| Jul 29, 2006 @ 10:29 PM |
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Angel476
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I posted this in the Breaking Up forum, but it might be better here...
I joined this site at the suggestion of one of my girlfriends. She had found "the one" on here and thought I might benefit. Well, it was a lose/lose situation all the way around.
I've been a member since this morning. lol I searched some profiles, answered some emails and found someone that I thought sounded like a good prospect. I sent a wink and got an email almost immediately. We emailed, moved to IM and he tells me, 2 minutes into the conversation, that he wants a committment with me forever.... TWO MINUTES!!
I basically tell him to slow down because I'm not making a committment to anyone after 2 minutes. Heck, I can barely committ to a soda decision in that short of time. Anyway, long IM story short, we make a date to meet for coffee online and chat in the morning.
During this time I'm also chatting with my friend and she's all excited that I found someone so fast. I've been out of the dating loop for a while. Anyway, she's a little anxious about her new man and we talk about it. She tells me his name and suddenly there are bells, whistles and red flags going off all around. She's talking about the same guy that I'm chatting with. This is the same guy who has her planning a wedding and honeymoon for late winter.
I didn't say a word...at least not to her. How do you tell someone that the man she thinks she is going to marry is lining up dates on the side. However, he got an earful via email on this site (right skevin?) Let's just say that it wouldn't surprise me in the least little bit to find out that he's married with a houseful of kids.
So ladies, be forewarned. Tell all your female friends out here to watch out for this liar. As for me, I think I'll just hold off on the dating scene for a while longer. lol 
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| Jul 29, 2006 @ 10:32 PM |
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spongebob777
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Will you marry me?
Just kidding 
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| Jul 29, 2006 @ 10:39 PM |
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SunBabe
Posts: 12,279
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I just winked at him  ...only because I couldn't send a --->  or  
Hang loose, Angel+...there really are genuine REAL men on here....honorable ones, too! 
(Hope your friend got a "clue" about Mr BooBoo.  Ouch ~sigh~)
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| Jul 29, 2006 @ 11:09 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Guess it's not funny, but I got an email from him too. It was a pretty quick exchange, he said hello beautiful woman, I responded that he was looking a bit grey (no pic posted) and I hoped he felt better soon...
Sorry your friend's disappointed, but better sooner than later!
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| Jul 29, 2006 @ 11:35 PM |
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robodad
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Maybe he's a Minute Man (or two) 
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 5:34 AM |
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chinabull2000
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Well, if I could meet someone who liked getting dirty and makes a mean meatloaf, I reckon I'd be asking for a committment straight off too!
But, seriously, what a f***ing wanker. 
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 11:34 AM |
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Angel476
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Well here's an update. He cancelled his membership here. I'm sure he has more on other sites. My favorite part of this is that he thinks that meeting me was some kind of test. No, it was the universe in action. 
I haven't told my friend yet. I don't know how to break it to her. I'm going to have to do something soon though. Why is it that all the sweet, caring souls get hurt?
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 11:48 AM |
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wiccked
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i would have printed out anything he sent me and then shown it to your friend-
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 12:10 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Yeah, be careful not to jeopardise your friendship, situations like this can be very tricky and unpleasant..
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 12:59 PM |
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nah12
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you really should have kept the date to meet him and told her you wanted her opinion and have her show up 10-15 mins later.......underhanded i know!!. but then she could have seen for herself......but then again some still never believe when they do see for themselves.......good luck it's not going to be pretty either way i'm sure......
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 4:00 PM |
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ynot77
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there ya go.... a meeting where ALL THREE show up .. he he he ''surprise'' baby!!!  
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 4:09 PM |
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willsmalto
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if you really love your friend and don't wanna see her hurt real bad and and and if you have enough backup, then you've gotta tell her without any waste of time.
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 4:27 PM |
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Angel476
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I've already made plans to have lunch with her on Monday and tell her then. My boss is flexible and she is her own boss so I think we'll probably do a bit of retail therapy afterwards.
I've printed out the emails and the chat log from Yahoo. Wish me luck.
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 4:29 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Good Luck...
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 4:43 PM |
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willsmalto
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I see you're from san antonio.that makes the two of us... would you marry me if I wished you luck?
the fact that she's planning a wedding already, I guess things would go the wrong way when you spat it out. so please, either you go with some cops( for security reasons) or you hire an ambulance(in case she passes out)...just a silly thought LOL
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 4:59 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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You can bet your Texas Boots, he's packing his bags right now.
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| Jul 30, 2006 @ 8:47 PM |
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altogirl67
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I'll bet he's still watching the thread so be careful of what you say with regard to when and how you will tell your friend. He's a manipulative turd and will start working on her psychologically beforehand since he knows what you're going to do. Keep your cards closer to your chest, girl.
From experience there are two kinds of people with regard to your friend's situation. Some people really respect and appreciate the fact that you care enough about them to share what you know in order to prevent further heartbreak. Sadly though, there are some people who need a romantic partner SO MUCH, that they will be angered by your accusations and your friendship could end. I have friends who fit into both categories and while I sure don't understand it, I try to respect it. I, for one, would be mad as hell if I married the guy and then found out that my friend knew something like this and didn't share it. I think friends should protect each other no matter what the cost. Otherwise, what's the point really? Just be warned that you may be treading in dangerous territory where your friendship is concerned. I still think you should tell her though and this guy should have the livin' S H I T knocked outta him. What a jerk.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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Angel476
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Well...that was ugly. I'm back from telling her and it was NOT pleasant. 
I picked her up and we went to this little Mexican restaurant near her house. It's small and we were there early so it was rather private. I waited until after we ate to bring up the subject. I had all the chat logs and emails printed out. I just told her that there was no easy way to do this and handed it to her. She didnt cry. She didn't do anything really. Just asked if that was all and then said she was ready to go home. I told her I had the afternoon off if she wanted to go shopping or see a movie or something but she declined. I don't know if she's angry with me or not. She's just indifferent right now.
Anyway, I feel bad so I stopped by my house and decided to give an update and I'm going shopping. I don't know what to do about her. I guess I could give it a couple of days and then call her and see how things go.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:48 PM |
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robodad
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You just told her that the guy she's gonna marry is lining up with oher girls (including you)...there's NO way whe wants to shop with you....she probably has to be alone to digest what happened....hopefully she won't blame you for what happened.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:48 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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Maybe just giving her time to sort things out would be wise. That had to be a big, and unexcpected blow to her.
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