| Jun 21, 2007 @ 10:36 PM |
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sweetie1965
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First off to all the ones out here that wanted to know if i found someone if they had a brother....well i think that he does have a brother but he is taken and dont live in indiana.....i think that i have one of the best guys that there is and we developed a very long friendship before we decided to take this step....i do not know if it is going to work or not but we want to give it a try.
Second thing since me and Tony have started seeing each other i have gotten about 20 emails from guys wanting to hook up...lol...so maybe there is some truth to the old saying because I am not looking now and they are coming...lol.....i think that i am going to stay on the site for a while though and see what friends i can make...male and females...so if anyone wants a good friend then just give me a shout....:)
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 2:04 PM |
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LGTEYES
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I am always looking to make friends!!
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 2:12 PM |
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iceagehottie
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well micro, let me chim in a bit and then you can feel free to bash away at me if you so choose. i dont think that if you dont have a pic that there is no trust, we maybe to a point i guess, but then again, anyway....also the self serving act thing you stated about them wanting someone to ask for a pic, ummm huh? dude to each his own, but dont get angry about it ok. have a great day! congrats sweet and yes lgt, genie we are welcome no matter where it is lol.  ...o ok micro, i guess this is where you can bash at me now. 
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 4:24 PM |
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geniekitten
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congrats sweetie1965... well if micro is going to try to bash you he will have more than you to deal with.. we ladys have to stick together.. and Ice my sister I do agree with you 100%.. 
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 5:37 PM |
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sweetie1965
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hey genie thanks for the friend request i got you added on......i love making new friends...as far as micro goes well....ive had a pic on here for a long time and who knows with his ways he just might never meet the perfect woman for him just because she dont have a pic on here!!!!! LOL his loss. Diane
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 5:39 PM |
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sweetie1965
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besides just because someone has a pic on here it doesnt even mean that it is them...lol
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 5:45 PM |
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geniekitten
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thanks sweetie, and you are right.. they could post a pic of anybody..
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 11:02 PM |
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Microchip
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micro, i guess this is where you can bash at me now. Ouch! You really know how to hurt a guy, don't you?  Why would I bash you for your opinion? That is the very thing I will defend, for everyone.
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 11:04 PM |
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Microchip
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they could post a pic of anybody.. I agree. But that is part of the point I made. It would take only ONE date to find them out. But without that picture, there won't be a first date, because of the reasons I listed before. And I stand by those. That picture will give the individual a chance to gain my trust. If it's a oldie, and looks nothing like the person when I meet her, then I KNOW I've been HAD.
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| Jun 23, 2007 @ 11:14 PM |
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sweetie1965
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it would only take one date to know rather you was interestd in them period.....just cause someone looks one way dont mean that they are going to be who you want them to be. Looks are kind of irrevalent in the case of love...now dont get me wrong I think that there has to be some attaction there but i dont think that is what it should be all about..so what if they dont have a pic on here..maybe they dont have any way to get a pic on here.....
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 12:13 AM |
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Microchip
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just cause someone looks one way dont mean that they are going to be who you want them to be.
Who I WANT them to be? No, no. I just want the person to look like the picture they posted. I'll give you a loose analogy.
If you are browsing in the book store, do you open and read EVERY book? No! You look at only the books whose cover attracts you. Maybe the title will attract you, but the cover will do the most to get you to read the book. If the cover and/or title are really poor, it's unlikely that you will ever open that book. It's the same with dating, I believe.
Looks are kind of irrevalent in the case of love...
Maybe to YOU. I don't see me falling in love with someone I am not attracted to. AFTERWARD, like maybe years later, if she starts getting old and unattractive, it won't matter, because I will still love her, because I fell in love with HER, and not her looks.
now dont get me wrong I think that there has to be some attaction there but i dont think that is what it should be all about. That is not what it is ALL about. That's what STARTS a relationship. You HAVE to be attracted to a person, whether it's physically, emotionally, or psychologically. You can't be emotionally or psychologically attracted to someone until you get to know them.
.so what if they dont have a pic on here..maybe they dont have any way to get a pic on here..... If that was the case, I would expect the person to be upfront about that, and then I would wonder (and ask) why. However, this is 2007. Even the biggest computer-phobic people have enough savvy to upload a picture. If they can't, I would doubt their intelligence. If they won't, then I would doubt their sincerity. So you see, there are too many negatives associated with not uploading a picture.
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 1:29 AM |
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LGTEYES
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[QUOTE] "I would expect the person to be upfront about that, and then I would wonder (and ask) why. However, this is 2007. Even the biggest computer-phobic people have enough savvy to upload a picture. If they can't, I would doubt their intelligence. If they won't, then I would doubt their sincerity. So you see, there are too many negatives associated with not uploading a picture".....
maybe they can't afford the equipment to do so!
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 2:28 AM |
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sweetie1965
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not everyone has a digital cam or a scanner...DUH bet you never thought about that...lol
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 10:02 AM |
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tallman5700
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Iam good man so ladys I want to hear from all you ladys and see where it goes from there.Iam in Indiana at 56 years old and a truck driver heres my email {email address removed}
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 10:02 AM |
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Microchip
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maybe they can't afford the equipment to do so!
There are more digital cameras and web cams out now than there ever were film cameras, so it doesn't require a large financial investment anymore.
not everyone has a digital cam or a scanner...DUH bet you never thought about that...lol
DUH? Where there is a will, there is a way. Most people aren't totally helpless. If they want to get something accomplished, especially as little as getting a digital picture uploaded, they can usually accomplish that.
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 11:14 AM |
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LGTEYES
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micro, you seem to have an answer for everything..lets create a scenario...a woman with a child/children who is divorced, and doesn't get support from the father, joins a dating site..she has a computer, but no scanner or digital or other equipment. she has to work to pay the bills and provide for her children..the kids need clothes..should she buy the clothes or the equipment!! understand the point here??
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 12:39 PM |
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Microchip
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micro, you seem to have an answer for everything
Only the situations that are straight-forward, or those that I have been in before. I know EXACTLY what I want, what I don't want, what I will settle for, and what I won't put up with. That is mor ethan I can say for a lot of women on here.
..lets create a scenario...a woman with a child/children who is divorced, and doesn't get support from the father, joins a dating site..she has a computer, but no scanner or digital or other equipment. she has to work to pay the bills and provide for her children..the kids need clothes..should she buy the clothes or the equipment!! understand the point here??
No, I don't understand the point. In that situation, she could have a FRIEND take her picture, and e-mail it to her to post. No scanner or digital equipment is required. What if she has no friends, you say? Hmmm... then do I really want to meet her?
Besides, it would cost only a couple bucks to get a driver license photo scanned at Kinko's perhaps.
My point is "where there is a will, there is a way." I can't believe a GOOD prospect would be so helpless that she can't at least get something that simple and basic accomplished without having to make a big investment. Being poor is not an excuse here. When you don't have money, all it takes is a little innovation.
Some people I have talked to are just too lazy to go through anything that is "too much trouble". Do I want to be with a person like THAT? I think not.
Sorry. So far, every reason I have come across for not posting a picture has been NEGATIVE.
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 12:59 PM |
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LGTEYES
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you are the negative one here...and why are you on this thread anyway..you're not from Indiana?? Good luck to the women in your state!! They will need it!!
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 1:05 PM |
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geniekitten
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hey micro, did you ever stop to think that they my have an excellent reason for not posting a picture on here or anywhere else on the web.... It took me 3 years to feel comfortable enough to post a picture.... there are all kinds of nut jobs out here men and women included... My reason was that I was raped and I was not about to have him track me done agian and do the samething to me or worse... he already broke my neck once.. There are many women and men how have experienced a bad time one here and will not post a pic they may e-mail or they would rather meet in a public place... so you see do not have the answer to everything.... so now you can bash me instead of my sisters on here.......
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| Jun 24, 2007 @ 1:10 PM |
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LGTEYES
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there will be no bashing of genie on here, lest you be bashed yourself!!
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