| Apr 19, 2008 @ 9:34 AM |
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countrytimegal
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Once again it seems like the scammers are out there in full force. I am finding that they have changed a little in the aspect of age, photos, and even in thier writing. Profiles seem to be normal enough and although they may be writing better emails you can usually catch something that should warn you to beware. Even then some seem fine until you have briefly corresponded with one another and you add them to messenger list. Then you really realize who they are. You are thier angel, their soul mate, you are the most beautiful woman and they are so lucky to have found you., and they are going to be home soon as they are in another country doing business and want to know if you will begin life with them. It is not only Nigeria, Africa but also Switzerland and others. Might have been a little slow in picking up on a couple of them and did add them but after a couple of times deleted and blocked. One even went so far to ask my last name and my real address. I do not give these out to strangers and he claimed that he was no stranger as we had made contact and he told me his name. Needless to say I blocked him. However...be ware when they give thier email or IM addresses in thier email for you to add them. Like I said I made the mistake a couple of times and now I am getting so much spam telling me they are a barrister and if I help them to get money and so forth I would get my share or that I have won a foreign lottery. I have gotten those previously a long time ago but had not been until making the mistake of adding these guys. Now I am getting bombarded with such emails. Signs to watch for vary but mostly if they have lost thier wife and have a child to raise, out of country on business or going to be going out of country for business, they talk of you as being the angel that they had been searching for, you are the one that they were meant to be with, giving you all of thier emails, etc to contact them away from the dating site, etc.. BE CAREFUL! Oh yes...if you are one of these scammers reading this...I am reporting you. I have caught on and hopefully others will be careful too and pick up a sign right off the bat. I am sorry if I have classified someone and reported them if they are not a scammer but it seems that one has to be leery at the slightest hint of scamming.
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 11:11 AM |
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marharet00
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i know what you mean.. been there done that and later had to pay the price.. they really have changed a little but one key that i almost always use to draw them out is this... so your english is a bit broken what country are you originally from? honestly this has done the trip on more then one occasion.. it seems they don't want to fess up to being forgeiners lol..
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 2:47 PM |
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subtle137
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I also wonder sometimes if one guy is just making new profile to adjust to what he thinks I want and try to pull me in that way. I keep getting new emails here from "new" members that have little to say in their profile, but the emails talk so "sweetly".
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 5:14 PM |
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KittyNation
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The ones that crack me up is telling me I look like an angel or my smile is so beautiful, etc - you know all the mush......yet the picture up on my profile at the time is the one of my CATS or one of a CARTOON CHARACTER! To me that's a big signal that they are just scammers.
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 11:14 PM |
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countrytimegal
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KittyNation....lol...you have gotten the angel story too huh? They can see what an angel I am by looking at my eyes..LOL I would be so blessed by God to have such an angel in my life.... You hear it all. Even if it is a legitimate guy (which I very much doubt it would be) and he was being sincere it would be hard to believe. Another...I am out of state on business...in Africa, Nigeria, or Switzerland right now but would like to establish a relationship so we can get together or married once I return to states. LOL I won't mention a name but I had two guys (supposedly two different guys) contact me from different sights and get this...they had the same last name but different first names, different states, both out of country right now, but wording of mail about the same. Now how likely is that to happen...especially around the same time as each other? Guess they need to make a living somehow...just hope no one falls for it all.
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 11:20 PM |
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countrytimegal
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Oh yes...thier emails are so full of such sweet words ...even go so far as to send poetry. LOL And yes...I am sure that many of them come from the same person using different names. Also I think that there may be different ones working for someone else because it seems like too many are putting down similiar words in thier emails. Usually too it seems like they are widowed and have one kid that they need someone to help raise. Only thing different is age and sex of child.
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 11:20 PM |
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countrytimegal
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Oh yes...thier emails are so full of such sweet words ...even go so far as to send poetry. LOL And yes...I am sure that many of them come from the same person using different names. Also I think that there may be different ones working for someone else because it seems like too many are putting down similiar words in thier emails. Usually too it seems like they are widowed and have one kid that they need someone to help raise. Only thing different is age and sex of child.
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| Apr 20, 2008 @ 1:24 AM |
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marharet00
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i think the thing we all have to remember here is the fact that anyone can pretend to be anything or anybody they want online..
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| Apr 20, 2008 @ 4:14 PM |
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CentsofHumor
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YUP..AND IT'S NOT ONLY THE "GUYS" THAT PLAY THAT GAME !!!
One thang I've used as a speed bump..is some gal saying..I must be "Generous"
To separate the guys sending all that mush to you gals..I tend to offer up a little
bit of something different..for example..if you wish to meet me..YOU'RE Buy'n
and plan on a expensive restaurant, with good wine, have a nice car..and don't
expect too much on the first date...just following what I've been told by you gals
*LOL..so I just follow your lead.. Anythang rong wid dat??? hmmmm and BTW..
DON'T show up in jeans with dirty sneakers either !!! *LOL
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| Apr 21, 2008 @ 12:41 AM |
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marharet00
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and cents you forgot to add that you will have the plastic surgery before hand to turn into the PERFECT man lol ( i think they insert one of those buttons that you push and it asnwers for you oh and it comes with an electrode that sends volts through you if you don't manage to follow the yes dear instructions given you hehehe)
sorry just a sense of humor for dear old cents lol have any of you seen the perfect man dolls that have the buttons in the tummy hehehe
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| Apr 21, 2008 @ 3:24 PM |
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CentsofHumor
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Ok...I'll go along with the "Yes" Dear...especially when >>I'm holding the ladder
whilst YOU are cleaning out me gutters<<< and you're afraid to fall off and break
someting..or..You're out in me garden working like a demon..and I'm there for you
and your Yes Dear support, as I'm holding the garden hose...Yes Dear..I can hit
the garden !!!..and watch out bending over...Yes Dear !!!!..Annn wen we hit the
ATM machine, and I forget me card..and we hav to use yours....Yes Dear, I can
put it in the machine for you...Soooo, I totally agree, with us'n accomodating you
femails..yes dear..and don't talk so much, you'll scare the fish
Me Great Self, the Fantastic Centsofhumor
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| Apr 23, 2008 @ 1:36 PM |
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countrytimegal
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centsof humor....I have talked with guys who have had women try to scam them too so I know it is not just the other way around. The reason for the original post was to warn women on these types. Did not mean that all men were out to scam a woman. Man or woman...we all need to be on alert for the scammers on this site or any other site. As for the things they say...most of them have lines that are really suspicious and very similiar to one anothers emails. I pointed some of things they say in thier correspondence as guideline for women (or man for that matter) to beware of. I am sure that there are people on here that are genuine in thier words and are legite..but it is the scammers that are making it difficult to sort out the true and genuine correspondence. I am online to find genuine friends and possibly Mr. Right...and to tell the truth scammers are causing many problems for the good people. Guess maybe we should all read profiles better and reread any correspondence before sending it out so that it can not be mistaken as coming from a scammer. Oh, by the way, I, as well as any other woman I am sure, are not looking for Yes Dear men to everything we say or do...we want a man that will treat us as they would like to be treated by us. Someone that is a giver and not just a taker. That works for both genders.. Sure makes for better relationship.
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| Apr 23, 2008 @ 3:46 PM |
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honeynubbin
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Very well said, countrytimegal. 
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 7:33 PM |
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countrytimegal
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Thank you Honeynubbin
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| May 4, 2008 @ 2:52 PM |
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Vida414
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when i first came onto the matchdoctor, i was amazed by all of the interest in me...just couldn't believe it...then after reading all of the "e=mails" and profiles, I figured out quickly that there was something awry...I also look for discrepancies in the profiles...I actually had an e-mail from someone that posted a woman's pic and expected me to respond????!!!! I actually laughed at that one and then quickly reported it. I always check out the profiles before I even read the e-mails and would never believe someone calling me an angel just from my pic. Just seeing the profiles that don't match info...i love it....
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| May 13, 2008 @ 11:46 AM |
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bogeyboy100
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I have had many spams myself............I find it quite fun to play along,knowing I am wasting their time...............I even make myself more appealing................Try it,its fun.......................... 
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| May 13, 2008 @ 5:04 PM |
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Cherokeeroses2001
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I agree that the best way to handle the scammers is with a sense of humor. I once told a guy who was an obvious scam that I came here from the Ukrain and was in need of a husband so I could stay here in this wonderful country. He didn't want to talk any more--lol.
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| May 13, 2008 @ 8:02 PM |
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LindaG39
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OMG!!!! I had the same thing happen, I fell for it at first, we started to Im, and then I started noticing the messed up typing, after the 3rd time on IM he told me he had to go to Africa for work, told me he was in love with me, I actually laughed at him and told he he was full of sh*t LOL, a couple of days later I get this Im from him , he saw I was on line. He said he was on his way to get a web cam, and that he got mugged, that all his money was stolen, and would I wire him five thousand dollars, I told him to leave me alone and go find someone else to bother. I contacted the FBI, that actually had me go back on and lie to him tell him I was going to wire him the money, and to get all his info, which he gladly IM'd me LOL after a few IM's that he hadn't received it yet, I finally told that he was busted. and they did get him.
Sad that we all (men and woman) have to deal with this.
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| May 17, 2008 @ 1:01 AM |
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countrytimegal
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LindaG39....I think it was great that you got him busted. It is really getting hard to figure them out. As I have said before they are getting a little better in thier writing. However...I have noticed lately on another site that they are starting thier messages out as Hi pretty. Although some are writing a little better if you really read each and every word you will catch something such as know you more better, etc.. I am also thinking that some of these supposed men are actually women because they will slip up and say something like what they are looking for in a woman and they will say he instead of she. They are insistent in first emailing that they can be found on yahoo and want your email and/or messenger ID so that we can chat and get to know each other more better. As I have said before I made that mistake a couple of times and ended up blocking them but I have noticed that all of a sudden I was getting bombarded with letters from Barristers, etc..wanting my help to get money into the US. There has to be a connection. I used to get them but have not in a long long time until I made the mistake of adding these guys to my messenger. I don't know how the sites prove that they are indeed scammers but I sure wish there was a way the names and pics would be posted for the real sincere members. Names are not necessarily the greatest help because they change them all the time but the pics might be a little more useful when you get contacted. I know I just got one today...that I recognized the pic (I remembered because he was very nice looking making me think of an actor from years ago although I can not recall the name or I would check it out if possible...Another one too but different area than I remember. A lot of these latest ones list Florida, California, and NewYork as residence although in Africa or another country on business. Anyway best of luck to everyone and may you not be conned by any of these people.
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| May 17, 2008 @ 1:03 AM |
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countrytimegal
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By the way...I have also noticed most readily give a full name in thier first contact email. That in itself is a little strange. Most people do not give that...not full name anyway.
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