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Oct 16, 2006 @ 4:24 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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I don't know if I mean this as a joke myslf posting this but I feel i need to know since i saw pictures on internet where a lot of women looked like women from head up but then they have a surprising penis.

When you meet a girl out on a date, how do you know she doesn't have a surprise or had one at some point in time? basically how do you know if someone is historically genetically and currently female?

well ok i ramble i worked next to a sex genetics lab for a while and it's not just XX makes you female but the SRY gene as far as i remember. so someone can be XY but the Y doesn't have sry and they are female. well i only want to date XX females who doesn't have sry gene nor physically look like female upon close inspection.

[Edited on 10/16/2006 4:28 AM]
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 4:25 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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not that i want to discriminate. but aren't we prejudiced if we only date someone cause they have a particular gender?
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 4:27 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
jamminjerry


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excellent question! PAT was a paradox on those Saturaday nite live skits!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 8:46 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
Strandedboarder


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One of MatchDoctor's old essay questions was:
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another MatchDoctor.com member?

My answer was:
Have you been a female all your life?

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Oct 16, 2006 @ 8:46 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
razzired


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not that i want to discriminate. but aren't we prejudiced if we only date someone cause they have a particular gender?


Prejudiced? No.

If you only date people of the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

If you only date people of the same sex, you're homosexual.

If you date people of both sexes, you're bisexual.




MJ
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 9:44 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
DwainP50


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Viva le difference!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 10:10 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
definitelydi


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Good to see ya, Dwain!

How do I ask someone's gender? Uh...POINT BLANK!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 10:18 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
lj450


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Just look for the adams apple and try to "accidentally" bump your hand into her crotch during the evening.

I usually tell them.......Im not trying to play with it yet, I just want to make sure its something I might want to play with later......then lift their skirt up.
Most take it well.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 10:44 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
horselady9


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Not to take the question lightly, but it can lead to some difficult misunderstandings. The question of she-males is a difficult one to answer - particularly since it's a *fringe* question. And the more we understand about sexuality, the more we realize that it isn't simply black and white (or more specifically he and she). I've known a number of people in my life who frankly were somewhere in the middle - didn't make them any less valuable as friends, or as co-workers, but there was always that niggling question of whaaa?????

Frankly, unless you want to climb into bed with someone, what earthly difference does it make?

On the other hand, I have always been very much female - but I have a very deep voice thanks I suspect to a mother who was an alto and a father who was a bass. I've answered to 'Mr' since I was in my teens! It's always been a source of amusement when I've phoned a store or something, and have seen the bewilderment on the face of the person when I've arrived to pick up whatever I've ordered. They were expecting a man, and a little woman shows up. It never struck me that that would bleed over to my romantic life.

But it did! I'd been emailing a very nice and appealing guy, and we decided to talk on the phone. The first time he phoned, I answered, and he hung up. He called back a little later, and this time he hung on long enough for me to identify that it was me, and that I should probably have warned him about my voice. The first thing out of his mouth was 'I don't want anything to do with you people! I want a REAL woman'. And THEN he hung up again.

So what am I supposed to do? Walk around naked? Carry a dna-card that verifies my female genetic status? Explain not only the adam's apple thing but the elbow-angle,, and demonstrate both? Sheesh!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 11:12 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
IndigoRose


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quote: well i only want to date XX females who doesn't have sry gene nor physically look like female upon close inspection.

I don't understand but I haven't had my coffee yet...help me here... you want to find a female that DOES'NT look female? Or you are interested in a Transgenger male?


hmm sorry I'm reminded of a strip poker game I send to all my guy buddy's
everytime you win a hand the girl takes off a piece of clothing till she gets to her panties she turns coyly around then surprize it's the cutest little thing
I am so mean!!!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 11:36 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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I don't understand but I haven't had my coffee yet...help me here... you want to find a female that DOES'NT look female? Or you are interested in a Transgenger male?

Oh that means I want to date a woman who is genetically and phenotypically a woman. Like the stereotypical female they put in movies.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 11:38 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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I've answered to 'Mr' since I was in my teens! It's always been a source of amusement when I've phoned a store or something,

Oh I've been answered to as Miss or Ma'am throughout my teens.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 11:39 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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Prejudiced? No.

If you only date people of the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

If you only date people of the same sex, you're homosexual.

If you date people of both sexes, you're bisexual.

Yeah but isn't that still judging another human being not on their thoughts but on their privates? private parts i mean. that feels like prejudice in my mind. not sure.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 11:42 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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quote: well i only want to date XX females who doesn't have sry gene nor physically look like female upon close inspection.

I don't understand but I haven't had my coffee yet...help me here... you want to find a female that DOES'NT look female? Or you are interested in a Transgenger male?


Oh sorry, I might have misused 'nor'. I mean someone who is genetically, by birth, anatomically throughout her lifetime been female. and don't want to change to other genders.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 11:58 AM How do you ask someone's gender?    
razzired


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So, you're qualilfying a personal preference as a prejudice? Don't you think that's a bit harsh?

It would be prejudice if I thought my views (that I prefer having sex with men) was the only correct view. If I wanted to deny homosexuals or bisexuals the right to have sex with the partner of their choice because it didn't fit my definition of "right," I would be prejudiced.

The fact that I, personally, prefer my sexual partners to have a penis does not equal a prejudice.

Hopefully, you can see the difference.


MJ
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 12:04 PM How do you ask someone's gender?    
MrOriental2


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hm...maybe your right.

I remember there was this taoist monk who used to stare at turds all day. Hoping that he would get rid of all hates. all dislikes. the goal was so you become totally neutral even to the most repugnant of things. to be a better person without hate nor dislikes.
maybe alittle too extreme there?

or is it? lemme think for a bit.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 12:12 PM How do you ask someone's gender?    
IndigoRose


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When I was a bartender I used to stare at turds all day also

I am having a hard time taking you serious...might just be me!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 12:39 PM How do you ask someone's gender?    
Loreli


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The fact that I, personally, prefer my sexual partners to have a penis does not equal a prejudice

I'm with Razzi on this
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 1:44 PM How do you ask someone's gender?    
jamminjerry


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well, i have the opposite point of view of Razzi! i pick the vertical smile over that little one eyed critter every time!
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 2:08 PM How do you ask someone's gender?    
IndigoRose


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^^^Charming!
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