| Sep 18, 2006 @ 4:13 AM |
Help? It;s me here about myself earl, wanting advice
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Earl47
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As some of you know, recently when the advanced BB code came available through Matchdoctor. I first got Sunny to teach me a favorite font i liked, then was told how i could hold images without the use of my ftp, so i put in some sigs, , one was of me, and the other was one of janet40 that myself and her were very good friends back then, she was 32 back then so she should be sround 36 right now, and somehow she is just as beautiful now as she was back in year 2000.
Well, i added in some of my sigs i made for people back then, and it dawned on me, i had not emailes janet for nearly 3 years!!! So i emailed her, and she said earl give me a call!!! I called her, and my heart dropped on the floor, she xplained how she still lived at Lakewood yacht club, only 12 miles from my neighborhood, and said, hey earl, let's do some seroius cooking, and eat out on my patio, it's the perect night for it. Well i did, and oh the food was great!!! Then she is a the upfront type, she looked me in the eye with her blue eyes, and said earl, don't you know i have loved you all these years!!! I was surprised, i said me??? janet??, then i said well one thing is for certain, you are a loveable woman and sincere!!!
Since then, i have, seen her 3 times, and eaxh times her eyes get glossy and sad, when i say, well i better go janet..This 3rd time we saw eack other a tear rolled down one of her pretty blue eyes, and she kissed me goodnight, but pulled me hard hard up against her.
My friends, i was scared for awhile, but i can't fight it anymore, i want this woman!!! She's so loving and brilliant and kevel headed and positive, and i think she's one of the most beautiful woman i have ever met!!!!..I'll put our teo photos underneath, and see if you all, thinkmaybe we're right for each other...Earl
Gosh i love her
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 5:22 AM |
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mailorderannie
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So Earl...what's the PROBLEM? If you two love each other, why aren't you with her?
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 6:11 AM |
Help? It;s me here about myself earl, wanting advice
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Earl47
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Annie, i just want to be sure, and she owns her own condominium at lakewood yacht club and i have a payed for 75k house in a nice neighbornorhood, now i could let my daughter perhaps, just keep up the property taxes and untilities as she lives with me, or Janet could live here..But Annie, moving too fast is not the answer. If we have true love and after 4 months, our 3 date a week, keeps that same love, Earl will be an engaged little boy....You're a good woman Annie>>>>Earl
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 6:21 AM |
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mailorderannie
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Well, stop jumping ahead worrying about the property...who will live where and all that stuff. Just enjoy each other and let it all fall into place.
Yes, I am a good woman...tell all your single guy friends! 
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 7:03 AM |
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sciurusniger
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Gosh, what advice is there to give? Just enjoy being together and the rest of it will work out when the time is right.
Congrats!
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 7:24 AM |
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Earl47
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hank you very very much Sciurusniger, i appreciate your caring. Annie, it's not just the property, as my daughter could keep up the yearly taxex and untilities and homeowners insurance, or if she did not wish to stay her later i could rent it, or vise versa janet could rent her place. See Anniie in Houston realeaste is getting very very very high!! And Annie, i don't want to ever have housepayments again, and janet agreess on that issue as well.
I just don't want to move in this relationship too quickly is what i mean, see even though i knew janet basically daily on the internet at the time from 1998 to mid year 2000, we never actaully met in person, so inotherwords Annie i have known janet physically, for what 2 weeks?? If love is meant and is real, to see one another 3 times a week over a six month period, means that love is real, and not a rebound type, or simply of lonliness, and you never know all about a person until you are around them for a bit, i am glad you responded to this topic, because i consider you to be wise, and i hope more than anything it works for myself and janet, and i honestly think it will. But a wee more time, is all i want, not to try out other women, but simply, to make sure it is a love that will last....earl
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 9:05 AM |
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Loreli
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good for you, earl! i wish you all the best!
just enjoy her, and see where it goes! 
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 9:23 AM |
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Earl47
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Loreli, thank you, that means alot to me. One thing i have never understood though, why are the nice good women like you single??? I can tell just by your logical, along with caring attitude and versatile in positive ways, you would make a great wife!!! .....I hope when and if i marry Janet, y'all folks don't mind me still having fun the forums?? I should be able to, sort of like, i want janet to keep her friends if or after i marry her, and i know she will be loyal, because she understnds the logic concept, of what is love with sex with out love??? Earl
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 10:32 AM |
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sciurusniger
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Earl, while it's not a bad thing to consider all the ramifications of blending two lives together, it's still very early in your real-time relationship with this woman to put more than a moment's thought to them. As you've noted, there are ways around two people owning their own residences, and there are a gazillion other such things that will need to be resolved...eventually. And with the right person, it's not that big of a deal.
Right now, all you need to do is focus on spending time with her and getting to really know her. See what happens, see how your feelings grow and develop over the next few months.
Then you will know. One way or the other.
"A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life."
~ Richard Bach
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 10:42 AM |
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SensualGemini
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... One of two things seems to be happening; either you are full of it, or you need to back off the estrogen. Well, there is something about leading a horse to water, but nevertheless; Earl, are you truly an idiot? ... You are on here typing, when the yacht club is 12 miles away.
Have a perfect life! ... Dave
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 10:43 AM |
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MotownManiax
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 Sheesh, Earl, you're psychoanalyzing this way too much. If you want to be with her and see how things develop, do it. Don't be afraid of failure. If things don't work out at least you'd know and can move on.
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 10:47 AM |
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Loreli
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oh earl-that was very sweet...some of us are single because we haven't met that "one" that we look forward to spending all and the rest of our life with....yet.
and your involvement in the forums would be missed...so i hope it all works out, you get the best of both worlds-a great wife and good friends!
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 11:02 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Best of luck to you Earl...your a very sweet guy and you deserve only the best..
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 2:34 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Earl, since you said you knew her for so long, I assumed you had met. Now that you posted that you only just met in person, I agree SLOW DOWN.
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 2:59 PM |
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sweet_n_small1
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A day at a time is a good way to go for a bit. If it is meant to be, it will happen. If you rush too much, it could have exactly the opposite effect you are hoping for. Best of luck!
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 3:23 PM |
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johnw_6
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she looked me in the eye with her blue eyes, and said earl, don't you know i have loved you all these years!!! I was surprised, i said me??? janet??, then i said well one thing is for certain, you are a loveable woman and sincere!!!
Earl, you have much to learn young grasshopper.
"well"
"lovable"
"sincere"
is it really what you'd expect to hear if you were first to say you loved her? and you made her cry:-(
Ok Ok Ok we live and learn. Earl, you only have one life so do what your heart tells you. (easy to say mate I know)
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 4:19 PM |
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WhiteRose1952
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Earl, I have to agree with Mo ...Also let things happen naturally...I also agree with Lorili (oops Please forgive spelling Lorili) and I also agree with some of the other Ladies on this thread for the ones that are saying the postitive that is...
I also want to say Something also to some of You that are JUMPING onto Earl ..I do NOT APPRECIATE that at all...He did not start this Thread to be JUMPED ON or ATTACKED ...sorry if those 2 words are TOO Strong though that is how I took it for when I have read everything that Everyone has written ....He simply thought this thru and has for sometime...also was thinking "Humm do I darn go onto the forum an ask this??" These are just some thoughts that have been going thru him mind and thoughts and his feelings and emotions all rolled into one that finally He felt HE NEEDED to sound off and He felt that okay maybe I could and maybe I should and so now he has...He is only using this Thread as a "Sounding board" and to also get some different "insights" ..NOT TO BE JUMPED ON OR ATTACKED....
Do I know EARL?...YES ....Have I met EARL? YES...Haven't met in Person as one usually meets ...Though EARL & I know one another like no other...I will not go into that Part....and since I have mentioned this part of it ...To the one that commented back and commented in the way of attacking EARL about He feels about his Dad..STOP THAT and HOW DARN YOU DO THAT? This Thread again is that intended for that nor was meant for that....For the Person who did that..I know I talk about My Folks and alot of People do ..Granted Yes they are in HEAVEN and to keep their Spirits alive and such YES WE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT OUR PARENTS OR PARENT ....Geez that was so not noly wrong it was Rude...Again I'm not trying to Start a Fight or a Word Fight ..I just do not want this THREAD to be turned into an ugly word fight for which this THREAD WAS NOT FOR THAT PURPOSE!!!!!!
I am EARL'S Friend and I will ALWAYS be EARL'S Friend...no one can change that except Him and I and I do not believe WE are going to do that...
So if a Person cannot inject something in a more of a good way or even if it's in a not so good way form the words in a way that it's not ATTACKING or could be taken that way...
EARL is only again "AIRING" OUT His feelinga and emothions and such about someone that He really cares about ..So what if it's only 2 weeks to know someone in person...He's know her for alot longer than that and He just wants to be sure...Though to be sure and to Know someone well Earl Sweetheart that will take a life time and so "why not take the time to Enjoy each and every time that You have together and also think about getting together more times than 3 if that's possible though no one knows either Your schedule or her's and that's for the 2 of You to decide...Not for Us here on MD...For Us here on MD We are only here to help in a FRIENDLY KIND THOUGHTFUL WAY ...
   For Me I am Very Proud of You to even take that "LEAP OF FAITH" to jump into making a THREAD of something that Means alot to YOU and JANET...and to the one also that said He shouldn't have posted her Picture on here and that it was wrong...well to that person that said that ..Go back and read some of his other posts where he posted her picture and He so stated that He had talked to her and that She knows that He did and He said She didn't mind if He did..and too if You Care and Love someone naturally You want to show that person off, and You want to Yell and Shout and what's wrong with that ..NOTHING AT ALL...
EARL ,,,Hugs to You , I wish You all the Best that Life can offer in the Relationship of what a Man and a Lady want to have together... Of course this is Your decision and Janet's decision on whether after Marriage to keep coming back to the Forums..Me Personally if the 2 of You do it should Be the 2 of coming back Together not separatly...just do it together would be the BEST way...though again that's between You and Janet...I want You to be Happy and to have that Wonderful feeling and everything that comes with it for when 2 People are in Love...May "GOD" so fully Bless the 2 of You!!!! Your Friend *WhiteRose*
P.S. I said I had read the whole Thread ..Well , as I have been typing this I'm sure others have posted ..for those I haven't read until I get back to the Thread..Again EARL just enjoy the time NOW and Each Time Together and start thinking of getting more time together..just a thought that's all .Also I forgot to add that to the one that said he must be a Teenager...NO HE"S NOT ..Again geez the strange odd ideas some people come too for those all I cay say is "My "PRAYERS" go out to You"...Again Folks Let's Be nice, caring and give out some good suggestions and thoughts and ideas and maybe some that he hasn't thought of..Right?? Hugs to Ya Friend, Your Friend "WhiteRose"
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 6:11 PM |
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Earl47
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White Rose thank you very much for claryfying what i wanted people to know as far as how i feel about this. Everyone one of you has been kind and understanding to me on this issue, except for the narrow minded man above that said i was either an idiot or needed less estrogen and more testosterone, inotherwords i guess he thingks if a woman hugs a man and had tears of joy, that means she is some piece of meat, i dislike men like that.
Sure janet will receive sexual intimacy, but her tight hug and teary pretty blue eyes were that of happiness, i'm smart enough to know when a woman needs her physical needs, but in this sistuation meaning our last 3 get togethers, it was her that wanted to share and be heard by a man she said was me, that would listen to her,
I intend on spending the night at her condo this Wednesday........Earl
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 8:30 PM |
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daisy315
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sheeesh... I didn't notice anyone attacking Earl... sounded to me like they were just giving good , sound advice.. sounds like to me someone has their undies in a wad
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 8:33 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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undie check......good to go. play ball.
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