| Aug 25, 2006 @ 6:53 PM |
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tahoma
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Whether you're emailing someone else in response to their note or in the forums, you notice someone that catches your eye. You look at their profile and they seem ideal for you. One catch, they live on the other side of the country from you.
Now we have the option of selecting "willing to relocate for the right person", but would we really? What if the other person lived in a location undesirable to you, but the person is really what you are looking for? Would you both compromise and decide on a nuetral place you both would be happy? What about your friends and family?
I noticed someone today that I found quite attractive and it brought these thoughts to mind.
What are your thoughts on this?
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:02 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I won't relocate for someone, I'm starting school in two weeks and besides New Jersey the only place in the United States I'd like to live is Boston.
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:03 PM |
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Loreli
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I think that's one your gut will tell you-go for it, or stay away from it.
If you really don't like where someone lives, and they absolutely refuse to relocate, it may be best to not start something. Changes like that, when against a person's wants, could very likely hurt the relationship later if not right away.
So-if you relocated, it didn't work then, wow-what do you do now?
If you're a person that can adapt easily to wherever you go, then there is no harm in seeing what happens.
Tough one, huh? 
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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mogrl1000
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I`ve relocated across the world 18 years ago.Would i do it again??Hmm,i don`t think so.He would have to be really something !!
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Right now I wouldn't even think of it, too well paid and too close to retirement to move now, but after retirement would be another matter entirely. At that point, I'd be pretty much footloose and fancy free...I still have the dream of buying a sailboat and retiring on the water in the back of my mind.
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:09 PM |
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tahoma
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You would love it here Heaven... a sailors dream
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:15 PM |
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Dovestreasure
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I nearly relocated for someone once . We had a long distance relationship and traveled back and forth to see each other. He was in Oregon and I was in Florida. We were getting pretty serious and the travel was becoming very expensive. In time I learned that I was not the only lady he was seeing and he had misrepresented himself to me in many ways so thankfully this all came to light before I made the move. I think its better to pass on attempting a long distant relationship and look closer to home even if if a guy appears to be every thing you are looking for.
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:22 PM |
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NoCuteLines
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Rather than make a decision like that now, why not become friends first and in doing that you might be able to answer your own question...in time
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:31 PM |
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tahoma
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Just to be clear, I'm not willing to relocate that far and was just posting this as a hypothetical question. There are several men on this site I would love to date who live in other parts of the country, this one today just happened to bring these questions to mind. He's a REAL HOTTIE 
I would relocate, but only within the NW down to CA. I would not want to be that far from my family.
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:50 PM |
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jdtallfem
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I would relocate but he would have to really be something special for me to do so. And I'm not real optomistic about that. I meet so many guys who are local where after the first meeting I know the chemestry isn't quite right, I'm afraid to spend the airfare (or have him spend it) and discover that we just don't mesh. So, so far, it just hasn't happened.
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:54 PM |
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NoCuteLines
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He's a REAL HOTTIE |
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:56 PM |
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DoorWatcher
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I'd relocate with Heaven..... 
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 7:57 PM |
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tahoma
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Now wouldn't that be something  Him moving here
A bit premature to think about since I only sent him an email about 1 1/2 ago
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 8:01 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I'd relocate with Heaven.....
Crew is a GOOD thing!! 
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 8:20 PM |
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SunBabe
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And I'll join the flotilla...with a boat of my own 
(btw, LOVE that one, Heaven. It's got the solar panels, but I'd add a wind-gen, lol)
And funny thing...last place on EARTH I would have thought I'd wind up would have been Arkansas (but then we knew it was only going to be temporary, anyway) IF everything else is perfect, somehow things just work themselves out. And there really isn't any place in the continental USA that's more than a day away (by plane).
And family? Well THEY have their lives, too...I didn't discourage them when they moved away from me. (If I ever get that boat or villa in the tropics, I'll probably see more of them than ever  )
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 10:26 PM |
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UnconventionalCreativity
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It's hard to say whether I would relocate. Right now, no matter what else I am doing, I can't move away from home; I'm eager to put those goals and aspirations I have into first gear. If I was truly sure of myself and of him, I would compromise, while taking into consideration my family and friends.
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| Aug 26, 2006 @ 3:16 AM |
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angel_baby19
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One thing I absolutely made up my mind about when I started the whole online dating journey for myself.....my match probably does not live in my area. This town, this general area at all, just does not have its fair share of young single guys that are available to someone my age that want the same things I do. Soooo....I have left an open mind as far as geography/distance. Within reason of course. I figure 500 miles is ok, because there's always planes and so on. I know long distance relationships are a lot of work, but I'd cross that bridge when the time comes. I'm totally able and willing to relocate if it comes to that, for the VERY right person, there's nothing holding me here. I know it's not that easy for everybody though.
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| Aug 26, 2006 @ 3:46 AM |
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Ensaged
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Yes, all the interesting women live too far away............
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| Aug 26, 2006 @ 7:01 AM |
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mailorderannie
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I have no roots where I am, so I would relocate in a heartbeat for the right person. Its the time it takes to find out if he's the right person though that creates the problem.
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| Aug 26, 2006 @ 8:46 AM |
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nah12
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Its the time it takes to find out if he's the right person though that creates the problem. very true Annie.......that's when distance creates the problems of trying to spend enough time to find out
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