| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:06 AM |
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sjpinatl
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How long were you married before you felt it probably would not last. I know it sometimes drags on a long time after that, but I'm wondering how long it took for the signs to become clear that it was not a good marriage?
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:09 AM |
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doncasto
Posts: 270
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I have to admit to being a little slow on the uptake . . .I first began seriously wondering at the rehersal dinner . . . 
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:09 AM |
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SunBabe
Posts: 12,279
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About 25 or 30 years. 
So, I guess for the most part it was a "good marriage". I just wanted it to be a better marriage and even better retirement. It wasn't going to happen -- so I made things change in a different direction.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:12 AM |
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spongebob777
Posts: 7,904
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I wasn't sure it was the right thing to do before I got married. 6 months later I was divorced.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:12 AM |
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daisy315
Posts: 4,946
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I kinda figured it was gonna be rough when my oldest stepson showed his ass in the church and had to be physically removed.... 
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:17 AM |
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kattsmeow
Posts: 22,629
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Around 12 years.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:19 AM |
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Dovestreasure
Posts: 3,419
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My divorce was so long ago , but I had doubts early on, but did love him and thought we could work through what ever came our way. When I was pregnant and drugs were now the center of his universe I knew this was the beginning of the end.He had to make a choice after our baby was born. He chose drugs over his family.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:26 AM |
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SunBabe
Posts: 12,279
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Daisy, now THAT was kind of a hint...for SURE!
Ouch!
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 1:25 AM |
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daisy315
Posts: 4,946
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yup Sunshine.. I shoulda turned and run... but my damn dress was too long...lol.. next week will be our 18 wedding anniversary.. I haven't seen him in almost 6 years... I hear he is shacked up with the town whore.. and messed up on crack now... and his momma didn't think I was good enough for him...
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 8:41 AM |
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Jankia
Posts: 11,909
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I just had a conversation the other day with the bestman at my wedding when he reminded me what I had said to him the morning of my wedding, that I didnt expect to be married for very long.
She was supposedly on the pill but obviously got pregnant for her own reasons.A few weeks before the wedding she wouldnt sign a prenup so I told her there wouldnt be any marriage.
She signed,we married,divorced seven years later after my brother caught her with another guy.
She just married her fourth soon to be poor boy last month.
Moral of the story?
Theres only one reason for getting married...Love.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 8:57 AM |
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Earl47
Posts: 1,552
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In my case it was after about 20 years,.....Earl
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 10:29 AM |
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observed50
Posts: 407
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A little over two years before separating, my wife started saying things like "I am going to leave unless we get things figured out." Issues that had plagued us since dating in high school, so that was after 8 years of dating off and on, and almost 5.5 yrs of marriage. She wouldn't agree to counseling, so we were sorta stuck, because we weren't seeing some important things in similar ways.
My mother's death 6.5 years into marriage, shook the tree, and brought me to ask questions of myself and my path I hadn't asked in a long time. By 7.5, after 8 months of counseling after I split, we moved into divorce proceedings. By the time she finally agreed to counseling, the energies were wickedly wrong for healing.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 10:35 AM |
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Danger
Posts: 1,246
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i had thoughts before we even got married. we broke up...but got back together. nothing was ever fun when we did things. once we were married, it took me 9 years to get up enough nerve to leave. i always thought HE was right when he would tell me i was a worthless piece of poop, that the world would be a much better place with out me in it...and some other nice things. after awhile you start to think the person saying this is right...all i needed was one extra heavy 'push' to get off that pot...and he managed to do that.
since being divorced i have been soooo much happier and not living in fear all the time.
ok, rambled enough...back to your regularly scheduled program.. 
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:12 PM |
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candylily
Posts: 1,347
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I probably shouldn't have gotten married to begin with, but it seemed like the right plan at the time. I thought about leaving on our first anniversary and lots of times afterwards, but the crystal clear moment of truth was when I told him that the doctor was going to do another endoscopy but this time he was also going to do a biopsy for throat cancer. The doctor thought that's what he was going to find because of the erosions in my throat that hadn't responded to any of the medicine he was giving me. I went to the library and looked it up and found out that if you have throat cancer and it has gone past the top layer, you only have about a 6-month life expectancy. I was scared and didn't even tell my husband for a couple days. When I did, he looked at me cold as ice and told me everyone has to die sometime.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:19 PM |
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ynot77
Posts: 453
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DAMN!! what a bastard.....amazing the stories i read and or hear thou from woman and their past marriages.....and these stories ...they're are soo many like it and some from the men just as bad...no wonder i'm picky n unmarried?  
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:24 PM |
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ravensday
Posts: 388
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I am still not over the fact that I am getting a divorce. It has devestated me. My marriage did not fail becuase of anything we as a couple did wrong. It failed for other reasons. I wrote my story in the single parent thread under dating or someting like that of you want to know. I still love my husband but I think too much as happend for us to ever make it work again and for me to trust him. I would never have believed a couple years ago that we would be were we are now. We were so much in love, he always said we shared the same brain, heart and so on. We were one. Now we are broken. And I dont think all the kings horses and all the kings men will ever put us back together again. 
I moved to Texas and he is in Korea. I am moving on with my life. He is still stuck in his misery. I hope he is cured of the demons in his life and is able to move on and be able to the man he used to be.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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MotownManiax
Posts: 9,737
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 Never been married so I can't relate to all your "happy" memories of divorce.
Groom's shoes say "Help Me", btw. 
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 1:45 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
Posts: 18,615
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Love the cartoon Mo, hers should be saying the same thing!
I was 20 when I got married, and can fully appreciate the joke about the kid who knew it all at 18, and later said 'it's amazing how much my parents learned by the time I turned 21'...and I really was an exceptionally mature and intelligent 20 year old, honest. I just really needed to learn a bit more about people before making that huge leap of faith called marriage. My parents offered me a trip around the world not to marry him, and his mother pretty much agreed...but at 20, I knew better. Suffice to say, they were right.
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 2:51 PM |
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Angel54214
Posts: 18,201
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"Mo"... Was that you??
Hey! I wonder if her garter says STOP or DETOUR 
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| Sep 24, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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definitelydi
Posts: 12,602
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My wedding night. I burst into tears because I knew we were wrong.
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