| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:34 PM |
What is the deal about women and laughing?
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Deveray
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Sheesh, my eyes are blurry already from reading profiles the last few days (had some time off) here and another site. And soooooo many of them sound alike.
1. Walk on the beach, sunset - Duh
2. Dinner out - Is eating home that awful? Frozen veggies, microwave. Done
3. MOVIES - Does anyone read these days?
4. Sports "Go Browns" - Yes, women have become sports junkies too
5. Skiing, concerts, dancing - Is staying home really that awful? Maybe cuz they don't read.
6. Candlelight - Are they seeking men who think like women?
7. Open my doors - Why? Are you like four years old?
8. He should be tall (5-2 girls demanding men 5-10 - Ridiculous)
9. A professional (yah, they can even list minimum income, and do)
10. Should feel equally comfortable in blue jeans or a tux (supposed to WANT to wear a suit? Haha)
11. And make ME laugh! - You want funny husbands now?
I don't get it. Have we become so influenced by culture (movies, ya know, cuz they aren't reading) that now funny men are placed on the list higher than one who seeks wisdom, a man who prays, a man who treasures a lifetime of learning, an original thinker, one who knows about the world because of paying attention.
No way anyone can show me in history where women were seemingly addicted to laughter AND in pursuit of funny men. Shoot, even our obsession with smiling can not be found in photos from the turn of the century.
I bet it IS movies. Aside from laughing, watching movies (often while cuddling on the couch) gets next highest billing in the priorities of today's mate hunters.
Even without the funny husband part (mentioned by maybe 20 percent), I would say 75 percent note prominently how they "LOVE TO LAUGH," oftentimes in capitals just like that.
'Bout ready to hurl from hearing that phrase finally. The last motive for laughing is seeping from my bones for fear of sounding like one of them.
How did we become a nation or world addicted to this laughter phenomenon? What's so darn great about it anyway? Comedy clubs, romantic comedies, sitcoms, everything must be funny and fun.
Note: Exaggerations in response are unacceptable. Example - Woman says: "Well, who would want a guy who never smiles?"
Wrong, there is a giant valley between NEVER SMILING and talking about seeking a husband who makes one laugh and the self description of loving to laugh.
Alright, help me out, por favor. Help me either understand (and begin the process of trying to accept) reality or become reassured that women found on the internet may not be representative of the great majority of humans. Hoping so.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:38 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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aww didja wake up on the wrong side of the bed this mornin hon?? poor grumpy thing... ya need more sleep 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:50 PM |
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distressedjester
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BECKY! 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:56 PM |
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Loreli
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i didn't read the whole thing-sorry, but too long.
if we didn't have sports and romantic restaurants,beaches and sunsets, music and laughter, what the heck would there be to talk about?
reading isn't a couples sport.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 12:56 PM |
What is the deal about women and laughing?
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beckyiv42000
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yanno whats funny? on MY profile its does say *see if he can make me laugh* but thats because I mean hell WTF would wanna be around a grumpy person ..
hey DJ make me laugh k??
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:15 PM |
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Danger
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maybe women say that so we know that the person has a sence of humor and isn't a 'stiff' wanting to stay home all the time-homebody i think they call it?? if i wanted that, i wouldn't be looking for a man...
you look for someon to compliment your life and laughin is important in life....if you can't laugh...you can't live life to its fullest.
Note: Exaggerations in response are unacceptable. Example - Woman says: "Well, who would want a guy who never smiles?"
trust me, i was in a relationship recently where he hardly ever smiled or laughed...NOT good. he was always upset or tense about one thing or another...shoot enjoy life! SMILE!
I would say 75 percent note prominently how they "LOVE TO LAUGH," oftentimes in capitals just like that.
and if you would take time to read some of the mens profiles-they list most the same things..and laughing or having a good sense of humor is right on top of the list... 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:21 PM |
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SunBabe
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I don't get it. Have we become so influenced by culture (movies, ya know, cuz they aren't reading) that now funny men are placed on the list higher than one who seeks wisdom, a man who prays, a man who treasures a lifetime of learning, an original thinker, one who knows about the world because of paying attention.
I don't watch movies or TV (I read) nor have ever lived my life by their standards, but I can tell you right up front that all the thinking and learning and observing in the world is dull and boring, and even self-aggrandizing, if laughter isn't part of the mix.
The most brilliant and wisest man I've EVER known easily incorporated frivolity with his depth. He kept me in stitches (shared giggles and snickers and out and out ROFL's) til the day he died -- and even afterwards...and his outlook on life, despite the myriad of esoteric things packed in his brain, certainly kept him from being pedantic! -- A man with expertise in a half dozen fields who asked that his gravestone be etched with "Life's a kick!"
AND he always opened doors for me...both literally and metaphorically. 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:25 PM |
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Danger
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dang it sunny...i have to get my dictionary out again... 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:27 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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sunny 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:37 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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What is the deal about women and laughing?
Cause I like to laugh...and no one wants to be stuck with a Sour-puss...always a frown, never a smile.. 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:42 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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hmmi wonder if maybe they laugh and point ???? I know that would upset me if I was a guy 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 2:44 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:05 PM |
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Deveray
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DANGER wrote: you look for someon to compliment your life and laughin is important in life....if you can't laugh...you can't live life to its fullest. What you fail to realize is that I agree with you. I am in no way referring to someone who never laughs. What I AM questioning is this amazing preponderance of people TALKING about how they want and need to laugh.
In my experience, almost everyone alive anymore tries to say something funny about once every three sentences. It is as though we have become sitcom people. That includes men. Meaning, people ARE laughing nearly all the time. So WHAT is this notion to SAY how you want that?
trust me, i was in a relationship recently where he hardly ever smiled or laughed...NOT good. he was always upset or tense about one thing or another...shoot enjoy life! SMILE! That is what is known as anecdotal evidence. I once knew a guy who drank beer every night and beat his children. Therefore, all people who drink beer every night beat their children.
There is a reason why anecdotal evidence is inadmissable in court hearings.
I can show you a recent video of two guys sitting and laughing together during a conversation, really yucking it up. They were 911 hijackers. Therefore, funny men are murderers!!
I have no idea why you entered a relationship with a man who hardly ever laughed or smiled. Nothing I would do. Soooooo, why did you? Just wondering.
and if you would take time to read some of the mens profiles-they list most the same things..and laughing or having a good sense of humor is right on top of the list... Like I mentioned, we have become sitcom people. You tell me the men are similar. I say no wonder women feel free to (with the men) become happy airheads on caffeine.
Meanwhile, try to find hardly anyone outside the schools protesting or sitting during a city hall meeting, or even writing a letter to the editor. No, that would all be too serious. We wanna have fun... while the world goes where it has been going. We want our sports, our comedies, our dinners, our shiny cars and shoes.
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:08 PM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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I love my laugh lines and hell I earned every single one of them! 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:08 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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I say no wonder women feel free to (with the men) become happy airheads on caffeine.
excuse me???? I just was wondering what planet you are on??? since I doubt that ANY of the females on here are AIRHEADS ON CAFFEINE sheesh talk about generalizations 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:14 PM |
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Deveray
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SunBabe wrote:
I don't watch movies or TV (I read) nor have ever lived my life by their standards, but I can tell you right up front that all the thinking and learning and observing in the world is dull and boring, and even self-aggrandizing, if laughter isn't part of the mix. Okay, allow me to add something to your comment.
All the laughing and joking and having fun and tuning out in the world is dull and boring if nothing but joy and good times are part of the mix.
Get it?
It violated my first request, assuming that even I would desire to be around anyone who never laughed and played around. I suppose it assumes that I am such a person. The assumption would be wrong.
The most brilliant and wisest man I've EVER known easily incorporated frivolity with his depth. So I gues you are saying that if he were not a funny guy, your appreciation of him would have been noticably diminished? Even if he had the love, the tenderness, the unselfishness, the intelligence, the joy in being with you, yet WITHOUT keeping you in stitches, then the man would have been less in your view.
AND he always opened doors for me...both literally and metaphorically.
Quite easy to find men who will open doors for adult females. What is difficult is getting anyone to explain why the practice is expected.
You might be tempted to say it is a sign of respect (or plug in another admirable attribute). That can not be true, however, because failing to open the door would then mean a lack of respect. And the woman by failing to open HIS door would then be displaying that defined lack of respect.
And I still have not gotten my question answered. WHY are so many women telling people how much they love to laugh? Is there anyone left on earth who hasn't already noticed?
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:15 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I love my laugh lines and hell I earned every single one of them!
Me too...
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:17 PM |
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journeyfan0000
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AIRHEADS ON CAFFEINE
HEY !!! I resemble that remark.....j/k Whew, i see the claws coming out to catch this one----a real weiner, i mean winner no doubt about it. 
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:19 PM |
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razzired
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And I still have not gotten my question answered. WHY are so many women telling people how much they love to laugh? Is there anyone left on earth who hasn't already noticed?
In a nutshell, because to tell someone we're involved with [fill in the blank] political causes and enjoy a quiet evening sitting at home reading a book is not an attention grabber.
We only have words with which to present ourselves. We want to be seen as fun, happy, easy to be with people. When you include topics in your profile that are too serious, you run the risk of being seen only for that topic.
Why is that so difficult to understand?
We're all serious at times, not so serious at other times. Unless you're Jessica Simpson and you can make money because you're good at being stupid. It's not so unreasonable that we want to emphasize the positive light side and not come off heavy-handed.
Watch an episode or two of South Park, dude. And lighten up.
MJ - who can't believe she just said "dude."
[Edited on 10/6/2006 3:20 PM]
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| Oct 6, 2006 @ 3:19 PM |
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kattsmeow
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A good belly laugh is better than any meds you could take.
Guess I should go read my profile to see if I have anything in there about laughter.
Nope, guess I didn't ask for it huh?
[Edited on 10/6/2006 3:22 PM]
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