| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:02 AM |
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Jackeys
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I went on my fourth date with this guy last night and things are
going smoothly so far but he asked me the dreaded question of
why am I still single. I was actually kind of stumped as to how
to answer that question or if I should answer it at all.
Why do people ask that question?
Anyway, I was curious as to why some of you think you're still single.
I know it's because I prefer it that way to a certain extent. I've tried
relationships and wouldn't mind getting into another one, but it's
not something I feel pressured to do. Of course I didn't tell him that.
I merely answered his question with his question and he said he was
still single basically because he doesn't trust women because he
feels we all lie, (like men don't) and he's afraid of being hurt. He
was honest but it just mostly sounded like he was a bit selfish
if you ask me.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:16 AM |
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Optimistic66
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A lot of reasons for me. First, I'm a single parent and have been raising my son who is now 15, for the past eight years. I don't get into the bar or clubbing scene to meet women. I work a regular 8 - 4:30 job, and I am about to begin a part time position sinse my son is older now and can do more on his own. So I guess my time is kind of limited. Another reason could be because I am involved in the music field. I am not an angry failed rock throwing musician. I have actually had success in the field but had to put it on hold because I needed to be there for my son, which was most important to me. On the other hand it could be that I'm just not interesting or good looking enough. I guess time will tell.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:20 AM |
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razzired
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I merely answered his question with his question and he said he was
still single basically because he doesn't trust women because he
feels we all lie, (like men don't) and he's afraid of being hurt.
Wow.....are you considering a fifth date with this guy?
I'll never understand why people respond in such a way that their answer can't help but reflect negatively on themselves. You know what an answer like that says to me? 1) He's not over his last relationship. 2) He won't trust me to tell him the truth. 3) He's waiting for and expecting the relationship to fail. Three strikes, you're out.
Me, I'm still single because I like being single and because I haven't met someone with whom I want to have an exclusive relationship. Yet. It could happen. Kentucky has a winning football record so far, so hey...anything's possible. I sorta hope it happens. It might be nice to find one guy who didn't get on my nerves after a few months. Right now, I'm okay with doing whatever strikes my fancy.
MJ - still shaking her head over the "all women lie" response
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:21 AM |
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lj450
Posts: 9,551
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Cuz Im a loser......whats your excuse?
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:26 AM |
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warrior674
Posts: 6,580
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I'm just a little shy. 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:27 AM |
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Strandedboarder
Posts: 440
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'Cause I've been waiting for a woman who's not down to earth, not low maintenance, and enjoys head games to come along.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:46 AM |
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jamminjerry
Posts: 4,085
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my reason? not one tall gal has said "well, ok. why not, it can't get any worse than it already is". 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 11:56 AM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,854
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OH Jerry..... 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:36 PM |
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beckyiv42000
Posts: 14,576
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Um maybe cause I am not gonna SETTLE this time.. I want it all love, intelligence ,LOYALTY, looks (this is in my eyes only type thing) etc etc etc... and well I can wait, I know hes out there somewhere and eventually we'll bump into each other ...not a big rush ... 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:37 PM |
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duwant1
Posts: 575
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Amen, Stranded!
I’ve found that the one who asks this question, usually, has a divorce logged under their belt.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:23 PM |
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Danger
Posts: 1,246
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I went on my fourth date with this guy last night and things are
going smoothly so far but he asked me the dreaded question of
why am I still single.
jackeys-this man may be asking in a good way, wondering why you haven't been swept off your feet yet...meaning you are special. i dont' think he meant it in a mean way or 'nosey' way...
but you always can tell him the truth that you haven't met the man that you've been looking for...
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:31 PM |
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sissycat411
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Since you asked.....I thought about it....
1..healing takes time...was not interested in jumping on the merry go round I saw so many folks doing. 2. was the single mom of three and they and job responsibilities came first, as that is what put a roof over all our heads; 3. Didn't cross paths with the one guy...I could see myself spending the rest of my life with; 4. Really wanted to relocate to another area, couldn't see my self living and dying here the rest of my life (most here have no idea there is a world out there); 5. Finding someone, available, attracted too, with mutual interest, locally, was near impossible and accurate (hence I'm still single) 6. was never needy enough to have just anyone in my life, that I would settle for less than I knew existed, in a possible long term relationship and commitment; 7. Didn't want another child to take care of.....(meaning like my ex) 8. It just hasn't happened yet....All healthy reasons.....to my way of thinking.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:53 PM |
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SunBabe
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he said he was still single basically because he doesn't trust women because he feels we all lie, (like men don't) and he's afraid of being hurt
~Shudder~ Red flag.
TWO of them:
-- because he doesn't trust women
-- because he feels we all lie
and a half...
-- afraid of being hurt
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:02 PM |
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donny3
Posts: 573
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because painter won't have me 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:04 PM |
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zulamaze
Posts: 1,266
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Better to be single than married to someone
that doesn't know you are alive.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:10 PM |
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IceDog
Posts: 153
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My reason; Cause I have not found that special person to sweep me off my feet.
The last relationship I was in the woman was to controlling always telling me what I should or should not do, advise is ok but she tried to control everything then get upset if I did not listen or take her so called advise.
So I guess there are many reasons why a lot of us are still single, we all have are stories to tell.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:13 PM |
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donny3
Posts: 573
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cause I am half bald and women don't dig that
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:57 PM |
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ravensday
Posts: 388
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Cause my husband left me for a fat 19 year old virgin!  Sucks to be him now, cause he wants me back.  Girlfriends parents got a little pissed when they found out that thier precious darling daughter was dating a married man who was lying about being married and made her quit seeing him.
So now his ass is in Korea whinning to me about the mistakes he made and how much he misses me....keep it up baby! Just keep sending my check each month! 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 4:03 PM |
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sweet5red
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cause I am half bald and women don't dig that donnie you know YOU are wrong on that.. and you know what i am talking about.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 4:05 PM |
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sweet5red
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and i am because i wont settle either.. but i know hes out there.. Sweet N Louisiana
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