| Mar 19, 2007 @ 3:21 PM |
Being lied to sucks....
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finsfan
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Have you ever met a pathological liar? One that could lie right to your face with such imagination that anyone would believe. I hadn't until I met someone from on here. He seemed like a normal guy, hard working, caring, down right nice. Too good to be true. I guess I never thought I was naive or too trusting. Here is my story and tell me what you think. You go out on a date with a guy, have a nice dinner, feel some chemistry and it feels right and so relaxed. After that date you talk for hours upon hours a night, start sharing "feelings" and what not. Then after you both click he tells you his work is transferring him to "Alaska" for two years. While he is supposedly up there, he tells stories of co-workers, his living arrangement, pranks he played on his roommate up there, how his best friend committed suicide (takes a real sick individual to lie about a friends tragic death), and he was coming home for the funeral. For over a month you talk to someone for 1-2 hours at a time, telling about your day, and how you are missing them. And he responds with the same information. Then he makes a huge mistake. I had talked to him around 8 pm on a Wednesday night, and he calls 22 hours later Thursday night and claimed to have driven from Alaska to Illinois in under 22 hours.....red flag.....liar.....full of horse...you know what. This man from on here gives all good guys a bad name. Turns out he is really in a relationship or married. It amazes me what some guys would do for a piece of @ss. Even if lying and cheating is the only way to do it. If he did lie about all of this props to him for being such a liar to make me believe him, but his one slip up ruined his whole act. So if anyone wants to know who this liar is...write me...
And if anyone has any related stories like this let me know. 
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 9:34 AM |
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andi785
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i was married to one for 17 years.  it`s tough to deal with. it also affects you. you begin to not trust anyone. but, now, you know the signs to look for. put him out of your mind and move on. there are many nice men on this site. just have fun with the hunt.
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 11:16 PM |
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Cheetah999
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GOD DO I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!!! I dated a guy from ANOTHER site and he was a real charmer as well! Same thing, we met out, chemistry and compatablity GALORE, I really liked him. We were seeing eachother for 2 months and low and behold, tells me he really likes me, three to four hour conversations at least 3 times a week on the phone, and he took his profile down. Well, I got suspicious one week for he was blowing me off left and right and BAM there it was, he put up his profile AGAIN under another screen name, same pic.!! I was soo crushed!!
Well, 5 months later, he's still playing same games, he even went as far to tell me that his grandpa in Texas died and would be gone the whole week (knowing I was off work and it was his birthday and I would or might want to spend it with him) Well since he has teens who have a "myspace" I checked their things and sure enough says, their grandpa passed, had them in on it too! Low and behold I called his house and drove past, all cars always there, and everyone still home!
I really love and adore this guy and why? He blew me off Christmas, New Years and VALENTINES no presents, phone calls NOTHING!!! What a keeper ha? If you talk to any "Phil's" let me know! It really SUCKS being lied to and having your head and heart messed with! He knew I was a widow too and my dad is near death, what a sweet man!
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| Mar 20, 2007 @ 11:19 PM |
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BlueMoon2006442
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Yes, I agree, it does suck. I met a guy online a few years ago, not on this site, but it just goes to show that liars are everywhere. Just be careful and don't believe everything a person tells you. After a while you'll be able to see through the BS the moment it starts. 
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| Apr 11, 2007 @ 9:05 PM |
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jubilee_sparks
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tell me about it. I trusted one guy, spent over 4 years talking online for almost 4 hours at a time, then suddenly one day i get a pm on yahoo FROM HIS WIFE asking who i was!!!! talk about embarrassing
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| Dec 16, 2007 @ 3:16 PM |
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countrytimegal
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Yes...it sucks to be lied to. I know for I have met a couple like that over the years. Just recently I met a guy off of another site on here and spent a lot of time talking to him and finally meeting him. He seems really nice. I finally went for a visit and still he seemed nice although he did not have the things he claimed to have on his profile but was or seemed to be in process of getting them (ranch, etc). I came home and we still talked...and he had me help pick a home to put on the land he had (yes..that part of the ranch existed although later found out the mortgage was in his mothers name. I decided to give him some slack...went for another visit only longer this time. He was trying to convince me to move there. A longer visit paid off for it let the true facts out on this man. Not only was the land being mortgaged by his mother he could not get the house that he had me help pick out to put on it because of his credit. Found out that he was always writing bad checks and had everyone and thier uncle on his back. No way could he have had the income that he claimed..which was not important but why lie about it all? Also found that while he claimed to drink only socially on his profile and did not do it much on first visit...he actually drinks like a fish. Another problem I discovered...he had a big gambling problem as well. No wonder he had creditors on his back. He would even hawk stuff in order to play the machines. Needless to say....my eyes were opened to this liar and con man. He is out to find someone to bring in another income so he can keep up his gambling and maybe pay his bills....not a woman to love. There are a lot of men out there like this...we just need to take more time to evaluate them and learn to pick them out. In all fairness to the men I am sure there are women who are liars and users too. Personally, as in this case, the truth finally comes out. Sometimes...they surface quickly and sometimes the person is very good at prolonging the truth coming out. Sometimes a person tells so many lies that they themselves believe them to be true and it becomes part of thier nature. It sucks..and it hurts but these kind of people do not care for they will just move on to find someone else to lie to.
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| Jan 12, 2008 @ 1:46 AM |
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pluralmeans2
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Wow! There are some seriously twisted women out there too girls! I met one on another site who claimed that she was a Real Estate BROKER...She did however work part time as the stand by receptionist in a real estate office. Her fancy car was a lease that she barely made the payment on every month. Her huge house was still in limbo in the divorce proceedings. Her HUSBAND was living in the house with her. She told me he died last year...If you are going to lie about a dead husband make sure that he can't answer your phone! This gal was out of control...She just wanted somebody to pay her bills because the real estate biz is hurting...But she had no part in buying or selling property...
 
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| Jan 15, 2008 @ 3:19 PM |
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justonenow
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You're right eing lied to does suck---and I'll go you one better. Met a man on another site and we dated steadily. He would call each week and we'd see each other on the weekends until finally it became more and he started introducing me to his family and we started going out with them. We went on vacations together, I was invited to family dinners and parties, family showers, weddings, everything. We had had several discussion about him being on dating sites and he would always quit ( I should have known). Then he suffered a heart attack, needed bypass surgery. Naturally, I was quite concerned about him and when his family asked if I would stay with him I answered yes. I took a small leave of absense from my job, and nursed him 24/7 for about six weeks although after two weeks returned part time to work. In addition, I was attending school one evening a week and I got someone to come and stay with him for the few hours I was gone. Later in that year he asked me to permanently move in with him. He had lost his job (so I was paying for everything almost) but got another one. One evening when I was at school, I had to call back to the house and he wasn't there--I tried several times during the evening. Later he told me he was home but must have been occupied.
Several weeks later a woman called the house, he didn't answer the phone but it went to voice mail. He played the message back but didn't realize I was coming down the steps. Basically it said how happy she was to have met him and hoped they would continue to see each other. I heard the message as I was coming down the stairs. He tried to tell me it was just business, but I told him the only business he had with her was monkey business. It went downhill from there, but I was the only one talking as he wouldn't talk, give me an explanation, or even argue. I moved out a week later.
I don't know that you can trust any of them.
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| Apr 5, 2008 @ 12:34 PM |
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eeyoreluvr38
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Oh yeah, been through that myself. Years of being lied to and it sure does suck. It wouldnt have been so bad if he had just lied to me and drug my heart through the shredder but this guy promised my kids we were gonna be a family and the whole time already had a wife and daughter. I knew he had a daughter but of course he had me believing he and his wife had separated and were divorcing. So totally the opposite, they are still actively married. So i know all about the boat u have been in. Keep your chin up and i am trying to do the same.
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| Apr 5, 2008 @ 9:26 PM |
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Exsecratus_Sicarius
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You go out on a date with a guy, have a nice dinner, feel some chemistry and it feels right and so relaxed. After that date you talk for hours upon hours a night, start sharing "feelings" and what not.
Share "feelings" on the first date? 
How long did you two spend to get to know each other prior to going on a date?
Did those "feelings" include sensual feelings, for example, affection and/or sex?
Be honest. We're all adults here.
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| Apr 10, 2008 @ 8:10 PM |
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shania
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I also met another man on another site.that is also on here. Everytime I search and his pic comes up as a match for me, I wanna barf. He knew I was a widow and very vulnerable. I had an awesome husband...........guess I forgot how many creeps are out there, because I had a good man. Anyway he would send me flowers online. Little kisses....always so thoughtful, always seem to be so understanding about my fears. I was not surprised that it took so long to meet face to face because his profile says he owns a business and travels state to state. However his home was supposed to be close to me. When I finally did meet him, he looked NOTHING like his profile........I only recognized him from his voice talking to a cashier. I started to leave, but truth is , he had me all twisted up inside from all our time spent online and on the phone. I think if he had been a toad I would have still wanted to spend time with him. I had basically been rude to almost everyone else that had even contacted me. He was a little too fast for me, but hey it had been years since I had even kissed anyone else. we did some very heavy foreplay , but no sex. Five minutes after I left the resturant, he called to tell me how much he enjoyed being with me........that he would email me later, he had to make a run.
I didn't hear from him for two days.........I am feeling real guilty about allowing the heavy kissing, etc.......and still being drawn to him.......like I settled for so much less a man than my husband was. I finally sent him an email, thanking him for our time togehter and wished him to be happy. He fired an email back to me ten minutes later claiming his phone and computer were screwed up and he was on someone else's computer. Then I found him by accident on this site after I joined. He had been on here every day and had aquired a few more "friends". I said nothing when he called. I started catching all kinds of lies he was telling me. Even though I tried to explain the lies away to myself. I would swear never to talk to him. He would email me or call, and I'd be mush. Before I would get off phone or offline, I'd be flirting right back and making plans to see him. I found out by accident he was emailing a friend of mine............Gee .and telling her he couldn't wait to meet her, or that he was back in town, and he had told me he was in another state on business. I decided that even though he was lying, I just couldn't see not seeing him. It was like an addiction. Last time I saw him was a week ago in another town. It was such a big let-down. I cried most the way home, but finaly realized I don't even like the person he really is, only the one he portrayed online and on the phone. I still think about him, but even though part of me wants to hear from him, I pray he don't call.
I have started giving my phone number to a few of the men on these sites that seem decent. I have been out to dinner five times already in the last week, breakfast once and lunch twice. I have a date Friday night, Saturday night and lunch Monday. I have decied no more surprises.! I refuse to get drawn in again. I meet them ,be myself, no coy first impressions, and no bullshit. Funny thing is I was so nervous to date, I felt safe with him. So funny, now I am getting so many phone calls, offers of dates and men calling back that I did go to a resturant with, I am delightfullyconfused....Two Jim's three Johns, Eric, two Gary's, Dave, Carl, Rusty,Phil. .....I have to check caller ID and try to remember which is which.
I got a call I didn't get to last night from Steve........For the life of me.I can't figure out who Steve is LOL I make no bones about the fact I am dating others and will until I find someone I want to really spend a lot of time with and get to know much better. I have dated a few 9-10 years younger than me which I never done before. LOVE it!
I am sure it is like a used car in the paper, after a while most of calls will stop.....but I am having the time of my life. Still late at night I wish he would call.....that things were not as they were, but that he had been the person he portrayed. I get angry thinking how I told him of my fears, and being backward after all the years of being with one man,, that he played on them to get me into bed. It only happened once......the last time....and such a disapointment.!! For all I had built up in my mind of how it would be, the only real wham/bam /thank you mam..I had ever experienced..
Like you said I can't believe the lenghts some men go to to get a woman in bed. I am not really sorry I had sex with him,but it was so cold and fast.............no concern for my feelings at all. That has helped my resolve to stay away from him, and pray he doesn't call. But why do I still think of him...............what makes a woman like the bad boy?
I still cannot understand why these jerks feel the ned to prey on widows and hurt women when there are so many other women out there on some sites that make no bones about wanting to sleep with a man, no strings.
I am dating a LOT, but not lying to anyone. I don't think I could live with myself to take advantage of wounded prey
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