| Aug 11, 2006 @ 1:56 PM |
enough is enough
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wvbluebaby
Posts: 605
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just when do you reach the point of saying enough is enough in the dating game?how long is a person suppose to wait for the second date, the telephone call,the magic that is there when the connection is made? how long must you wait for your soul mate, the one who makes your toes tingle,your heart race, and puts a smile on your face for no reason?dang...i am beginning to feel like i should look into the nunnery business...lol 
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 2:20 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
Posts: 9,041
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Hey WV .... Waiting sometimes can be a Virtue, and a Blessing. Better to wait, until that right one comes along, than to get impatient, or frustrated, and wind up in something with someone that is not what you have been waiting for. Like everyone keeps saying .... Better to be alone, than in a bad realtionship ... JMHO 
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 2:57 PM |
enough is enough
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holding4u
Posts: 1,098
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blue baby, wait and never settle for someone who is not what you want.
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 3:39 PM |
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zulamaze
Posts: 1,266
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Holding, Never---- 
Amen to that.
If you are in a relationship and not totally happy,
you will always still be looking.
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 4:02 PM |
enough is enough
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mailorderannie
Posts: 6,021
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I'm not telling you to give up...but you've heard the saying that as soon as you stop looking...there he is. Maybe you are trying too hard. Never give up HOPE though...that's what will keep you going.
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 4:18 PM |
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Pete73052
Posts: 19,370
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Or just settle until something better comes along...
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 4:24 PM |
enough is enough
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razzired
Posts: 2,922
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Or, don't wait for second dates and keep going out on first dates.
What's that old saying..."You've got to kiss a lot of frogs....blah blah blah..."
MJ
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 7:21 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
Posts: 18,615
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Or, don't wait for second dates and keep going out on first dates.
Sure beats sitting home... 
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 8:24 PM |
enough is enough
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
Posts: 13,813
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 I didn`t have to wait long for the first date, second date...or any of the dates that followed..and a wee bit of magic is floating around.. 
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 8:31 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
Posts: 3,066
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wow, this thread gives me such hope....wait, i accepted the fact that i will never find anyone for me years ago. nevermind
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 8:33 PM |
enough is enough
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jamminjerry
Posts: 4,085
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inbetween waiting should be dating! although in between dating seems to be alot of waiting for me. this game of life does become discouraging. its either wait or settle, you decide. as for me i shall endure no woman who does not posess the pearl i seek. i can wait. i have nothing to lose and much to gain. :o)
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 8:47 PM |
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nah12
Posts: 3,973
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yep what they said.......
 Pete....welcome back ..  ..looks like you got a little color in your cheeks again...
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 9:28 PM |
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Mysterious_URS
Posts: 2,017
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its either wait or settle, you decide. as for me i shall endure no woman who does not posess the pearl i seek.
got some of them pearls on a strand around my neck.....will they do???  
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 11:47 PM |
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Dovestreasure
Posts: 3,419
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I have simply not made dating the center of my universe or my stepping stone to happiness. I am just doing my best to enjoy life with friends , and if that man of my dreams suddenly enters my life that will be a gift. In the meantime Im enjoying my life and making the best of it. Remember there is no statute of limitations on love.
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 12:36 AM |
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LatinButterfly
Posts: 687
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I feel like I would never give up because that right there insures my not getting what I want! And you all know what they say... "it always looks darker just before the sun comes up"! I've heard about the "not looking" but then I also believe in what Jesus said "Seek and ye shall find", lol!
In so far as "settling", after listening to a few archived episodes of a show called "Spirit Centered Relationships" (hosted by Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, a couple happily married 25 years) I began rethinking my position a little bit. The Hendricks believe that we attract certain people in our lives (often "total opposites") for the purpose of each learning from them lessons from them that we'd otherwise not have the chance to learn. I found that very thought-provoking and it explained some things in a few of my relationships, too bad while I was willing to work on the problems the men were not...
I've always known that all relationships require some work but my thinking in recent years has been that if I found someone who was "the ideal fit" it would be minimal... But a young woman called the show saying that before she married her husband she felt sure they had SO much in common and now they don't (!!). If opposites DO attract I wonder if we're just going to end up where we need to be anyway in order to grow. I wonder how you all feel about this...
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 4:11 AM |
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irisheagle
Posts: 2,541
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just when do you reach the point of saying enough is enough in the dating game? When you no longer get a free meal out of it or have to start paying for them... 
but seriously and this IMO, I persnally wouldn't give up. yea i end up
paying for the dates, but you know what, i still have fun. and to me
that alone is worth it to keep dating.
how long is a person suppose to wait for the second date, the telephone call,the magic that is there when the connection is made? No offense but if a connection was actually made, why a wait at all?
Again no offense intended, but is this connection one sided?
if it's not, to me there should be no waiting involved.
how long must you wait for your soul mate, the one who makes your toes tingle,your heart race, and puts a smile on your face for no reason? You know this one is difficult to answer IMO, because i thought i had met my
soul mate of all soul mates, but she wasn't. and now i met a woman just recently on here that has me in a tizzy. we're so much alike yet so different. and i've been
open to new people technically for 2 years.
i dont think there is a time limit on finding that specail someone. He/she will
come when you least expect it and probably when you need them most.
But again, only MHO as well
going to end up where we need to be anyway isn't that called Destiny?
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 11:39 AM |
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LSU79
Posts: 323
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I don't see anything wrong with :"enough is enough" occasionally. Dating can be hard sometimes, esp. when you're not finding "the one". A person gets tired of telling their life story over and over again to a new person. Sometimes when you get discouraged it might be best to take a break, take a step back, and redirect your energies elsewhere for a period of time. Then, when you're bored with that, or get lonely, take the plunge again with a clean slate.
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 12:01 PM |
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lookingforu417
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bluebaby, I have asked myself that same question many times over the last few years. I must agree with holding4u.....wait, don't settle. I've "settled" at times, thinking I was happy, thinking he was the best I could do at the moment. And to be honest, it wasn't worth it. So I began the waiting game....and I found him. I found my soul mate. Of course due to circumstances beyond my control I've entered another aspect of the waiting game, but I know in my heart that in the end it will all be worth it. Don't give up....he's out there somewhere.
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 12:13 PM |
enough is enough
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ladyraindove74
Posts: 290
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Never give up hope on anything. Hope is what keeps us going. I seldom get dates, but it's due mostly to where I live I think. So, I try not to let it bother me much, I figure that in time that special person will appear, and if not, then I find other things to enjoy in life....i.e. my two grown daughters, my friends, I also travel when I feel like it...lol...I'm thinking about going hang gliding again in September...sooo, you just have to find enjoyment in other things...Love will happen when meant to be.
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 3:58 PM |
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crackerchickie
Posts: 448
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Why wait? If you meet someone you like, great; if not, then do whatever makes you smile. If that person you like doesn't call you in a timely fashion, well then you need to be unavailable to them. If they don't know how great you are, their loss.
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