| Dec 30, 2006 @ 9:08 PM |
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country_girl_here
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can someone explain to me after a break up why does the ex email you or call you...even though they say its over...i forget about him but then he calls or emails me but yet they always says its over...so why take the time to call or email...would someone smarter than me explain this...i hope someone on this site can tell me...
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| Jan 2, 2007 @ 1:51 AM |
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greatsenseofhumor
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they call or email because even though whatever problems there were to cause the breakup , they realize it's no fun being out in the dating world with all the games and lies. And, it's not always a lot of fun trying to get to know someone new. And, since they already know you, they don't want to burn the bridges with a past lover just in case they want to get back with them.
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| Jan 4, 2007 @ 6:33 PM |
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stealth121
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this is a temp to keep you on a string. to keep them on your mind. there looking for something more and finding out that it is not there or not what the though it would be like. i wouldd not pay much attention to him. sounds to me he needs to grow up.
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| Jan 5, 2007 @ 8:40 AM |
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alwaysthere58
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I think you would have to consider how long you were together. If it were a long time, it could be habit. You know each other so well. You know that niether one is perfect. You know each other's faults. Even though there were problems, sometimes it is still a soft place to land.
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| Jan 6, 2007 @ 2:34 AM |
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persianbroker
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this is a temp to keep you on a string. to keep them on your mind. there looking for something more and finding out that it is not there or not what the though it would be like. i wouldd not pay much attention to him. sounds to me he needs to grow up.
My ex, who I was with for about a year and a half, seems to fit this explanation. It's been over a year since we broke up and I now live 1800 miles away yet he often still finds the need to call/email me just to tell me about how much he misses and loves me . . . . and then tell me about all the girls he's sleeping with. I recently told him (for the second time) to stop contacting me . . . hopefully this one'll stick. My advice: You broke up for a reason. Unless you really do want to get back together with him, just don't let him get to you. And if you do want to get back with him, remember that this can be a very vicious cycle of break-ups and reconnects if you're not really meant to be together, so examine the reasons that you broke up carefully before making such a decision. Good luck!
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| Jan 8, 2007 @ 11:29 AM |
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sterling888219
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the key is to not give him any reason to call
be kind, yet blunt
and he will go away
unless he is a stalker of some kind
Sean
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| Jan 12, 2007 @ 6:09 PM |
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Fred_82664
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Greatsenseofhumer Is right being out here in the dating jungle is not all that fun.
Liars, cheaters, head gamers, and well bar sluts. Nothing against going to bars and having fun I think you know what I mean there. What I do not understand is why do women use vary harmful slander agents some one that dose not do it to them. I live in a small town and been in this jungle for some time yes had my shear of the foul best and yet they slander to destroy
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| Jan 29, 2007 @ 5:26 PM |
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lustful_loving
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When ya find the answer to that one let me know..
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| Jan 30, 2007 @ 1:23 PM |
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EmAvail
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So your one of those who cannot stand to be friends or friendly after the end of a relationship? I stay in contact with former girlfriends. Just because we ended up not being compatable mates doesn't mean that we were not good as friends. I admit, it is easier when both parties agree that they are not compatable though. I prefer to keep the friendship alive.
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| Feb 2, 2007 @ 11:40 AM |
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robgoodsound
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Guilt maybe. My x emailed me after she was released from prison. Wanted me to remember the good times (??????) yeah right. I thought about asking her to refresh my memory  but decided it was better to just ignore her. I have not heard from her in ten years and assume she moved on with her life as have i.
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 7:13 PM |
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shadepearl
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They don't want to be forgotten and it give them a sense of control.
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| Feb 26, 2007 @ 5:44 PM |
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princeValiant56
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thats true they are like a thorn that has gone in deep
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| Mar 6, 2007 @ 7:53 AM |
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zest4lifepam
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Goodmorning, he want's you keep you stringing along, so if someone else doesn't work out for him, he will have you to fall back on. If he dumped you, tell him to get lost. My ex walked off and left me in Jan. and traded me for a harley, I cried for months and would find any excuse to call him. I had to give that up, I've made great progress since I madee myself let him go. I still love him and would love to have him back, but he isn't worth it. Keep thinking positive.
Pam
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| Mar 13, 2007 @ 10:19 PM |
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LOVNMANN
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Men typically will call ex wives and or girlfriends when they have enough time to forget the incompatibility and hurt and get horny and remember the familiarity.
So then they are in love (lust) again.
Sure enough after returning to a relationship that did not work. If nothing changed it still won't work..
Men many times think with their wrong head and get into situations that they may not have done with a clear mind and relieved MSB (MALE SPERM BUILDUP).
I believe many men do not do this intentionally return to old relationships and themselves do no know why they are doing it.. They just do it..
It is important for relationships to end with closure otherwise you are no free to give yourself in another relationship.
I have been single and divorced for almost 27 years and have experienced the calling and going back to bad relationships many times.
I just turned 60 now and wish I knew then what I know now. Wow that would be great. But that is not reality so those of you who are just finish or finishing a relationship don't jump into a new one, That is not fair to the other person or you.
If you truly care about yourself take time to do some introspective work on yourself and start changing some of the things you do in relationships.
If you choose not to do this THEN THE PAST WILL REPEAT ITSELF.
REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SAYS AS MUCH ABOUT YOU AS IT DOES ABOUT THEM...
Single people who are emotionally healthy do NOT get into relationships with unhealthy people.
Sorry for the long winded reply.. I just would like someone to learn from my past and not have to make the same mistakes.
It will save you a lot of time and pain..
I wish you all the good that there is in life...
Bob
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| Apr 19, 2007 @ 1:11 PM |
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poisonsgirl
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I believe it is to keep u around......that way if they know ur still there that can always have u as a back up.....if all the other girls won't have him.....it is a way to give u hope that there is a chance for a relationship even though it will never happen.....this way they know they will never be alone and u will never let them down.......it is sad to say but i think its true......every time u answer his call, or return his message, or do something for him......he digs his claws in deeper....and it makes ur wounds hurt alot more when there is a ultimate break up.......best thing is to ignore him totally and move on........
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| Apr 20, 2007 @ 8:43 PM |
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thepunisher
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i used to think it was important to remain friends, after a breakup. but after viewing all this "he's just stringing me along", "wants to keep you on the hook" crud in here, i'm not so sure. it doesn't seem like many of y'all have the capacity to put things behind you. grow, move on. there's always gonna be another situation out there for you; but if your mired in the past, you may not be paying enough attention to see it, when it comes along. have enough self respect to move on with your life. otherwise you're no better than a stalker, which it sounds like some of you are anyway.
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| Apr 21, 2007 @ 12:25 AM |
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Shawna101
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Ignorance it's like they want to be with you but without the emotional ties not talking about sex but,they would prefer to see where you are and what you are doing after they break up with you but,without ever actually being there.Or,to see if you are really bothered by the breakup.To let you know how they are doing,who they are sleeping with and just so they can shove it all in your face.It's just selfishness!!!
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| Apr 21, 2007 @ 7:02 AM |
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thepunisher
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i'm pretty sure the legal terminology, for what you describe, is STALKING. you know that when a guy cuts your phone lines, he's got some serious problems with self worth, and sexual inadequacy. 
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| Sep 9, 2007 @ 9:36 PM |
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elsie52
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well frommy experience they want to find out what u r doing cause if they think u r with someone else they dont have another chance with u after they find out the grass wasnt greener on the other side of the fence
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| Sep 26, 2007 @ 3:26 PM |
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gmichael52
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I don't know the situation that led to your breakup, but I had this occur also. I had a breakup with someone and it wasn't that good at the time, althought the breakup was mutual. We were pretty good friends before the relationship, but our goals in what we sought out in the relationship were not the same. It was pretty much doomed from the start. We talked with each other after the relationship ended. It was kinda awkward but I felt that we still did have a genuine concern for each other, even despite the fact that we were incompatible.
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