| Nov 20, 2005 @ 9:48 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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It seems sometimes that people have different understandings of relationship terms. Too bad there isn't a universal guideline that we could all go by! The following are just some of the terms that are used:
1) Meeting
2) Dating
3) Seeing someone
4) Dating exclusively
5) Going steady
6) Friends with benefits
7) Going with someone
Everyone seems to have a different perception and I truly believe that is where some problems arise when developing a relationship.
I may be way off base, but here are my thoughts:
1) Meeting - the first time two people actually meet face to face. Depending upon the length of the first meeting, this could also describe the second occurance.
2) Dating - Webster's defines dating as: "to have social engagements with" or "to date persons of the opposite sex". To me, that in no way suggests any type of commitment. You can be dating one or four people.
3) Seeing someone - personally, I think that could be the period between dating someone and dating exclusively....things are going well, and you've become more serious, but just haven't taken the final plunge. You've both pretty well stopped dating anyone else.
4)Dating exclusively - Exactly what it says! Not meeting or dating anyone but each other. This must be discussed and established with each other - NO assumptions!
5) Going steady - Same as dating exclusively. I think that this term is more for the teenagers and early twentysomethings.
6) Friends with benefits - Two people that have a friendship/bond and can also have a physical relationship with no strings or expectations. Once one of the parties become seriously involved with someone, the "benefits" stop immediately; and, possibly the friendship - which is unfortunate. If the sexual attraction is too strong, then the bond they have needs to be severed also.
7) Going with someone - Same as dating exclusively.
It will be interesting to see how others view these terms and any others that are being used. I think that we will find why people can be so confused and why misunderstandings happen!
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| Nov 20, 2005 @ 9:55 PM |
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danae74
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I love your definitions, blue! It's hard sometimes to communicate these things to other people. Now, if only we can make your version the Official Standardized version, there'll be a lot less confusion!
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 1:16 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Thanks, Danae!!! My luck, someone has taken off with the concept and is meeting with a copyright attorney as we speak!!! 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 4:29 PM |
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lecriveuse
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very good, eyes. i've just always had a problem with the "friends with benefits". i have lots of friends n i'm not doing them. does that constitute being lovers? but that has a romantic conotation, doesn't it?
guess i'll just read the "frez w/b" n cringe. 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 4:50 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Hmmmmmm.....forgot:
Friends: someone that you have known for a short or long period of time that is of either sex. There is no intimacy only friendship.
Lovers: Not sure on this one......Possibly someone that you have an intimate relationship with but 1) for whatever reason, there may not be a friendship or bond with OR 2) due to circumstances such as not wanting to involve children or family, you are lovers??? The term lovers almost has a privacy or secretivness to it.
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 5:58 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Wonderfully detailed explanations, eyes! I can see you’ve given this subject the attention is so rightfully deserves.
I try to keep it simple and go by just two dating definitions: I’m either dating someone or in an exclusive relationship. Unfortunately, no current prospects with the former and by being on here, obviously not in the latter (sigh).
Have to mention that whole friend with benefits thing. I’ve had at least three women tell me they have/had relationships like that. Guess men aren't the only ones in it for the sex, eh?...lol (Btw, where are these women????  )
Amazing it can be done at all, but I don’t have a clue how, since it would be awfully hard (pardon the pun) to personally keep my emotions in check and not want those silly strings of feeling attached. Oh well, I’ve been celibate for way too long, so a friend with that kind of benefit looks soooooooooo tempting. 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 7:52 PM |
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lecriveuse
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i dont know where they r, motown, but i wish they'd hang out a sign so horndogs can find them. 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 10:57 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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And the sign said ya got to have a membership card to get inside, hooooah...HORNDOGS UNITE My 6 mth schedule is up and Im getting MEAN
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 11:04 PM |
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MotownManiax
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lecri and ruready!
I was thinking about renting one of those walking billboards and parading around my condo complex with the sign saying, "Horny as SIN, willing to have SEX for FREE!". Of course, donations are accepted.
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 11:17 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I think that would only put you in a place where you're being forced into having sex with someone you REALLY don't want to have sex with.
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 12:10 AM |
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peaches_n_cream2002
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When I went to college, there was suddenly a relationship definition I heard a lot that was "talking". I'd ask someone if they were dating so-and-so, and they'd reply with, "No, we're just talking right now."
What's with that?
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 12:13 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I don't know what that's about...I've heard the expression before too...I think it means something along the lines of."Oh I like him or he likes me but I'm too scared to take the next step or he's too scared to take the next step". Or it could mean..Oh, we're just friends..He has a wife. 
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 12:13 AM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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And the only time they werent talking was when they were "gettin busy"
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 12:16 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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Yeah..They may have their tounges down each others throats or he may be trying to get the bananna out of her p***y 
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 2:01 AM |
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DragonsDream
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 Banana? Ewww, visual I didn't want or need
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 2:23 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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LOL...I recently learned about banannas today...It kinda sounded cool....
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 5:15 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Did this Relationship definition start turning twards sex definitions? lol.
There is way to many definitions to relationships, guess I'm old fashioned and just like the simpleness of dating or not dating lol.
*AsH
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 10:40 AM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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To be or not to be
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| Nov 22, 2005 @ 12:31 PM |
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definitelydi
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What about "casual dating?" This could fall under "dating." To me, if one is dating there is the possibility of sex. If one wants to date without sex, then it's "casual dating."
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| Nov 23, 2005 @ 11:58 PM |
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lecriveuse
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i'd heard talking as dating when i was a teen.
u gotta have a gimmick, motown. some sort of cute colored g-string and they can yank tickets offa u. get some insurance n case u throw ur back out. 
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