| Aug 13, 2006 @ 5:06 PM |
Does he like me? Advice needed pls!
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rockangel999
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I can't believe I'm starting a thread on this because I feel like a teenager again but here goes...
I like a guy at work and I'm trying desperately hard to figure out if he feels the same way. I know men constantly refuse to believe they're confusing and always complain that women are difficult to understand but I'm finding this guy very complicated indeed!
He smiles at me everytime we make eye contact and this is a genuine smile where he tries to hold my gaze. He flirts with me a lot and has made some physical contact recently (this has usually just been holding my wrist, nothing major!). He compliments me a lot, like when I wore a skirt into work he told me I have "sexy legs" and he said he liked the necklace I was wearing. He works out a fair bit and has been telling me he's been pushing 100kg weights recently. He also teases me (in a nice way).
Ok, writing this all down I'm making it sound like he must like me BUT he's quite a naturally flirtatious guy and also flirts with other girls in front of me, tells me about other girls that he thinks are "hot" and also says he can satisfy any woman sexually, which to most women are turn-offs. I sense he does like me but I try and convince myself otherwise.
What are your thoughts on this. Does he like me or is he just a ladie's man?
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 5:09 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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he's trying to get you to make the first move by using your jealousy against you. if you want him, take him and make him yours.
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 6:32 PM |
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FeliciVagano
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I disagree... run like hell.. he is playing everyone.. and it is a dangerous game for you to be caught up in.. this is your place of work.. not a classroom
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 6:41 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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oh no, he flirts with women! run! he will let the terrorists win! (sarcasm alert!)
give the brother a chance(message void in west virginia, arkansas, kentucky, and tennessee)
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 6:42 PM |
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holding4u
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Any man who makes the comment in front of a group of women about how great a lover he is - NOT - don't walk , run to the nearest exit.
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 6:46 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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chickens!
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 7:12 PM |
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jamminjerry
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well now! it seems we have an excellent opportunity to evaluate the "match game". it does seem that only old age will get us beyond the games! in the meantime, shouldn't this one be in the drama room? 
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 7:35 PM |
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Ensaged
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No.
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 7:56 PM |
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Kimmaranclh
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I'd watch out a bit if I were you...My hunch is that he'd be receptive if you asked him to go out...but he might be that way with more than just you...since he's so fond of flirting with other women in front of you. I get that making the other person jealous is a way to get noticed..but it's also juvenile and not necessary. If a man is really interested in a woman, the best way he can show it is by NOT flirting with other women. It's a huge turn-off to have someone that you are interested flirt with you one minute and then tell you how hot the other women are in the next.
So if you want, proceed with caution but I'd take it all with a grain of salt if he turns out to be a player. Also, really take into consideration that it's your workplace and if things don't go well it could get awkward...but hey..they say that most romances start at work so it might be worth giving it a go.
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 8:09 PM |
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Ron9
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Almost everyone in an office environment flirts.
Back when I use to work in an office (I have been working from a home office for 18 years now) there was a real office hottie - all the guys were hot over her - I use to tease her “you want to hide under my desk?”. After several months of that - she followed me in my office one day - shut the door behind her and said “YES I do”.
I almost fell out of my chair - I had just been joking about that. She was dead serious - we had a nice fling.
Last night I went to Burger King. It was not very busy. I walked up to the counter and the cute gal (about 20 years old) said “What can I get for you handsome?” Then she said “yes - you still got it”. She even told me what time she got off work. I just told her “oh long hours”
After people get to know each other a bit - it gets pretty normal to start flirting some.
Rockangel999 - just flirt back with the guy and forget it. Also flirt with anyone around that you want to. If you flirt back in a “goofing around” way - you will be giving the same stuff back. He will lose the upper hand - he will have to chit or get off the pot.
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 9:09 PM |
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Artemis122
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rockangel999
What are your thoughts on this. Does he like me or is he just a ladie's man? Dear Young Grasshopper,
Guys your age, in their 20's, are not ready for any Relationship or Commitment -- they just want to use their Pointers!! At this point in your Single Life, Just enjoy them as Appetizers..... and when the Main Course arrives ( when your Special Classy & Charming Gentleman comes who Treats you like his Cherished Bride-To-Be) THEN you can do some serious thinking then...
Kimmaranclh
If a man is really interested in a woman, the best way he can show it is by NOT flirting with other women. It's a huge turn-off to have someone that you are interested flirt with you one minute and then tell you how hot the other women are in the next.
I AGREE WHOLEHEARTEDLY (seriously it's really Immature at ANY Age but some guys needed to Show-Off...)
Ron9
- I use to tease her “you want to hide under my desk?”. After several months of that - she followed me in my office one day - shut the door behind her and said “YES I do”.
I almost fell out of my chair - I Just Did!!!!! Thanks for the Laugh!!!!!
[Edited on 8/13/2006 9:16 PM]
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 9:34 PM |
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wvbluebaby
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give the brother a chance(message void in west virginia, arkansas, kentucky, and tennessee)
geez.....
why even take the guy serious???go out with him, have fun and see where it goes
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 10:57 PM |
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duwant1
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Last night I went to Burger King. She even told me what time she got off work.
Ron, it sounds like she wanted to put the flame to your “Whopper!?”
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 11:03 PM |
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robodad
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BUT he's quite a naturally flirtatious guy and also flirts with other girls in front of me, tells me about other girls that he thinks are "hot" and also says he can satisfy any woman sexually, which to most women are turn-offs And yet, you're not turned off....oh well, just take a number and wait in line; he'll have you when he can
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| Aug 13, 2006 @ 11:51 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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You're 21, for crying out loud!! Go out with him, have a good time, see where it goes, if anywhere...just because he's flirting with everyone right now doesn't necessarily mean that situation won't change (although it IS pretty dumb for him to say things like that...do most of the guys in your office talk that way? If not, you might want to think about whether he's bright enough for you..)
And it IS good practise...and yes, everybody in an office flirts, or most of us do anyway. It's fun and reminds us that we can be friendly, productive, efficient, effective, and even professional while still remembering why we say vive le difference. That doesn't mean that office romances don't ever develop from those flirtations, nor does it mean they can't develop into lifetime love affairs and even good marriages. Personally I think there's something in the water in our Chicago office...some recent marriages, but some that took place 20 or more years ago and they're still married and working together too. One of the women in my group is out on maternity leave, her husband works in another group right nearby.
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| Aug 14, 2006 @ 2:59 AM |
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LatinButterfly
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NO, NO, NO! Don't go out with him... unless that's the kind of thing that you're after... but I assure you, you are nothing special to that guy, you will only be another notch in his bedpost! Is that what you think you're worth??? My daughter is your age and I KNOW she wouldn't waste her time with anyone who didn't view her as the very special INDIVIDUAL that she is and not just another one of "the pile"...
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| Aug 14, 2006 @ 4:07 AM |
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Timber52
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I agree with don't walk.. RUN..
unless that is all you are looking for is a fling..
you might be an apple in his eye..
but sounds to me like he isn't going to go hungry..
he has a lot more apples scoped.. 
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| Aug 14, 2006 @ 4:23 AM |
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dowens
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I have a daughter your age.....and, believe me,.....she knows how to take an immature loser like him and send him home to momma and make him make love to himself in his sleeping bag!!!!........C'mon!!!!.....how many red flags do you need???????.......do you have a father in your life??>?????.....go ask him what he thinks about a guy who shows interest in you, yet LOVES to show off his "sexual prowess" or his "slick cum-on lines" right in front of you...........if you wanna sleep with the jerk........tell him so......if you wanna laugh at the as***le as he tries to impress you...........WELL.....its your call......you're in charge......
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| Aug 14, 2006 @ 5:37 AM |
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Palomino
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rockangel1999 said:
Ok, writing this all down I'm making it sound like he must like me BUT he's quite a naturally flirtatious guy and also flirts with other girls in front of me, tells me about other girls that he thinks are "hot" and also says he can satisfy any woman sexually, which to most women are turn-offs. I sense he does like me but I try and convince myself otherwise.
And that's proper conversation in the office?
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| Aug 14, 2006 @ 7:12 AM |
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UnconventionalCreativity
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You better watch this one sweetie.
Personally, if you're just looking for a good time and aren't after anything of a serious nature, go for it; you're still young, get out while you can. However, if you sincerely like him, I would say be cautious. The guy obviously doesn't mind flirting up a storm with fellow co-workers, as well as making crude comments about himself. It doesn't seem like the guy's all that instead, aside from wanting a piece of you-know-what. If worse comes to worse and you still like the guy, go out on a date with him and see how he acts then.
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