| Aug 17, 2006 @ 8:41 AM |
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scarletsara
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Could you be in a serious relationship with someone who is messy?
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 8:48 AM |
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jeanc200358
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Well, I suppose not. I won't clean up after anyone, and especially someone who's unwilling to pitch in and do his fair share. It would end up in a daily battle.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 8:53 AM |
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jamminjerry
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i feel that my brother is messy. my Ex feels that i am messy. my brother does floors when it gets bad enuff to rake.  so, what is messy. a major complaint of mine is an empty food container sitting about 2 feet from the trash can and of course food sitting out overnight. my problem is note/paperwork on just about any level surface. oddly enuff, i never could get my Ex to agree on what area would be "my space". you have chosen an excellent topic for dicussion. most of the threads have to do with "us v/s them"
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 9:17 AM |
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UnconventionalCreativity
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More than likely. I mean, I can't say I enjoy cleaning, but I can't say it's something I wouldn't do. Of course I'd bring it up to the guy; I'd ask him to pick up after himself like a big boy should  , but I wouldn't date him just because of a little mess here and there. I do have a tendency to have a bit of an issue with messy houses and wouldn't be able to live in a sloppy household myself, but I don't think I would be discouraged about dating somebody that's a bit of a slob himself. I would just stress the point that he needs to take care of his own junk, just like I take care of mine.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 10:13 AM |
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definitelydi
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NEVER AGAIN!
I need a certain amount of order and cleanliness to function as a human being. I cannot be with someone who doesn't respect that in doing their share in housekeeping because, in fact, they wouldn't be respecting me.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 10:45 AM |
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LSU79
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Isn't 'messy' a relative term? An obsessive/compulsive may consider a dirty coffee cup left out on the countertop to be messy. Now if it involves the health dept., I may have a few qualms.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 11:00 AM |
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UpbeatGalinSC
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My home is neat, but I couldn't pass the white glove test..lol! I visited a man at his home after we had a few dates and his home was beyond messy! There was no place to sit down unless you moved stuff. He had a dog and I was knee deep in dog hair,,torn up papers that the dog chewed, but the worst was the toilet..EWWWWW!!! Plus he knew I was coming!!
Sorry that was a deal breaker for me!!
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 11:01 AM |
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razzired
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Disorder drives me nuts.
Before I go to bed, I do a quick pick-up around the house. It bugs me to no end seeing, first thing in the morning, clutter or mess. Or, dishes in the sink that should be in the dishwasher. Why, oh why, is it so much more difficult to open the freaking dishwasher -- it's right beside the sink!! -- than it is just to put your dishes in the sink???
(Sorry, I thought I was talking to my kids there for a minute.)
I like things neat. I make my bed every morning, I wipe down the counters and sink in my bathroom every day. My shoes are in order on their shelves by style, heel height and color. I like the remote controls put on top of the TV when no one's watching TV. I put my CDs in alphabetical order, by artist.
Wow...I just realized I'm only a step or two away from being Monk.
MJ
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 11:32 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Theres a big difference in a "dirty house" and a "messy house".
While I do not have a dirty house, it is messy sometimes.
My bathroom is always very clean, and my kitchen? Well lets just say after working in food service most of my life,,I am kinda a clean freak! 
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:01 PM |
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sissycat411
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Now being retired and most likely to end up in a relationship with another retire....the solution is simple.......HOUSE CLEANING DAY.....GRIN...and also have someone come in every two weeks to do the dusting and vacuuming....hum maybe that should be each week...... 
Heck we will work it out.....in the mean time.....I've discovered other things that are much more fun than "cleaning" THE INTERNET DATING SITES, THE FORUMS, THE BLOGS AND MEETING NEW, GREAT PEOPLE .......HAHAHA 
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:04 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I like too clean..wouldn`t bother me a bit...
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:15 PM |
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jamminjerry
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as i said earlier, this is a great thread. upbeatgal and razzired have brought dealbreakers to the table. for upbeatgal: does the I D toshay47 at yahoo ring a bell LOL (he's my brother and he is heavy) and as for razzi, it only takes a few moments of a tv show to decide if the show will be entertaining. monk is not entertaining to me, he reminds me of a few folks i have intentionally avoided in my life. when idealism conflicts with realism i tend to side with realism even though i consider myself to be an idealistic realist.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:19 PM |
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razzired
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Jerry, I probably shouldn't tell you, then, that I also put a napkin under my plate when I go out to dinner, because I can't guarantee the cleanliness of the table.
Just pretend you didn't see that.
MJ
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:29 PM |
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Bojangles102
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This reminds me of a lady who I traveled cross country to meet.
This was a lady who came to Vegas to visit me...She spent a lot of money on shows, dinners and a 4 star hotel.
She flew me out to her home town. When I got there she had purchased a full wardrobe for me..
Here's the deal breaker: Every counter top was full both kitchen AND bath room. The frig hadn't been cleaned in at least two years. Clothes were strewn everywhere.
When she went to the bathroom she took off her shoes at the same time..That's where the shoes stayed. We played in the bed for a couple of days and she never bothered to change the sheets.
This is a woman who holds a responsible job and is the piano player in a church.
I'll never forget this experience
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:46 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Jerry, I probably shouldn't tell you, then, that I also put a napkin under my plate when I go out to dinner, because I can't guarantee the cleanliness of the table.
 
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:48 PM |
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UpbeatGalinSC
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Bo, when I saw the toilet and peeked around the shower curtain that was enough for me. You couldn't possibly feel clean after getting out of this bathtub!! Yikes,,needed a putty knife to scrape the scum!! As for the toilet, I'd much rather go out in the yard and pee!
I couldn't have brought myself to get in between the sheets!
BTW he formerly owned a jewelry store, sold it, and was selling gorgeous diamonds from his home and to boot had clients come to his home! OMG what if they asked to use the bathroom? 
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 4:55 PM |
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wiccked
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NO! NO! NO! NEVER!! NADA!!! i am almost compulsive-obsessive-- ok, i AM that- i am a fanatic on cleanliness-  drove my ex and my children crazy!!!  had a special brush that i combed the fringe on the oriental carpets with- and then asked the family to step over the fringe!!! ex said i put 50,000 miles a year on a vacuum-  had a person ask me was i military- i didnt know what she meant until she told me that military people keep their clothes hung so far apart and very straight in line- realtor once told me that a house i was selling should sell quickly based on the pantry alone!!!! all cans have to be in a row- all veggies, etc. must be grouped together i read a book once about compulsions- my persona was in that book!!!! i am adopted and the book said that adopted people think they are very imperfect because they were not wanted at birth- and being imperfect, i have the ability to make everything around me perfect- to compesate for my ability to achieve perfecticism!!!! i have typed wat tooo much.. i am tired- going to go take a nap!!!! (on my perfectly made bed)!!!!!!
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 6:20 PM |
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jamminjerry
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SEE!!! i told ya this was a great thread!
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 7:20 PM |
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ynot77
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wow...wiccked...if it weren't the disatnce i'd be open to pay you to come do that kind of orginazation ...think you would alphabetize everything to so I CAN FIND IT without calling you to ask....''wiccked..where are my green slacks ??? '' 
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 7:31 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Ok, just so you people know,,,there was a war in my place today.
Yep, had to bring out the big guns.
Have you ever seen a real dust bunny???? If not pat yourself on the back right now.
They are so mean. They are really fast too.
I think I got most of them out today,,,but watching, and waiting for them to sneak out while I am watching tv later.
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