other hand, relationships built on positive foundations, produce positve "fruit" and grow abundantly.
Thats what i think, anyways. The idea of being a Gentlemen and chivalry is and has been a dying breed for some time,....I don't understand and it befuddles me why a woman wouldn't want someone thats good for her,.. and would rather have the guy who's the bad-boy!?!? That's just stupid to me,..but then again what is really right about the world we live in these days????
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| May 15, 2008 @ 9:08 PM |
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sealacamp
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but then again what is really right about the world we live in these days????
What has ever been right about the world in any day?
History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new. Sometimes people say, “Here is something new!” But actually it is old; nothing is ever truly new. We don’t remember what happened in the past, and in future generations, no one will remember what we are doing now.
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| May 16, 2008 @ 11:16 AM |
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hayabusatygr
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Most real gentlemen don't call themselves gentlemen...they just are.
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| May 16, 2008 @ 7:23 PM |
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sealacamp
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Most real gentlemen don't call themselves gentlemen...they just are.
There ya go!
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| May 16, 2008 @ 9:15 PM |
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Etowah
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Are you sure that women even know what they want these days?
The thing that amuses me is that when I was married, women who were total strangers were always throwing themselves at me ... showing up on my farm with bottles of wine or champagne, etc. This happened many times. I never cheated once, even though after being divorced I learned that EX ... well let's she could not have made that statement very often.
So what happens when I am legal! Nada.... not once has any woman just showed up at my door to seduce me or what ever.
So do women really want to be with gentlemen, or do they want to bring a gentleman down? Inquiring minds want to know.
Signed ...
Brother Richard from the monastery in Jasper, Jawja
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| May 18, 2008 @ 9:59 AM |
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sealacamp
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That is a good theory Brother Richard. Honestly I could not say because I would have to be a mind reader to do so. I can say that I have noticed the phenomenon more than once. Still it is not all people and fickleness can be equally applied to men. I think that there are some good women that want good men and good men that want good women. The main problem is that there are a few of each but many meet something that appears to be what they desire only to find out later that things are not what they appeared to be.
Maybe someone else has some insight into this issue. I hope you get something more conclusive than the little that I can see.
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| May 21, 2008 @ 3:12 PM |
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hayabusatygr
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I've always been under the blind assumption that you can't judge an entire group of people based on a select few. See "pigeonholing."
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| May 21, 2008 @ 6:06 PM |
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sealacamp
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Try majority does not equate to everyone or an entire group. It does however refer to a major portion of a group and observed behavior is just that, observed.
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| May 22, 2008 @ 10:13 AM |
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hayabusatygr
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Well then it's all a matter of opinion - subjective opinion at that. So why even bother starting this topic in the first place?
Some men who consider themselves "gentlemen" are not gentlemen.
Some men who don't label themselves as "gentlemen" are gentlemen.
"Some" does not equal the majority.
It should also be noted that some men who consider themselves "gentlemen" and are not gentlemen are also the ones that believe there are set gender roles that must NEVER be broken...and that's what they think makes them a gentleman.
By that statement (re: gender roles), I'm talking about the men that believe women should be placed on an altar and a woman's sole purpose and goal should be to raise a family and be a housewife while her husband "takes care" of her.
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| May 22, 2008 @ 6:15 PM |
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sealacamp
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Some men who consider themselves "gentlemen" are not gentlemen.
Some men who don't label themselves as "gentlemen" are gentlemen.
Correct yet if personal experience, feedback from talking to others, observation, and any other empirical evidence shows that most men are one or the other then it would be fair to say a majority is this or that, which is what was stated previously from observation, and feedback at a minimum. If you choose to disagree with this then just muster up some witnesses and disagree all you like.
It should also be noted that some men who consider themselves "gentlemen" and are not gentlemen are also the ones that believe there are set gender roles that must NEVER be broken...and that's what they think makes them a gentleman.
This has nothing to do with this thread and is a Pandora's box to say the least. It would appear to be a sore spot for you or you would not bring this up. And in the end what is gentleman like or lady like is subjective at best. I don't think any of that has a darn thing to do with gender roles. But if that is where you choose to dwell then that would be your choice.
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| May 24, 2008 @ 12:11 PM |
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pamdemonium
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Are you sure that women even know what they want these days?
I'm sure. A gentleman makes a woman love being a woman. He brings out the best in her, not the worst.
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| Apr 9 @ 10:36 PM |
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NECAY
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I MYSELF WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A GENTLE MAN I CANT SAU THAT U HAVE EVER SEEN ONE BUT IM ALWAYZ LOOKING HOPING TO FIND ONE
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