| Nov 10, 2007 @ 8:12 AM |
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FireFairy911
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Would you or could you date someone that had a Mental Illness? Meaning...Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia, Multiple Personality Disorder and so on. I feel that it takes a really strong person to be with someone that has an illness like this and that person has to be totally understanding of the illness and everyting that is involved with it and the other person and be as involved with the treatment as much as possible and I think that there can be a relationship.
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| Nov 11, 2007 @ 5:59 PM |
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Laidback742
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I don't know ... I dated someone a few years ago who's 13 year old daughter was diagnosed as bi polar, and something else, don't remember what .... that was hard enough .... I couldn't handle her mood swings very well .... it takes a lot to get handle a situation like that.
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| Nov 12, 2007 @ 9:01 AM |
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YoungNBeautiful
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Growing up with a BiPolar mom, yes I could, Maybe not someone who wasn't medicated or couldn't handle there problem, but if they had a hold of there issue, I defiently could.
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| Nov 13, 2007 @ 2:58 PM |
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gmichael52
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Would you or could you date someone that had a Mental Illness? Meaning...Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia, Multiple Personality Disorder and so on. I feel that it takes a really strong person to be with someone that has an illness like this and that person has to be totally understanding of the illness and everyting that is involved with it and the other person and be as involved with the treatment as much as possible and I think that there can be a relationship.
No- and it has nothing to do with being a "strong" person.
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| Nov 13, 2007 @ 5:40 PM |
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iceagehottie
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Ok GM...I would have to question your answer on this one...you gave a straight no...and nothing else...care to elaborate? I do think it would take a strong person, because there are times that it can be hard even when they are on their meds...just curious.... 
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| Nov 13, 2007 @ 11:10 PM |
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sktrbuggie
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I myself am Bipolar. So I know first hand how hard it can be to find someone who is understanding of the disease.
People dont really take the time to really learn about it, or any other mental illness for that matter. They listen to what they hear on TV, radio, Newspapers etc...only focusing on the negative. I'm not saying there's anything positive about any of the illnesses, but they can be controlled with meds, guidance,self healing etc... It not only takes a strong person to date someone who has one of these mental illnesses but it takes an even stronger person to deal with having one! It's a day to day struggle not only for the person who has it but the person who is with that person, family members, friends. It's a balancing act that takes understanding, compassion, and most of all an unfailing amount of patience.
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| Nov 14, 2007 @ 11:21 PM |
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SnowLynx20
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If the person was really serious about managing their illness as best they could, then I would try. But someone who deliberately went off meds at intervals, just because they didn't feel they needed it (Because they WERE taking it, and it WAS working!), or didn't feel like taking it.. no. I don't think I could put up with that.
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| Nov 17, 2007 @ 10:10 PM |
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cindilou2
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Yes, I would. I suffer from depression and am doing great. I usually dont blurt it out on the first date but i tell them if it looks like a relationship may form.
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| Nov 18, 2007 @ 1:42 AM |
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ghostmage
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The last girl I dated was bi-polar but wouldn't admit she had a problem. Yet, she had major mood swings and blamed everyone else for how she felt, especially me. I tried for a year to work with her, to help her find some kind of balance. She wouldn't face the truth and verbally attacked me with insults and saying she didn't like how I was trying to change her.
Its not easy loving someone with these kinds of issues. In the end I had to leave for my own sanity. I did a lot of research and talked to professionals while I was dating her and they all told me the same thing. Until she's ready to deal with her problem, it will only get worse. I couldn't help her no matter how hard I tried.
After being through this experience I feel for people with this illness. I hope she gets help, but I will not date her or any women with bi-polar again.
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| Nov 21, 2007 @ 8:08 AM |
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FireFairy911
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I have bipolar and I am not ashamed of it, I do take meds for it and I am not going to say that I am norman because normal people kinda worry me lol, but I am not a "freak"....You just have to take the time to get to know me.... 
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| Nov 22, 2007 @ 10:22 AM |
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Moondog909
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If you meet someone and fall in love, then its ok.
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| Nov 22, 2007 @ 9:11 PM |
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poisonsgirl
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Yes......Being Bi-Polar myself....I know how hard it is to handle someone with a mental illness......Im not going to say it is easy but......It is not something to run from....I know alot of people i think need medication and they arent on any.....so u can not go by the medical aspect of it....I mean everyone has some sorta issue....and i know alot of people dont mention there mental diagnoses until well in to the relationship.....so if i fall for some one and then find out so be it....it is just something i will have to handle....when u want to be with some one u will sacrafice what u can to be wit them....
im outy
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| Nov 27, 2007 @ 4:55 PM |
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Tamak
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I'm jumping in a little late in the conversation, but my answer would be yes IF they continue to actively seek treatment (meds, counseling...ect). My ex m-i-l is Bi Polar and so is my son. They are the most creative, interesting people I know, mainly because they are not 'wired' like most of us, thinking outside-the-box comes naturally for them. BTW, I really despise the way our society classifies 'mental illnesses'. The 'mental' conditions have a physical basis for the diseases, just as diabetes, asthma, arthritis, and yet they are classified differently (so insurance and Medicare and Medicaid don't have to pay as much on the claims, leaving patients with huge medical bills to pay)  . Sorry, I guess that's another forum, huh.
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| Dec 12, 2007 @ 5:16 PM |
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stealth121
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i was taking meds for bi polar. 1200 mg of lithium a day. plus a handfull of other pills for pain and other problems. now god has healed my mind and body. praise god
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| Jan 1 @ 11:30 PM |
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ilikebigbutts
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No. I did that and won't again. My son's mother is bipolar and she made my life miserable. She was on meds and took them every day as she was supposed to, but she just wasn't stable and she took it out on me. I was with her 5 yrs for my son but finally had to leave. My mother acts just like my ex does, and I didn't want to be with someone like my mother, who has never saught mental help but is likely bipolar.
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| Jan 2 @ 9:05 AM |
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geniekitten
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Ok.. My answer to the question on the thread is yes, I would....I have dated guys that are bi-polar and some were a good relationship and then some not so good.....
You are correct in that it does take and will take a very strong person to be with someone who is bi-polar....
I have friends that are on meds and some days they work and some days the meds don't work... But my friends know that I am there for them no matter what time of day or night.. I will be there even if it is just to talk to them all night..
As far as the mood swings... Don't we all have mood swings.?.
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| Jan 2 @ 11:05 AM |
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dwhite810
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I would have to say yes I would date someone that has depression. It might just be that they are depressed because they are sad about life or just plan lonely. it might help them if it seemed like someone cared.
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| Jan 4 @ 4:25 PM |
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jcnme1969
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I am living proof that having depression and relationships can work. It took a toll on my marriage (among a lot of other issues that need not be put out there for the world to see) and inevitably it cost me my marriage. However now looking back I see where I could have tried a little harder. Where he made sacrifices for me for a number of years. We are now better friends with deeper understanding. And with a special needs child it is crucial he and I stay open to one another.
May not be the "answer" you were looking for and I must say i was a little taken back when I saw the post originally. Which may be why I took so long to post my comment.
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| Jan 5 @ 9:02 PM |
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RebelleJen
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I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder myself -- if you don't know for sure what it is, understand first that it is NOT the same as bipolar disorder or multiple personalities, though it can quite often be misdiagnosed as either disorder, along with a few others. Here is a link explaining what it is: NIMH - Borderline Personality Disorder
For a long, long time, I was undateable. I would take everything and anything out on my partner, doubt that they could and did care about me, say things that I really honestly and truly did not mean, was overly dependent on others.... It wasn't until I actually STOPPED taking medication, going to therapy and depending on others that I finally started to heal. Nowadays, I am living a happy and productive life. While I do still have minor mood swings, I no longer lash out at others, nor do I doubt my partner's love for me. For me, I had to take the time away from everything to get to know me -- know when I was swinging and when I wasn't, what was normal for me, what wasn't, my good qualities and bad qualities. More or less, I had to learn how to just live.
My boyfriend also experienced something similar -- he suffered from severe depression and bipolar disorder for many years until he did the same thing as I did at about the same point in time. That being said, however, I would not be able to date him if either he or I did not have our respective illnesses under control.
Thanks for the insightful and thought-provoking post. :)
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| Jan 7 @ 11:11 AM |
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purple_erb
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I am bipolar myself and I know it is not an easy disorder to live with and it can make having a relationship very difficult for both parties involved. If you truly care about someone though it can be done...so yes I would.
Thank you for posting this question and thank all the rest of you for your replies...I have found this very interesting.
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