| Sep 9, 2006 @ 3:59 PM |
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irisheagle
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Here's one mostly for the ladies, but think the guys might have some input too.
Most guys know that you get to a certain point in a date
or a relationship and the woman says "your so nice" and that's
it, you've become one of the nice guys she likes but do'nt see
a Relationship happening with.
My Question is:
Is the "GOOD GUY" status the same as the "NICE GUY" status?
What's everyones opinoin on this one?
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| Sep 9, 2006 @ 4:14 PM |
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Loreli
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Is the "GOOD GUY" status the same as the "NICE GUY" status?
Depends on the person saying it. If they do say it-ask them...
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| Sep 9, 2006 @ 10:01 PM |
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sissycat411
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To me, the Good Guy, Nice Guy.......is the one who doesnt ask me to take my clothes off......on the first date.....or the second, and maybe even the third....he wants to know who I am, before he ask to meet my partner......grin 
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| Sep 9, 2006 @ 10:09 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Women don't want a selfish and/or mean guy. They just want a guy who isn't a pushover. Nice guys are often pushovers and insecure, willing to do whatever it takes to try and get a woman to like them. The "nice guy" term is really a cop-out for guys who want to blame their relationship problems on women. Good guys are just nice guys who have a clue and actually behave like men. 
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 1:33 AM |
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sissycat411
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Good guys are just nice guys who have a clue and actually behave like men.
 now can someone explain that contradictory statement in terms I can understand it...
The "nice guy" term is really a cop-out for guys who want to blame their relationship problems on women.
And this one completely went over my head.. 
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 2:07 AM |
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sweet5red
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Women don't want a selfish and/or mean guy. They just want a guy who isn't a pushover. Nice guys are often pushovers and insecure, willing to do whatever it takes to try and get a woman to like them. The "nice guy" term is really a cop-out for guys who want to blame their relationship problems on women. Good guys are just nice guys who have a clue and actually behave like men.
yes what Tink said...  Sweet N Louisiana
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 2:32 AM |
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sissycat411
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"The Good Guy" is next to the "Great Guy"....the ones who have a conscious when it comes to having compassion, concern, commitment and caring ...in regards to how their actions, behaviors, words effect others.....and the "Nice Guy" is right there in the mix as well....the ones that are the real keepers
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 4:40 PM |
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Artemis122
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Maybe I'm "interpreting" your Question differently on a Zombie Monday and making it more difficult than a Math word problem --
I've never used the words 'Good Guy' only 'Nice Guy' in context of perceiving him as a Patient, Courteous, Conscientious type of Fella that I would like to know better... personally "One-on-One" away from the Crowds or the Cliques.....
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Nice guys are often pushovers and insecure, willing to do whatever it takes to try and get a woman to like them.
Nope. You are referring to wimps. Being nice has nothing to do with being a pushover unless you are both.
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 4:49 PM |
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sirdidymus
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Nice guys are often pushovers and insecure, willing to do whatever it takes to try and get a woman to like them. Nope. You are referring to wimps. Being nice has nothing to do with being a pushover unless you are both.
thank you
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 12:12 PM |
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BaronVonRobenstein
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how about the other side of the coin??..what usually happens,is that the nice/good/great guys are tossed aside for a bad guy type,who then proceeds to break her heart,run around on her,etc etc..seems like the better person is the one left in the dust....perhaps,if they knew that nice guys can actually be fun,adventerous,and are worth having?  ,they might reconsider the whole *bad boy* attraction?...naw..probably not 
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 12:22 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Women are nurturers by nature. When they meet a "bad boy" they see sort of a fixer-upper, someone who they can nurture back to goodness. Since the "good guy" is already there, they talk about wanting a good guy but the attraction isn't as strong.
Get it?
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 1:06 PM |
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sirdidymus
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too much generalization across the board, in my opinion
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 1:18 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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now can someone explain that contradictory statement in terms I can understand it...
I understood it..its my opinion and I`m stickin` to it..to each his/her own.. 
And this one completely went over my head so sorry..
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 3:51 PM |
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warrior674
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When they meet a "bad boy" they see sort of a fixer-upper, someone who they can nurture back to goodness.
That's pretty sad, because it never works. Those "bad boys" are always on COPS! 
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 3:55 PM |
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lj450
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True.....but at least they have their own theme song!!!!
"good boys, good boys, whatcha gonna do......"
nah....just doesnt flow.
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 4:19 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Those "bad boys" are always on COPS!
I don't like those "bad boys"....
I also don't look at a biker and say "omg bad boy" because...I really don't think just cos someone dresses in a lot of leather and rides a bike that makes him a "bad boy"
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 4:48 PM |
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irisheagle
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how about the other side of the coin??..what usually happens,is that the nice/good/great guys are tossed aside for a bad guy type,who then proceeds to break her heart,run around on her,etc etc..seems like the better person is the one left in the dust....perhaps,if they knew that nice guys can actually be fun,adventerous,and are worth having? ,they might reconsider the whole *bad boy* attraction?...
This was what i was thinking too.
But don't we wish..... they'd reconsider.. 
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| Sep 12, 2006 @ 8:07 PM |
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sissycat411
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Nice guys are often pushovers and insecure, willing to do whatever it takes to try and get a woman to like them. The "nice guy" term is really a cop-out for guys who want to blame their relationship problems on women. Good guys are just nice guys who have a clue and actually behave like men.
Nice guys are often pushovers and insecure, willing to do whatever it takes to try and get a woman to like them.
The "nice guy" term is really a cop-out for guys who want to blame their relationship problems on women.
Good guys are just nice guys who have a clue and actually behave like men.
To me, it just sounded like a totally contradictory....statement...left me some confused....
But I do agree with others.....The Nice Good Guy.....is the jewel
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| Sep 13, 2006 @ 11:53 AM |
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lilbikerchick
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I agree with Tink on the definition of nice guy. They're too eager to please, don't have their own opinions, and are usually very boring.
Nothing wrong with being a good guy though. I think it's an even balance. Thoughtful, considerate, fun to be around.
Not the same thing in my book.
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