| May 21, 2007 @ 9:48 AM |
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Phatpacs
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Look there lot of people in the world that doesn't know what the difference of making love and having sex. so i am going to tell you. Its when you hold that person and he/she makes you feel safe relaxed and refined. The make you feel complete.
This is my testament and i am sticking to it.
sincerely,
Tim
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| May 21, 2007 @ 12:41 PM |
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itechman63
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No comparison.
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| May 21, 2007 @ 6:14 PM |
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geniekitten
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I agree with itechman there is no comparison....
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| May 24, 2007 @ 10:27 AM |
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stealth121
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i have to agree with ya man
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| May 24, 2007 @ 3:54 PM |
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jcnme1969
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Thank you for showing from a mans point of view. B/c you hit it right on the money. There is no greater safety than in the right mans arms
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| May 24, 2007 @ 5:45 PM |
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baldbychoice2kx
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What I like is that you can make love to someone all day long and not once actually have sex in the physical sense. I think I enjoy that as much as any physical activities, if not more so.
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| May 24, 2007 @ 7:14 PM |
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sktrbuggie
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Agreed! 
My own profile states that I want a man to feel safe with!! That's EXACTLY what I mean!!!
Great Post! 
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| May 31, 2007 @ 12:38 PM |
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stealth121
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what i think is that you have to feel love for the person. then you can enjoy eachother. if you don't feel for the person then it is just a sex sestion.
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| May 31, 2007 @ 11:56 PM |
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KallieKo
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I agree and it is so nice to have a man state that definition.. most "act" as though they are clueless and they only operate in "sex" mode... no offense, please don't take it that way... JMT
It is so much more enjoyable if you take the time to get close to that person and have no inhibitions then it is sweet sweet lovin!
Never a one night stand kinda girl for the main reason I didn't know how to have just sex...
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| Jun 1, 2007 @ 4:14 PM |
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stealth121
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though the guys who feel this way are shund and are not concidered to be in a relationship. were all either older of have had enough broken heart times to learn this. why is that anyway?
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| Jun 2, 2007 @ 8:06 AM |
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BaNiNBoston
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Just some interesting reading!!!!!
Are You Having Sex or Making Love?
June 2, 2007
Michele Hickford
Special for eFitness
Here’s a brain teaser for you: what’s the difference between making love and having sex? Study the following examples.
When making love, you call out your partner’s name.
When having sex, you try to remember it.
When making love, you talk about it afterwards with your partner. When having sex, you talk about it with your best friend. Sometimes during, if it’s that sort of evening.
When making love, you first have a soapy shower, then make love, then go to sleep. When having sex, you have sex, then take a shower, then leave.
When making love, you wear flannel pajamas and socks. When having sex, you wear lace and stilettos (well, the women, primarily).
When making love, the evening probably started in the living room. When having sex, it probably started in the bar.
When making love, it’s unusual to be doing it in a car. When having sex, it’s unusual to be doing it in a bed.
When having sex, you worry your spouse will find out. When making love, you worry the kids will.
I provide these examples because one of your fellow readers took issue with my use of the term "lover" when talking about infidelity in particular. His point was, a lover is someone you genuinely love, not just lust after. And "making love" is what you do together as an expression of your emotion in a committed relationship. I agree.
We tend to use the phrase "making love" as a euphemism because we don’t like to say "sex" in polite company. But we certainly have plenty of euphemisms for sex: "doing the nasty," "the beast with two backs," "hiding the salami," or "having a shag" spring handily to mind.
However, we really should reserve "making love" for the real thing. We need to remind ourselves that sex is just an "act" -- two people acting like they really care about each other, but in reality, they really only care about themselves, and their own pleasure.
The problem is, oftentimes one person is working hard at making love, while the other is simply having sex. It’s tough, because good sex can be an outcome of good love, but good love generally doesn’t spring from good sex. And what makes it even more complicated is our bodies don’t know the difference.
I sometimes think we have two brains: upper and lower. The upper brain is responsible for judgment, responsibility and reason. The lower brain is responsible (or should I say irresponsible) for sex. It’s the lower brain that gets people into trouble, and makes risky behavior seem like a really good idea. The lower brain convinces the upper brain that it really might be love, and the upper brain falls for it. Then when it isn’t love, the upper brain gets really cheesed off. But does it blame the lower brain? No! It blames the other person. How stupid is that? If the brains really wanted to know the truth, they’d only need to ask the heart. We always have the right answer in our hearts. We just may not want to hear it.
So perhaps these examples will provide some clarity, and help you understand if it’s love or sex. I’ll leave you with one more, which is perhaps the most important. When having sex, you’re secretly making comparisons. When making love, there is no comparison.
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| Jun 2, 2007 @ 9:03 AM |
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LGTEYES
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how about "bumping uglies"..lol..not my saying..my aunt said it one night at a family texas hold'em..lmao..had never heard that one before.
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| Jun 12 @ 11:10 AM |
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pamdemonium
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I always thinking of making love as expressing your love for someone with your body.
And sex, I think of as a release...with little or no emotion attached.
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| Jun 12 @ 6:34 PM |
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justenjoylife23
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Expressing love with your body, yeah, I like that. I grew up in a home and in a time when sex was what you did to have babies. Making love was what you did when you were married. It has been a long, slow process to reeducate myself into the idea that sex can be fun, just as making love can be. The difference: I see the difference as one of priorities. With sex, the priority is to enjoy the activity. When making love, the priority is to bring each other into a joyful bliss of being one and separate at the same time. One of my favorite movies "Bicentennial Man" has Robin Williams playing an android trying to become human. He spends 2-3 minutes in the second half of the film explaining what he has heard about love and sex. I don't have it memorized, but he does say that you reach the heights of ecstacy and life, then you sorta die, wake up, and you are next to the one you love and can go there again and again (he said it better- lol - go watch the movie).
Anyway, I don't think true making love can start until all the baggage has been left at the doorstep. You know you are making love more and having sex less, I think, when there is less and less baggage to leave each time.
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| Jul 24 @ 4:47 PM |
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stealth121
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heck i would love to find someone to hang with . get to know and then see where it goes.
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| Jul 24 @ 10:58 PM |
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Annie544
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If I just wanted sex I would look for a FB. But, I want to be in love and make that all day love baldy is talking about. Making love is just not only physical but it is also mental too.
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| Aug 10 @ 1:44 PM |
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ManishBoy69
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...and emotional. highly emotional.
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| Aug 22 @ 7:38 AM |
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gmichael52
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Look there lot of people in the world that doesn't know what the difference of making love and having sex.
So they know now?
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| Sep 6 @ 3:34 PM |
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chersann58
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I agree with most of you..its the touch, looking into thier eyes, the feeling of sincerity,compassion, intimacy, the bond of being one....
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