| Nov 19, 2005 @ 7:38 AM |
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Wibber
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So in the last few days, I've had maybe 5 people write to me. We exchange like 2 or 3 e-mails, then that's it-never hear from them again. It's really frustrating. It would be nice to actually keep up the interaction to the point where I could actually meet someone, but I guess that's just not to be. Honestly, I'm going to go back and look at my e-mails to see if I said something wrong, but I really don't think that's the case. It seems like everyone has an attention span nowadays of like a nanosecond.
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 7:52 AM |
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MarysPlace
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From a point of view of a person who is known to have an attention span of a mosquito:
I'm sorry to hear all that. The way I see it, trick is to never, ever expect anything from anyone (except from yourself). That way you don't set yourself up for a disappointment.
In other words, talk to people, have fun, just don't take anything seriously until it does become serious... which should be fairly obvious.
Hope your luck changes soon! :)
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 7:56 AM |
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Wibber
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Trust me Marysplace-- when it comes to online I expect nothing anymore. I just wonder why they even initiated the first e-mail to begin with.
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 8:17 AM |
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MarysPlace
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Why...? That is easy. And you shouldn't take this personally because not everybody can like you, or me, or anybody else.
People start a conversation and then find that they are not that attracted... To simplify the answer. Of course there may be other factors in play, but we don't know that. So if they realize that you're not the person for them... oh well. Nothing you can do. It just happens.
Always keep in mind: "...Someone, somewhere in summertime..."
(I like to speak in quotes) 
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 8:54 AM |
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someone_me
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"In other words, talk to people, have fun, just don't take anything seriously until it does become serious... which should be fairly obvious."
How refreshing. Wibber, that's some good advice there.  Just remember you are online, it's a virtual world on here, not real. Reality comes when you actually meet someone. Relax and have fun with it. Practice some personal skills to make yourself better with all this.
But then again, if you're looking for a virtual relationship, we could start by exchanging 50 emails a day, then create a virtual attraction with each other and move to an IM service and talk in real time. Then we'd virtually fall in love and would have to have the most wonderful online marriage ceremony (I know of an excellent online virtual priest) where everyone could watch via webcam. And then in the course of our wonderful virtual relationship we could end up with 2.7 virtual kids as a result of all the virtual sex we'd be having. And of course, we could virtually grow old together online having virtually lived together the rest of our lives. A happy life it will have been too, virtually. 
I'd just stick to the having fun and not taking this seriously if it were me.
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 10:39 AM |
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sunchaser59
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Just remember you are online, it's a virtual world on here, not real.
The people on here aren't real?  
Life really is a, constant, learning experience.
[QUOTE]I'd just stick to the having fun and not taking this seriously if it were me.[QUOTE]
From what I've experienced....I do believe there's a whole lot of people that think and feel, as you do. Just on here for fun... 
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 11:27 AM |
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Wibber
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"In other words, talk to people, have fun, just don't take anything seriously until it does become serious... which should be fairly obvious."
How refreshing. Wibber, that's some good advice there.
Actually I can't take credit for this quote-- that was MarysPlace advice to me.
I just don't see the point in initiating e-mail then disappearing. But whatever. Who cares, it's the goddam Internet-- everybody disappears and it's no big deal.
A frequent occurence is receiving IMs on Yahoo. This morning I got two IMs from complete strangers. One of them is all like, "Hi sweetness, I think you are an absolute princess and I love your profile, blah blah". Then later I got some guy saying, "Hi there. Do you like pleasure?" Yeah, great opening line there bud. In this case I was the alien inductee-- those IMers go straight to my blocked list. I love blocking idiots. Great feature on Yahoo.
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 12:15 PM |
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someone_me
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Hey sun, don't get me wrong. I just find that the best way to having a healthy relationship is through starting out light and fun (a.k.a- no pressure, not desperate, not needy, not clingy). I started with my goal and let that guide me. What is the best way to have a healthy relationship with someone? How do you really get to know them? I take it from there and do have fun with it.
And yes, I am having a lot of fun on here, in spite of the uptight, relationally frustrated women I read profiles about frequently. I can tell you those profiles really arouse me.  Women aren't in such short supply that I have a problem finding any to go out with, this site can just be fun. Besides, it's good practice too, for the real world.
Wibber, they are just trolling.
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| Nov 19, 2005 @ 7:44 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Yahoo has another great feature: check da little box and you will always appear offline except to people on whose friends' list you are (although that can also be fixed with stealth settings, yadda yadda). So when it looks like you're offline, voila! No strangers IM you. EVER.
Something else I'd like to know, Wibber. Why do you even think about all these things? I mean disappearing, calling out of nowhere, complete strangers IMing... It happens every day, to everybody. On the Internet as well as "real" life. I honestly don't understand why we are even talking about it.
I have to agree with the someone dude. Light and fun and all will be well. One thing I absolutely detest is pressure. Makes me run REAL fast. I'm not sure anybody likes it. So think... by taking things too seriously, perhaps you press people just a tad?
The point is in having a good time. If you beat yourself up over stuff, you lost the point.
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| Nov 20, 2005 @ 1:30 PM |
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Wibber
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MarysPlace, I guess it's becuase I just don't have a life. I have work and my kids and that's about it.
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