| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:41 AM |
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3BearMom
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I've always thought there's way too much emphasis on behavioral stereotypes in this society.
Well from that last post if I was into stereotyping people on their base behavior I know where I would place Mo and it is not on my Keeper list - not that he would want me on his either. 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 11:08 AM |
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MotownManiax
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I wasn't singling you out, bearmom.  My original post was a general reaction to hundreds of posts I've read throughout these forums over the past few months. My post just happened to follow yours. No hard feelings.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 11:32 AM |
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3BearMom
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Mo no hard feelings -- you are who you are and entitled to your thoughts and feelings about life as it affects you. -- all is good no offence taken and I hope none given.
3bm
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 2:24 PM |
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irisheagle
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I started Thread cause i kept being called a "Good Guy"
but seeing How that's supposedly better than Mr. Nice Guy
i got confused. To me, the Nice Guy is a wimp in certain respects
cause as most of you have said he is a "yes" man.
And yet being a Good guy doesn't seem to get me any
more dates or consideration then if i was mr. nice guy.
With the way things seem to be going lately i wonder
if i shouldn't just become an a$$hole(aka:bad boy).  
maybe they'd flock to my door then.. 
Sorry just blows me away, as we get older, we tend to
forget the days when Girl meets boy, girl likes boy,boy likes girl,
Go out, have fun, become one.
it was so Much simpler when we were young, now everybodys
Got these standards or lists they go by.
do i have one? yea, it's called going with my feelings and
my heart...
oh well, Just another day.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 2:45 PM |
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wiccked
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well, this is all i can come up with!!! i want a GOOD guy when we are out in public and a VERY BAD BOY in the bedroom!!!!!!  'nuff said!!!!!
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 3:15 PM |
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[Edited on 9/16/2006 3:19 PM]
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 3:19 PM |
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duwant1
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A VERY BAD BOY in the bedroom!!!!!! 'nuff said!!!!!
Oh, someone is asking for a spankin'!
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 3:27 PM |
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not real sure of the answer bout the good guy thing but i know when some1 tells me>>>>>>>>you r so sweet............your so nice and so forth it usaully last i hear from them
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 5:31 PM |
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CaNaturalBlonde
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yea, it's called going with my feelings and
my heart...
Irish, there's nothing wrong with that. Just keep doing what you're doing! 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 5:56 PM |
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irisheagle
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Irish, there's nothing wrong with that. Just keep doing what you're doing
It's NOT working, hasn't been for awhile.
so why keep beating a dead horse as they say.
seems silly to keep doing something if it's not working.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 6:15 PM |
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3BearMom
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Irish
I am with Cat going with your heart and feelings is always the best way to go as long as your feelings are not just pure lust then that is a whole other matter.
Lust is great don’t get me wrong I am all for lust and all that comes with it, but not for building a lasting relationship on, lust is momentary and fades all too fast. If you don’t have something else something deeper a connection of the heart to fall back on then there is nothing to keep the relationship going.
If you feel this way beating a dead horse as they say. seems silly to keep doing something if it's not working. then you might change who you are doing it with or the type of woman you are choosing to spend your time with. That may be your problem.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 6:25 PM |
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CaNaturalBlonde
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Irish, BearMom is right, any woman who doesn't appreciate your heart and feelings isn't the right woman for you. Just a lil hint tho, don't come on too strong in the beginning. It kinda scares us women who have a big wall around our heart. It may not seem fair, but it's the way it is. Just go slow and be who you are and that wall will disappear. 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 6:27 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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It's usually like if a guy tells me "you're so cute"
It makes me want to punch the shit out of him.
Cute is what puppies, kittens, and babies are. I am not a puppy, kitten, or a baby. I'm a woman. If they call me cute, they usually don't hear from me again.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 6:29 PM |
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CaNaturalBlonde
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It makes me want to punch the shit out of him.
YIKES!!!!! 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 6:31 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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It does. LOL.
If he can't think of anything to say about my looks, but cute, there's no reason for me to continue corresponding with him. As I said, I'm not a child, or a baby animal.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 6:43 PM |
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irisheagle
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I'm sorry, to me Lust doesn't even enter the equation in my book.
not for anything lasting anyway. i am a very deep and passionate
person when it comes to relationships, looking into her eyes
and just holding hands is more meaningful to me than any
act of sex can provide. now don't get me wrong, yea i like that
too, but in my experience and like you say, there has to be
more to it then just that. but at the same time i love touching,
and carressing, and i actaully have run across some that
don't find that as appealing as i do. That's when i hear the
"i need some space" comment, so those are usually the
ones i try to avoid as well. i kind of get that out of the way right
off the bat before i invest much more to something that won't work.
JEEZ i sound like a salesman,
Sorry, but that is just a little how i see it i guess.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 7:11 PM |
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3BearMom
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Irish
You are a one in a million in my book and I like the way you think about a relationship. I like it when a guy just holds my hands and looking into my eyes and doesn’t pressure for sex. I love to touch too and hug and snuggle and cuddle but in my book that doesn’t have to lead to a marathon night of sex it is good all on its own.
Like I said before you are just going out with the wrong women if they can not appreciate you then there is something very wrong with them. Something missing in them that all the men in the world with not fill up or fix and you are better off without them.
Oh and being called cute is not offensive in my book much better than being told I am sexy or glamorous -- I am neither of those things
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 7:15 PM |
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irisheagle
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it's funny you say that
i get that comment even from those
not sticking around so i just don't get it.
But thank you Bearmom
maybe i'll just keep on keepin on.
at least i have persistance on my
side. Never give up, is my motto...
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 8:23 PM |
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DoorWatcher
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Last week, I had a totally Good Guy tell me that Patience was a Virtue.....wanna talk about cast-off?????
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 8:33 PM |
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irisheagle
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Oh and being called cute is not offensive in my book much better than being told I am sexy or glamorous -- I am neither of those things IMO....Fortunately....That's in the eyes of the beholder.
You may Not think so but i know that someone does think
you are possibly Both. Your a Lovely woman,
so don't short change yourself.
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