| Nov 26, 2006 @ 3:23 PM |
Where have all the good men gone?
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widowlady55
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Just wondering where have all the good men gone?
I'm a widow and after numerous dates and a few "phone friends" I just have to wonder are there any gentlemen left in this world? Do all men lie or cheat nowdays? What happened to treating a person with honesty/respect?
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 7:57 PM |
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steveemac
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YES, ALL OF US MALES OF THE SPECIES ARE LYING, CHEATING, RUDE, DISRESPECTFUL, SEX-CRAZED USERS AND LOSERS!!! 
Okay, I've vented...but that's the umpteenth time this week someone has posted such a general question, and as a guy that tries to live his life with dignity and honor-yet I'm not meeting anybody either- I get a little tired of being painted with such a broad brush; and I'm sure other many other guys feel the same way...widowlady, I'm sure you're a nice person, so how do you feel when you see men posting things like, "Why are women only concerned about a guys looks?" or "Are there any women left anywhere that aren't gold-diggers?"
Something for EVERYBORY to think about!
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 9:46 PM |
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john49887
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steveemac said it all. I can't tell you how many times women sitting across the dinner table from me have asked about my personal finances. "Is your house, car,
and truck paid for?" "Can you take me on a European vacation?" "Healthy bank account?"
It works both ways, widowlady, and unfortunately both sexes are populated by people out to use others for their own benefit. That seems to be the national sport these days. I don't even worry about it any more because that's what I expect. When I hear those questions I just stand up and leave while saying "it's been a pleasure meeting you".  Just one more rant: why is it that the better I treat a woman(manners, courtesy and respect),the worse she treats me? Answer that one! No, I am not fixating on her blouse bunnies!
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 7:46 AM |
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widowlady55
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THANKS FOR A MAN'S INPUT ON THIS SUBJECT. IT SEEMS I HAVE MANAGED TO BRING 2 GOOD GUYS OUT OF THE WOODWORK.  WHICH IS WHAT A LOT OF LADIES ARE LOOKING FOR.
I HAVE HAD MY SHARE OF "BAD" DATES. I ALSO HAD WHAT I THOUGHT WAS A GOOD ONE ALONG THE WAY WHICH DIDN'T WORK OUT EITHER.. SO I GUESS I WILL TRY AGAIN. LIKE I SAID I KNOW THERE ARE GOOD GUYS OUT THERE,
I'M NOT A GOLD DIGGER, BUT I DO EXPECT THAT THE PERSON I DATE IS FINANCIALLY SECURE. I WON'T ASK TO SEE YOUR PORTFOLIO OF STOCKS, BONDS AND PROPERTY, BUT I DO NOT WANT SOMEONE I WILL HAVE TO SUPPORT. I ALSO EXPECT THEM TO DRESS DECENT (BLUE JEANS IS FINE WITH ME). I DON'T THINK THAT IS TO MUCH TO ASK.
KEEP BEING GENTLEMEN AND I'M SURE SOME LUCKY LADIES WILL COME YOUR WAY. GOOD LUCK TO US ALL.
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 10:42 AM |
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RareQuestor
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Don't sweat it, guys. I regard such posts as the equivalent of the usual bitching and whining that anyone would hear in any bar after a few drinks and an evening of meaningless encounters. 
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 3:47 PM |
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andi785
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the majority of good men are still married to their bitchy wives....that`s why everyone knows that they are goooood men. and, if per chance, one is out there single, they are snatched up rather quickly. everybody knows somebody who is looking for a partner. those good guys only need to let someone know that they are available.
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| Nov 28, 2006 @ 7:03 PM |
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SensualGemini
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...Geez, widow's rant was nothing... Get your hair cut during the day in a woman's hair salon and you can hear the men being emasculated, just before castrated. 
...By the time the hairdresser attempts to hand the mirror to see the back, there is no way I am even uncovering one hand of self protection ... and whatever the back looks like, is just fine! 
Andi wrote:
the majority of good men are still married to their bitchy wives....that`s why everyone knows that they are goooood men. and, if per chance, one is out there single, they are snatched up rather quickly. everybody knows somebody who is looking for a partner. those good guys only need to let someone know that they are available. ...If that was the case, then the bitchy woman the good man got away from is also out there. We learned from the first one, to not get shot so easily by a next one.
...In all seriousness, when someone comes out of the gate bitching about the opposite gender, I have to figure they have some excess baggage that they need to deal with. It is not my job to prove that my whole gender is not as they have encountered prior.
...People are attracted to and constantly choose the same types over and over and then wonder why it never works out. It makes no sense...
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| Nov 28, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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widowlady55
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Thanks SG for reading between the lines and realizing my statement wasn't a rant at all. It was a statement of fact. Having lost a husband to cancer, a little over 2 years ago I'm finding it very difficult to even get out there and try finding someone who I would consider getting to know, or spending time with. I will not give up this time. I'm moving forward in search of my prince charming and I know I will live happily ever after in a placed called Camelot (or maybe Iowa or Illinois). Good luck to you too.
[Edited on 11/28/2006 9:34 PM]
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| Nov 29, 2006 @ 1:20 AM |
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andi785
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hey mr. s.g. i`m not bitching. we all have baggage of some type. if we didn`t we would be soo boring. there are a lot of great guys out there, but..... we have all been put in an awkward situation by someone. some of us choose to stay in a less than perfect relationship and some move on. and i can imagine that guys do have problems with bitchy women. let`s face it, they`re out there too.
me, personally, i enjoy meeting new men. getting to know someone can be very entertaining. i like being alone because it gives me the priviledge to do that sort of thing. but, not all women like to be single. i am sure that it is tough to find just the right combo in the man of your desires.
i say, be who you are, and don`t go looking to hard. enjoy the hunt !!! if the right one comes along, you`ll know it. if not, enjoy the experience of getting to know what you might perceive as the wrong one. people can be very interesting and you never know what they can teach you. 
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| Dec 4, 2006 @ 5:26 PM |
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roverpupsy
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They're all in hiding and a bit gun shy after getting burned repeatedly! 
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| Dec 8, 2006 @ 3:07 PM |
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metalworks
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BLAH, BLAH AND MORE BLAH! 
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| Dec 10, 2006 @ 11:25 AM |
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wantyou812
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I'll tell ya where we went. We didnt go anywhere! We are right in forn of women's faces. Good men are the ones that women tend to overlook. We are the guys that may not fit your ideal physical look so you dont even want to talk to us. Good men finish last and then we have to settle for women that we should have been with in the first place (and everyone would have been happier) but now the women have been treated wrong for so long because of their bad choices in men that now we have to put up with all the baggage from the past relationships. The moral standing of the country is on the decline and this is a big factor in that, not to mention it is the main reason why marriages so not work. My message to women is this: God gave you more power than you think but you never use it. Women have the ultimate power to say no. If a woman says no, aint nothing happening. If you dont use this power, you turn it over to the enemy, the predator male that you so often end up with. If women made better choices in men and stop walking right past the guys that are worthwhile, things would be better all the way around.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:43 AM |
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iamme63
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Why are you looking for someone so soon? 2 years is not that long ago, to lose a husband.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 8:46 AM |
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the_last_gentleman
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as you can see by my name..
I am a nice guy....
but too many times ...ALL I hear on the first couple of dates are how bad...
the last boy friend ..or the X-hubby ...or....ALL their dating experiences were.
I have had women say... That I treat them too nice....NOT SURE WHAT THAT MEANS ,,,since I treat everyone ...how I would like to be treated....
like most things in life.... if you act a certain way... and it works for you
there is no reason to change....
so I guess what I am saying is,,,MOST guys find class very SEXY....
thanks and make it a GREAT day
'S
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 11:00 AM |
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andi785
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be patient. most first dates are kind of awkward. sometimes we tend to babble when we get nervous. then, later on, we think about the stupid stuff that came out of our mouths. just keep looking and enjoy all the different types of people you will meet. like they say, no man is an island. we take on a part of everyone we meet.
have a great day!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 9:29 PM |
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widowlady55
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Well it seems I have brought more than one "good" guy out of the woodwork with this post. I hope their are some ladies out there looking for guys in your age bracket. I will continue to look for my "diamond in the rough" so to speak. I thought I had found one but he turned out to be a "rhinestone"!!!!! Well you can't win them all. Good luck to us all. May we all find true happiness. .
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| Dec 30, 2006 @ 1:11 PM |
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tony1958
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the good ones are out here, to many times we judge the book by its cover. many think or believe that they want or need that fancy sports car, not really thinking that all they want is something realiable. looks are great, but what does that have to do with the inside. dig for the truth and you will find it.
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| Dec 31, 2006 @ 1:43 AM |
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metalworks
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This one is still here? The good guys are running from the women who expect a man to pay their bills. They are hiding from the women looking for a man to support them and their kids. They are in fear of the women who believe all men are obligated to enhance their lifestlyes with cash, expensive gifts and vacations. Yes, I've encountered all of the above. I don't understand where this sense of entitlement comes from. Now please tell me where all the good women have gone!!!
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| Oct 20, 2007 @ 1:49 PM |
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oil_driller
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We are all, "Hibernating".
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| Oct 20, 2007 @ 6:05 PM |
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chanceit2
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Nice job!!! I agree with all you've said.
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