| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:01 AM |
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sirdidymus
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Ok, i know this is a very ambigious question to which there is no answer but still, i have to ask. What age range should i be looking for to date someone to reasonably expect that all of the game playing and gamesmanship is out of their system? Or is it not about age but rather if the person is a gameplayer - they probably always will be and and the people that aren't game players are so incredibly rare and so few and far inbetween they maybe they're simply taken already?
I posted a couple of blogs about some incredible experiences i'm running into lately and this stuff is just beating down every last ounce of energy that i have.
For anyone that's taken the time to get to know me, they know i'm true to my word and take great strides to be genuine - as cliche as that sounds over the internet. Yet it seems like everyone is out there to play games, i know they're not hunting for me per'se, but i'm certainly getting snared in the traps.
Is there any reason to expect this to get better, or is it just luck of the draw - i'm honestly exhausted and about ready to give up. Again, for those that know me - know i'm not dramatc but i am (most admittedly) very intense and do (i think reasonablly) expect a lot (of what i think to be simple things) from someone in so far as building a relationship with them.
But it seems that more and more, everyday i'm being proved wrong - i run into people who are shocked by my past stories and yet, in a heartbeat do the very same things (or similar enough) themselves.
You know, i honestly know there is no answer, i guess i just need to vent/talk, something because my mind is at wits end and totally blown at this point.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:08 AM |
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robodad
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90 (age range) 
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 7:28 AM |
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jamminjerry
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what i have deduced concerning game playing is: most people (90-95%) actually do not realize they are playing games. it is interwoven into their way of life. from the sandbox to the grave so to speak. a few of the brighter folks slowly realize that a certain aspect of the game works against them and so in an effort to progress they actually change. but, for the most part people continue with their circle of actions and reactions. "We" are burdened with the responsibility of recognizing this treadmill that most people endure, for they know nothing else. if we want to be a part of this game we must simply endure the players. this internet match game beats all the other games by a mile. LOL i have actually met people here that i do not think i would have met otherwise. if you figure out a better way, where do i send my $19.95/ month! 
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 9:05 AM |
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jeanc200358
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It all boils down to whether or not they have any sense of accountability or integrity. .
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 9:49 AM |
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Loreli
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Sir, I think it is the luck of the draw. Some people just won't ever stop putting their wants/needs/ideals first.But I think there are a lot of really good people out there, and the timing just may not be right.
Stinks, huh?
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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definitelydi
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Some people will play until the day they die. Some people never have a need for it in the first place.
Does this mean you should quit trying just in case they aren't done "playing"? Hell no! Just let the good ones come to you. 
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 11:09 AM |
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T_i_m
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"What's the point of dating without games? How do you know if you're winning or losing?" - Seinfeld
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 12:04 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Then again, some people will play the "game" until they realize,,,they are alone at the end of the game.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:25 PM |
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SunBabe
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I think you used the word in your blog, DearSir..."maturity". And that has no specific age -- unfortunately 
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:31 PM |
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sissycat411
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sir... some incredible experiences I'm running into lately and this stuff is just beating down every last ounce of energy that i have
I must have a "player" magnate attached to me also.....because I just shake my head and wonder how they all find me.....
I'm an honest, trusting person and mistakenly believe people, for the most part are basically good people and honest also.....boy is that living in the dark ages.....
Some are so good at the game playing and lying....it takes a while to uncover their game.....Do they even realize or care about the people they hurt along the way and all the distrust they cause in the people they play their games on? I sure don't know the answers...
I'm true to my word and take great strides to be genuine - as cliche as that sounds over the Internet. I try to treat people with openness and honesty.......and am not a lier or deceitful....but I seem to run into a lot that have no idea what integrity and morality means anymore....
jj most people (90-95%) actually do not realize they are playing games. it is interwoven into their way of life. from the sandbox to the grave so to speak.
and I think all the players end up on the Internet....because you can be anything or anyone you wish to present to people....there is no accountability on the Internet..... just lots of hurt people left behind in their games... and I don't even think they care......it's sad......
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:50 PM |
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jamminjerry
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perhaps an excellent point of discussion can be started here. i am sitting here pondering how does one "eventually" stop a player. one thought that came to mind is that the moderator of a site such as this one can require an email address be a minimum of one year old. i think i have been with yahoo and hotmail for about 5 years. our moderator here could even rank each of us according to the age of our email addys. anything over 5 years gold or platnium yada yada. perhaps some of you have simular ideas that with our permission the M D moderator could enhance the quality of Matchdoctor!!! if someone is foolish enuff to think they have "personal" info on the internet they she need thier dad to go with them to buy anything! LOL i would volunteer to have the age of my yahoo,hotmail, AOL etc addys posted on my profile.. gimme some other ideas and your opinion on my idea. the "green card" label comes to mind! LOL as has been mentioned, many of the players in matchdoctor have more than one M D, I D
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 1:56 PM |
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jamminjerry
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another thought just came to mind while in a "drama" thread. the "friends" and "favorites" lists are available to be viewed by any of us. if someone is becoming serious about their intentions towards you, perhaps you could contact their friends or favorites and tell them that you are the chosen one!  of course if mr perfect has honorable intentions towards you, you would be on one or both lists. why would this honorable man wish to keep you a secret!
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 2:14 PM |
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sissycat411
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jj all good ideas.....but I dont think the sites really care about the quality of the people they allow on......its all about numbers hon......
As far as asking others about someone.........been there done that....and still walked into that "player" brick wall.......will give you an example...
Met a guy last summer....he had been to many "meet and greets" folks thought he was a great guy.....I accepted an invitation to go with him to a meet an greet...within 8 hours on the road...he shared with me.....he belonged to swingers clubs and had even taken his 21 year old niece along as trading material..... that his sports car he bragged about was really a 11 year old Honda hatchback...that he wasn't 59 but 67, was unemployed, rented a room in someones house and was not that financially sound computer expert he told everyone he was, that he was a drunk.....didnt really have much respect for women...was more a user than the great guy who had helped raise his sisters kids......that he had been married 3 times....and the last and he had been into swapping....open marriage....and he didnt have a pot to piss in......expected me to pay for half of all the expenses even down to the door man cost to bring the car around and the parking garage....and shared with me ....he always took someone with him so he didnt have to deal with the "FAT" chicks coming on to him......oh and did i forget....after splitting the meal tickets he had the gal to ask me to leave the tip......gezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz and i was stuck for 5 days.....with no easy way to get back home....since I live in a very isolated area....with out easy public transportation back home.........BUT EVERYONE I TALKED TO SAID WHAT A GREAT GUY HE WAS........... OH AND DID I MENTION HE WAS A DRUNK..........  OH AND I FORGOT TO MENTION HE SMOKED POT........  But dahum everyone said what a nice guy he was............ 
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 4:58 PM |
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grumblebear
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Gaming is part of everyones mind... the biggest complaints are when people won't play the same game... Frankly, I choose to be anti-social and avoid all the games... and that is even considered a game by some...
Finding someone with similar beliefs, habits, lifestyle, finances and dreams is everyones hope... but the older we get, the fewer good decent people there are...
there are reasons why we are all single, whether we can admit them to ourselves, or others is our own choice of reality..... after a certain age, everyone who is single, IS DAMAGED GOODS
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 7:04 PM |
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GildedLion
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Learn the following:
Most people are game players
Most people who are not game players were at one point and are typically older
Those who never were are rare, but that's the goal, you just have to say as one who isn't a gameplayer, some non- gameplayer will want you over a gameplayer.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 7:34 PM |
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Ron9
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Life is full of games - it is in our face everywhere.
Big business is very skilled at games - mind games.
A TV coml shows a pick up truck - lets say FORD TUFF - crashing over rocks. If you crashed over rocks and busted something (and you would) they would not repair it - they would say it was abused.
My TWC (Road Runner) says UP TO 5m - I’ve never seen that speed and never will - but they did not say I would get 5m - they said UP TO 5m.
That .9 on the end of the price of a gallon of gas - is a game.
50% of the TV ads are insulting if you really watch them - it is insulting to think an adult actually believes that ABC product will do all of that.
Pharmaceutical companies lie their guts out - Merck knew one of their products were causing harm and they hid it from the public.
Mind games are everywhere and a way of life.
I think it was Billy Graham that said The Lord was going to take him - if there was not xxxx dollars in his coffers by a certain date.
Half the relationship “experts” - teach game playing.
Anyone what to talk about politicians? (can you say SPIN DOCTOR)
I don’t really think too much about games (regarding this singles stuff) - I just back away and forget those that seem to be playing. As mentioned - many don’t even consider what they are doing as a game.
[Edited on 7/31/2006 8:03 PM]
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 8:29 PM |
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sissycat411
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Well Ron.....when you get pulled into their "GAME" with out being told its a GAME...or being informed it's a GAME..OR THE RULES THEY PLAY BY...
YOU DAHUM SURE FIND OUT LATER THAN SOONER........YOU'VE BEEN PLAYED... 
That's when you get PISSED...... 
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 8:50 PM |
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jamminjerry
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well, don has just told everyone that reads this particular thread the story about players. no excuses from now on. i figured out a player this week. the subtle clues are there. ya know the part of the profile where it says "the last 10 people to check their mail in my area" well "hers" should have said zero miles . and basically how far the locals live from her. but, in "her" case her mileage was 2347m miles and a gal from the same town was zero miles! LOL anyway, if he or she is exactly what ya looking for: well, ya know the rest of the story. oh, my choice was 5'10" 125 lbs and the ever popular "exotic dancer" oh, just remembered, she never wrote to me. only answered my letters. theres an easy clue. she said she smoked socially but there was a pack of marlboros and a half full ash tray on the coffee table. i try to look for clues in the pics too i checked the profiles in her area close to her age and there were 2 others that were almost identical. except they hadn't been online in over 3 months
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 9:14 PM |
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altogirl67
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In my opinion, I think it's more about personality rather than age. So, looking exclusively in a specific age range would probably be unproductive. I guess the theory to be investigated is, do people "grow out" of their game-playing ways or do they make a growth-related decision to act in a more mature manner? Is is conscious or unconscious?There are also some people who are straightforward, know what they want and have never played games and never will.
Good luck in your quest for the truth.
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| Jul 31, 2006 @ 10:33 PM |
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IndigoRose
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I think I'll just play through...mark your balls.
People play games until the day they die only their pieces and the rules change. 
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