| Aug 6, 2008 @ 5:17 PM |
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sweeteenpeach
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I think I'm a good catch, I'm a good person, i have a great personality, i have goals and dreams, i think I'm attractive but for some odd reason i always attract the bad guys. When i say "bad" i mean the psycho guys, abusers, cheaters, liars. I just don't understand it. It seems on this system the only guys who are interested in me are older older men, and also guys who live a good distance away. I'm not bitching that's the last thing i do it's more of a plea that if there are any nice, mature men who live close to me and who is ready for a serious relationship then you should send me a message. Are any other ladies having this same problem? Thanks for listening!
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| Aug 7, 2008 @ 7:47 PM |
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sealacamp
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This is a gender neutral problem. All I could tell you is the answer lies with in you as most of them do for all of us.
S
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| Aug 7, 2008 @ 9:14 PM |
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redtigr
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If you use words like "hardcore, dirty, tough, violently sexalicious, and toxic sin" to describe yourself while at the same time asking for someone who is sweet, lovable and wants to cuddle...
...don't you see the mixed message you are presenting?
How can you expect to be taken seriously? Not trying to be mean...
...just sayin...
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 3:25 PM |
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sweeteenpeach
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I just want people to know that i am a sweet and lovable person with a great personality but i also do have another side of me.
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 3:26 PM |
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sweeteenpeach
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Thanks for the reply :P
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 7:34 PM |
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redtigr
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I understand - up to a point. Believe me, I know most men won't be interested in complete and utter wholesomeness. But a more subtle message, best placed near the end of the profile (to help weed out the ones who don't bother to read the whole thing) might get you a slightly "better" class of men - or at least discourage the ones who only notice trigger words for "easy party girl".
It's very difficult to present the whole you online. Don't even try in a profile - just something that's intriguing is enough, especially for a young lady as lovely as you.
best wishes... and good luck...
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| Aug 12, 2008 @ 7:21 PM |
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Lorraine4159
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You betcha girlfriend, most of the guys that send me emails are the ones that are fake. They cant spell in english & expect you not to catch them in all their lies. They fall in love with you within a few emails & say they are in Africa. I am so tired of all the B S on this site, but I still have hope that some nice good guy will find me some day.
Lorraine
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 12:53 AM |
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ohtayicu
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sweet---
maybe in real life as well as on here, if you slowed the togetherness down,,, the bad guys might send up warning signs, before you got too into them, and it would be easier to walk away, without being terribly hurt. guess i'm saying, hold guys at arm's length, until you see how they react--- to bad service in a restaurant, ---to whether they hold open a door for someone rushing in out of the rain,--- to offering to let others in a grocery store with only two items, go ahead,--- to how they react to pets, dogs or cats, or BETTER yet, if the dog or cat LIKES them.
go slow, a guy worth anything will be waiting to wait, and won't force any issues.
good luck..
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| Oct 10, 2008 @ 12:58 PM |
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hayabusatygr
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Why don't you try altering your profile then?
"I am the Violently Sexalicious Beast, hear me rawr"
...is not going to attract the most honest and caring of men looking for a long-term relationship.
I don't think any woman should refer to herself as a "beast."
Not being mean, being honest, but your ad reads like all you're looking for is someone to "party hard with," to "kick ass with," and to sleep around with.
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| Oct 10, 2008 @ 4:55 PM |
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Etowah
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Speaking for men, Hayabuster is absolutely correct. You advertise yourself as a sexual commodity and you will be treated as a sexual commodity.
There is also one other thing going on. Younger guys, who have any assets going for them at all, don't bother with the internet. When you are young, there are so many single men and woment on the market, it is very easy to get a date.
However, when people get older, it becomes much harder to meet singles of the opposite gender. Also, many of those singles are either carrying a lot of baggage or else are total losers, such as myself! LOL
Why not try a singles Sunday School class if you want to meet a higher type guy.
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| Oct 18, 2008 @ 2:52 PM |
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dannym7500
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Well I am a good guy if you like wheel chairs and shy men.
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