| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:19 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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This question is for the guys. When you ask someone out on a date, do you have an idea of where you would like to take her that would make her want a second date? (and NO we are not talking about BED!!)...lol
I find that many dates are the typical dinner and a movie and I guess I'm waiting for someone to come along with his own original idea for a great date....a picnic lunch, a walk hand and hand, visit an art museum or just having fun like putt putt golf or bowling.
I know that my dates want to do something fun but seems that the decision is always left up to me and it would be nice to have him already have plans for the evening. Then it's so sweet that he actually thought about "romancing you". 
I know that I probably should come up with ideas but guess I'm looking for someone who takes the lead....
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:36 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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it has been a while since my last date but i do remember that it was not a typical dinner and a movie date. i base a date on what the other person's ideas and then plan. sometimes a date can be a walk in the park, chatting somewhere, dinner, lunch, a movie, at a resort...whatever works.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:40 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Lady hawk I think you are right in some respects. Many time when guys leave it up to you to decide on where to go it is because of a lack of communication. Assuming you guys spoke in depth before embarking on the actual adventure of going on a date. This is just my opinion of course but after talking to someone for a while I can pretty much get a sense of what they like and what they may have no interest in. Now as far as i am concerned, my main objective is to get together with you and talk. Talk about everything that concerns me or you. In an effort to better know who you are as a person and whether or not we will even get along. I am going to quote something that Pete Said over a year ago. "Get to the meat and potatoes" of the relationship. If it were me, I would set a date where i would spend all day doing everything which would give us a chance to better understand each other. At least we will know if we like and get along with each other. Dinner and a movie? On the first date? Naw not me. Unless you want to find a burger king somewhere. I'm would say I'm sorry but I am not at all. I am not about to drop 4bills on dinner and a movie with the idea of impressing someone only to find out that i dont even like them.
Now i'm sure there will be some guys who will attack this post saying all the right things. The right thing to me is the truth. as far as i am concerned the words player, bum, scam artist, sleeze, and so forth are not solely the proprietorships of the male gender. Thats just my take.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:43 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Tyranny, that's nice that you took the time to find things out that would please her.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:48 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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i may be a dipshit in the world of dating but at least i can do that much.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:50 PM |
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observed50
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In the day-to-day world of life, I've never asked a woman out who I hadn't know for some time in other settings, as a friend, and so we didn't have a 'first date' that had those challenges of 'dinner and a movie.' We'd go to he beach, or bike ride, or hiking, an art show or a ride in my convert with the top down to nowhere in particular.
In the world of internet dating, I've never met anyone in my local area for a 'date.' As a result, I've traveled. In traveling, the other party normally knows better what to do, where and why.
But twice, I've met somewhere between, which in both cases was for a day hike in a national or state forest. Both time, its was a city girl's coming out into the 'wild' to do something they always wanted to do, but never felt comfortable. Because I've learned over time a lot of the trees and plants in the Midwest forests, I enjoy the hiking both because of its slow pace, its exercise, its opportunity for talking, and because I know that if people know some of the world around them, they can enjoy it more and feel more comfortable in it.
In both cases, we had a fun day. Exhausted by the end. And fell into our own beds at the end. 
But they'll never forget the origins of the Jack-in-the-Pulpit wildflower! 
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:50 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Very true Silver and I can understand that. I don't expect men to be "mind readers". Guess I'm looking for "something off the beaten path"...lol
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:55 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Very nice Observed!! I'll meet you in Stone Mountain, GA...lol I always did want to go hiking.
P.S. I fish too 
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 4:57 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Many time when guys leave it up to you to decide on where to go it is because of a lack of communication. Assuming you guys spoke in depth before embarking on the actual adventure of going on a date. This is just my opinion of course but after talking to someone for a while I can pretty much get a sense of what they like and what they may have no interest in. <----------
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 5:10 PM |
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observed50
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Whoa! Stone Mountain?! Girl, I hope you know your southern flora cuz I don't know diddly about it! We'll need the Peterson Field Guides...or some other guide...
You got field glasses?
And I don't advise wearing no thongs...too much rubbing.
I mean...you know...flip flops! 
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 5:25 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Southern Flora consists of Pine trees, dogwood trees, magnolia trees of course, oak trees, some cedar trees, sassafrass trees, poison ivy....lol
Southern Fauna, Deer, bobcats, squirrels, rabbits, skunks (sometimes), coyotes, uhhh hawks lol.
Nope, no field glasses here or thongs...lol. Never been hiking actually. Sounds like a challenge.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 5:36 PM |
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nightrider3281
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when i am getting to know someone i like to get where it is quiet, a nice walk around the lake or sitting on a river bank, is awful nice to me
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 6:05 PM |
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SunBabe
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Never been hiking?  
Hie thee to the forest, DearLady! It's about time. (And a "guide" makes it all the more interesting)
Now I can't think of anything more boring than to go to a movie on a "first date". ~shudder~ To sit for hours next to a 'stranger'. Ick! (Even if dinner beforehand was delightful)
Dinner's ok, but that totally depends on the other person. For instance, I think it would be a blast to dress to the nines and DINE with someone like Silver, because I know we'd both be comfortable in that "role"...for fun. On the other hand, hot dogs and soulvaki and snow cones at a street fair is also on the same level...to me. It's about sharing interests and commonalities...in a setting where you can get to know the other person -- and they, you.
Of course this is all "theory", since I haven't "dated", per se (only "affairs", remember?)  But I have done "fun stuff" with guys...and to me, that's what it's all about -- and the more unconventional, the better. (Like the guy from California who invited me dancing...in Ft. Lauderdale. For a week.  Kind of foolish of me to spontaniously accept, but we had a great time, an "adventure" -- just for kicks)
"Adventures" -- that's what I think a "date" should be about. It could be something as simple as meeting for coffee at a bookstore, but I'd hope that the kind of guy I'm attracted to would introduce me to a new "daring" coffee flavor or pastry and pehaps a new author or genre...and we could talk and talk and talk. And laugh. Together.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 6:11 PM |
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razzired
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I posted something about this recently.
http://www.matchdoctor.com/thread_2_11041_1/Dating_Complaints_Pet_Peeves.html
I hate the ping pong game of "What do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?" "Oh, anything's fine with me, what do you want to do?"
The men who responded seemed to think they were actually being thoughtful by not having a specific invitation in mind. Go figure.
Personally, I'd still rather respond to an invitation that includes more than "Wanna do something Friday night?"
MJ
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 6:16 PM |
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Ladyhawk920
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Yes SunBabe, See what I'm missing??? lol. I'm not a "girly girl" either. I'm not afraid of the outdoors since I use to hunt with my father. One of my fondest memories is walking thru the woods with my younger brother....we were "Bestest Buddies" and we would get lost on purpose only to find our way back somehow.
I just love nature and once was sitting on a dirt road, on a bridge fishing, and I looked up to realize a young deer was so curious that it came close to me just to check me out. It was AWESOME.....
I have had similar experiences since with deer....they are so curious and beautiful. Guess that's why I don't hunt anymore
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 6:29 PM |
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observed50
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Lady> Its a good thing you know yer plants, cuz I taste a lot of em, and I'd hate to bite into anything that might make me, well, do something icky.... 
I wanna see some of that Kudzu growing..we can sit a while and see if we can measure its growth. Its supposed to be real fast.
And congrats on the deer. I have friends who each have pics of them or someone in their family, sitting on the ground against a tree, covered lightly in snow, deer rifle cradled in arm, sleeping, with a deer sniffing at them. Coolest thing. When I lived in the canyons above Santa Barbara, we use to have deer come up within 5 feet or so and watch us while sitting eating breakfast on the pad. It was way cool.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 7:30 PM |
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johnw_6
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Firstly, if I was really good at this I might not be on this site but I’ve always thought it should be specific to the girl I’ve asked out. However more importantly is that she should be the most important attraction there.
What do I mean by that? Mmmmmm I have in the past considered comedy clubs, movies, bands etc but these are just events that prevent you from getting to know each other. You could have a great time there but that isn’t the real purpose of the date. Your goal should be her.
With this goal in mind the date should be specific to her whether it’s mini-golf, dinner, Modern Art gallery etc etc. what I try to do is find something which will lighten the conversation and make the date flow effortlessly by putting her at ease thus also myself.
So to recap:
Comedy club ---> more interested in the guy on stage or time talk time.
Movies---->are you sure it’s her your talking to in the dark? Lol
Bands----->she might get lost or run off with the band?
Mini-golf= not typical/ fun/ playful(I like)
Dinner= typical yet good talking time, low pressure
Modern Art= not typical/ artistic?/ could be fun/intellectual?
Don’t go overboard as it’s the first date and you don’t want to add pressure. Besides the second date is more important.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 8:29 PM |
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Jankia
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This will proboly sound strange but I dont ask someone out unless I have something to do that I dont want to do alone.If there is a good movie coming up or a special at a diner,or maybe a local festival. a museum or a music event I ask them out see if they want to attend one of them with me.
So yes,I have an idea before asking.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 8:35 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I've done dinner and a movie....but I've also done...
dinner and concert
meet at a good local bar for drinks and maybe dancing
picnic in a nice park
apple cider mill
nature walk
garage sale
comedy club
dinner and a play
football, baseball, basketball, etc. game
dinner and bowling
winery tour
coffee shop/bookstore
....if I can think of anymore I'll add 'em.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 8:44 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Appetizers and backgammon
Coffee and chess
Walking tour
Botanical gardens
Zoo
Pants cutting party (ya had to be there)
The pants cutting party was the best one...dressed as a gay 90's fireman with a handlebar mustache.
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